Trust is very important factor for all relationships. When trust is
broken, it is the end of the relationships. Lack of trust leads to
suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may
result in seperation.

what about if you have a trust issue from prior relationships?

I would suggest that there is internal work for you then ... it doesn't
seem fair to ask someone new to pay for the sins of another.

Trust YOURSELF to handle whatever happens.

Agreed...BUT only if someone does something to break the trust...Trust
issues from other relationships should be dealt with before you get into
another one...It's yours to deal with...so why drag someone else into
your own issues!!!!!!!!

i only have one thing to say on this topic.


















duuuuuuuuuuhhhhhh!!!

frank, thanks for the new vocabulary word...I actually had to look it up
to see if it was real!

enmity: hostility: a state of deep-seated ill-will

Thanks, again!

Now that I think about it...I ahve felt that way from time to
time...

well that is why I must say I know I am young and inscure

Not trusting someone means that we do not have full confidence in them
and consequently we are not interested in pursuing a relationship with
them. Even if the circumstances dictate we need to spend some time in
their company, we might find ourselves very wary of them and limit how
we engage with them.



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is this you being nice to Frank ?

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another good topic, are you back up to speed ?

well trust is something that is a bit scary

i try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt

until they give me reason not to trust them

but that does not mean i would ask them to hold
on to 500 bucks for me

does that make any sense at all

thanks bonny, not fully but gradually

I have major trust issues... first of all when starting ANY type of
relationship (i.e. coworker, boss, friend, dating, etc...) I remind
myself this is not the same person that betrayed me before. They are
their own individual. Relationship wise - I have a hard time when a guy
"demands" (in my eyes) who a certain guy friend is... All I hear it is
"who is that person" and i say "a good friend" and then the conversation
goes into who is this good friend, etc... etc... I am always waiting
for the negative aspect.

I have paid another's debt...actually two others' debt...not at all a fun thing to do...in my case, I simply did not have the resources...no matter how much I wanted to fix her hurt...and I did not have what it took...

For when one expects "the next" to be able to fix something that "the last" left broken, sometimes it is just not possible...in my case...anytime

Sometimes I too, must step back, and look at the whole...what exactly was done or said to cause a disturbance within me...

The last thing that I want is to judge the future success of a relationship based on past mistakes made with someone who is no longer..

Thankfully...when this has happened recently, I have been able to hear words, without pre-determination, look at the whole of the person in doubt, compare all the knowns, and feel it obvious that I had almost backed up into the same cage of misunderstanding...and backing up is what it is...

It is possible for people to lock themselves in such an emotional cage that it simply is not possible for them to have any true understanding of the damage they do...not only to another...but also to themselves...by not letting go of past pain...

Recognition is the first step...

Good subject Frank...

Don't expect the next to carry the baggage left by the last.