I have found, in my life, that it's not WHO can make you happy, it's ARE you the happy within yourself?
These people looking to be "completed" frighten me!! I am totally ok with being single..just because I'm on a dating site does NOT mean I NEED a man in my life...I enjoy people and "mingling", hearing others points of view and sharing experiences...it enlightens me. If along the way I happen to meet someone, all the better. I wish happiness for all who are members, but above all...seek within yourself for that happiness. *hugs*

Amen!!

i feel you im tryin get a pension from this place

I did.

Yes, I see the lawn chair.
The only thing in America you can count on to
find thrown to the curb.

I wholeheartedly agree!!

Water seeks it's own level'....'like attracts like'...clean up your own back yard before critising others.....etc etc etc...


I have a bit of a squirmy irritant with the whole 'happiness' thing...

it's fleeting....it's the opposite end of the spectrum from sad....happiness is not sustainable, especially when based on external stuff..ie, I'll be happy when I get a job....a new hat...shoes...etc etc...it's set and used as a benchmark, and is often delusional in the limitations created around it.


I find the sensation of contendedness....rather than the EMOTION of happiness...is acheivable, sustainable, and not reliant on benchmarks.


You are most correct in my world....of suggesting people look within to solve, create or sustain joy, rather than rely on another to provide it...

I feel all warm and fuzzy now.

I concur! It all starts with you (generally speaking).

It is a huge responsibility to place on another to make one happy/complete you (dislike that phrase), and not one that is realistic.

Love yourself before you introduce someone else into your "world".