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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. Reading someones profile, I really don't care what someones career goals are. someone else pointed out, that is the kind of thing you make small talk over. That also tells me that that particular girl will put her "career" infront of ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP she is looking for. If I read your profile and know everything about you. Then what would we talk about through e-mails and what have you? How is it that you don't care about someone's career and educational goals if you are going to become personally involved with them? What if they don't have ambition? Isn't that something you want to know upfront rather than down the road when they are a lump on the coach? If you connect with someone then you will have a lot to discuss even if you already know a great deal about them via their profile. Knowing what is of interest will inspire conversation rather than prohibit conversation. What if they have an area of interest that you are not familiar with? Wouldn’t that spark curiosity on your part to learn something new? During my last semester, and taking anthropological osteopathy, many people were fascinated in my studies. It made a great conversation piece! Just saying ... you never know! 
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How is it that you don't care about someone's career and educational goals if you are going to become personally involved with them? What if they don't have ambition? Isn't that something you want to know upfront rather than down the road when they are a lump on the coach? If you connect with someone then you will have a lot to discuss even if you already know a great deal about them via their profile. Knowing what is of interest will inspire conversation rather than prohibit conversation. What if they have an area of interest that you are not familiar with? Wouldn’t that spark curiosity on your part to learn something new? During my last semester, and taking anthropological osteopathy, many people were fascinated in my studies. It made a great conversation piece! Just saying ... you never know! Look at his profile.. he's just looking for sex. And he says he's unemployed. So that explains why he doesn't care about others' career goals and doesn't want to know everything about them. |
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I put some stuff into my profile deliberately so as to weed out on the front end the ones who'd never agree with my positions - saves a lot of time 'n trouble later on. I know it works by the nasty li'l unsolicitied emails I get from 'em - at which point I just kinda chuckle and delete 'em ... they don't realize the profile has just served its purpose ... As to your problem - you DO realize no woman is gonna put up a profile with the magic letters 'C F M' in it, right ... ? You'ld be surprised I would. |
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I don't know if many people even pay attention to what is put in a profile anyway. (Right Lex?) I mean on my profile I state I am taken and am not looking anymore, but in the last week I have had men sending me hugs and kisses.....not men I know and have joked with but total strangers!
 We make profiles so that people will read them and KNOW something about us so we will have something in common to talk about. Or put interesting items in there that will make others WANT to know about us. I don't think many would be on dating sites if they didn't like and or want sex....that's why people join, to find a partner, right? 
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I don't know if many people even pay attention to what is put in a profile anyway. (Right Lex?) I mean on my profile I state I am taken and am not looking anymore, but in the last week I have had men sending me hugs and kisses.....not men I know and have joked with but total strangers! We make profiles so that people will read them and KNOW something about us so we will have something in common to talk about. Or put interesting items in there that will make others WANT to know about us. I don't think many would be on dating sites if they didn't like and or want sex....that's why people join, to find a partner, right? Sometimes I see a sort of vicious circle here -- women often say "Guys don't read the profiles anyway," which seems to be true enough (although there are some exceptions, like myself), so then the women don't put anything in their profiles (which is mainly what I'm seeing now), then the few guys who do care about this stuff say "Well, how are we supposed to know if we're interested or not if you won't write anything?" at which time the women put up a bunch of cleavage shots and then get offended when Joe Lowbrow sends a message that says "nice boobs." This is NOT good communication. I look at it this way -- a profile is there for you to get to know something about the person. Well, what does the person want you to know? Maybe nothing, maybe a lot. It will vary. But I can't make a decision about whether or not I'm interested in somebody unless I have something to work with. If someone can't be bothered to do that much, I'm certainly not going to try to extract information out of them like some sort of deranged KGB agent. |
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***Puts away super-bright interrogation lights and under-nail splinters***
DARN!! You took all the fun out of it now!!! 
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***Puts away super-bright interrogation lights and under-nail splinters*** DARN!! You took all the fun out of it now!!! Yeah, I REALLY don't like those under-nail splinters. Remember, I've been married..... 
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guess it just depends on what you want to get and what you are offering....me..well, Im not offering much, so I really dont expect much....
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"....If you are seeking a passive, genteel and feminine woman, you need to run right now.
I am NOT girly girl material, I am what most call alternative, hippy-ish, intelligent and extremely self-reliant. My friends, my community, my planet are my consuming passions, and my children are my lifeblood....what some call baggage, I call perfection! Turned off yet?...then I've saved you the time it takes to type a pointless email, haven't I? ...it's really quite simple....I'm not interested in tricking you, conning you, or remotely trying to trap you...so I won't bullsh*t you....don't bother bullsh*tting me...and life can move forward with or without you... *_* ......" errrrr...in what country would this be suitable for a job interveiw?????  I would say this in a bar, in a club, at a market, in a paddock...at a roadhouse...in a police station, an ER room.... ....what was your point???
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I, for one, do read the profiles of the women here. First of all, I want to know if a woman is anywhere near me. If she isn't, then I know not to try for a serious relationship.
I believe that a person's profile should give others a clear idea of what is most important to that person. Abstract self-descriptions don't tell me much. What people invest their time, money and energy in tells me alot about them. For that reason, I recently added to my profile several specific details about me in my human guise. That way a woman can get a good idea of where my passions lay. If what I say in my profile doesn't appeal to a woman, then so be it. I have already had the joy of having the love of a devoted wife (may she R.I.P.). Thus, I can tolerate not having someone to share my bed with. |
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How is it that you don't care about someone's career and educational goals if you are going to become personally involved with them? What if they don't have ambition? Isn't that something you want to know upfront rather than down the road when they are a lump on the coach? If you connect with someone then you will have a lot to discuss even if you already know a great deal about them via their profile. Knowing what is of interest will inspire conversation rather than prohibit conversation. What if they have an area of interest that you are not familiar with? Wouldn’t that spark curiosity on your part to learn something new? During my last semester, and taking anthropological osteopathy, many people were fascinated in my studies. It made a great conversation piece! Just saying ... you never know! Look at his profile.. he's just looking for sex. And he says he's unemployed. So that explains why he doesn't care about others' career goals and doesn't want to know everything about them. Hi Emily!!  Well, that explains it. I didn't look at his profile before replying. I assumed he didn't complete the "about me" section! 
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I understand what you are saying about having a "surprise" effect - and that being part of the fun; however, I don't want to waste my time. If I don't discuss my deal-breakers in my bio section then I am setting myself up for meeting the wrong person. Melody, I just want to say "Thank You!" on this one. I've tried to make it very very clear, in my profile, as to what I'm looking for and NOT looking for. I get a lot of profile views here, and only about 10% of those people ever contact me. I think a large part of that is because the others have read my profile and realize we would not be a good match. As it stands, the majority (I should say "entirety," to be accurate!) of people who do contact me, stating that they're interested in starting something, are people who are excluded by my deal-breakers, as stated in the profile. Either they didn't read that far or they somehow decided they can change my mind! But imagine how much worse it could be if I DIDN'T mention my deal-breakers in my profile....! Women always trying to change us. |
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Sing, and Indian Princess,
if the first thing on your mind when you meet a man. is, What kind of job or education they have. Then you have been watching to much Oprah. Seriously. Maybe you'ld be better served joining those Nazis on EHarmony.com. You can not sit there and tell me. When you meet a person in a social public place. The first thing you think, is "Did this guy graduate college and does he have a 401K plan?" Cause if that is the case. then no wonder you are still single. |
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LOL, Jamie I posed that exact question on a completely different thread. yeah, just like in a bar or other social setting. it has a lot to do with looks. I mean EVERYONE will click on a profile of a person they are attracted to. few people actually read those profiles. I think you should be honest in your profile. But at the same time make it simple. I mean you want to make so people know exactly what you are looking for. But at the same time, you want them to want to get to know you better. I am looking for strictly sex hook ups. I'm not financially stable enough to date. Let alone start a relationship. But that isn't to say people who are looking for strictly sexual hook ups. Can't fall in love. And there are some women on here who are just looking for sexual hook ups. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't post pictures of themselves. So they admit that is what they want. But are still so embarrassed and or ashamed of it. That they won't use real pictures of themselves. I'm getting off subject. I believe you should be honest and simple. Short and sweet in your about me sections. By "make it simple" do you mean more like your profile? You maybe honest in your profile, but it tells very little about you. If I were looking through profiles, I'd probably pass yours by, as it's so short and doesn't say much. Though, when you're just looking for sex, I guess you don't need to say much. But, as with anything else, it all comes down to preferences. Sounds more like you just don't want to read longer profiles. Of course, that's your choice. Reading someones profile, I really don't care what someones career goals are. someone else pointed out, that is the kind of thing you make small talk over. That also tells me that that particular girl will put her "career" infront of ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP she is looking for. If I read your profile and know everything about you. Then what would we talk about through e-mails and what have you? How is it that you don't care about someone's career and educational goals if you are going to become personally involved with them? What if they don't have ambition? Isn't that something you want to know upfront rather than down the road when they are a lump on the coach? If you connect with someone then you will have a lot to discuss even if you already know a great deal about them via their profile. Knowing what is of interest will inspire conversation rather than prohibit conversation. What if they have an area of interest that you are not familiar with? Wouldn’t that spark curiosity on your part to learn something new? During my last semester, and taking anthropological osteopathy, many people were fascinated in my studies. It made a great conversation piece! Just saying ... you never know! first of all I have been to jail. Secondly, what someone does for a living isn't high on my priority list when it comes to dating or having sex. I have a feeling if I was deeply concerned with that. A couple of you women would accuse me of being a jigalo. Thirdly for all you, I HAVE SERIOUS BACK PROBLEM WHICH PREVENTS ME FROM WORKING! |
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I have had other profiles, where I specifically said, "No Lesbians". And guess what I would get contacted by tons of lesbains. of course as we know lesbians like to play mind games with straight men. that is what feminization is.
Simple fact is NO MATTER what you put in your profile. people are going to contact you. IF THEY ARE PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU! PERIOD. End of story! Just because someone has graduated college. And has a "Five year" career plan. Dosen't make them a good person. And yeah, if i read a womens profile. And allshe says about her self is allabout her education and career goals. That tells me, that she is more concerned with that. Than she is with dating anyone. |
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melody,
Considering the fact that Wiccans are Pot heads. And burn a symbolic man in effigy once a year in the desert. I understand completely why you are taking shots at me. |
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The point I MADE was that a lot of people seem to make thier, "About Me's" way to formal.
And yeah the fact that i am just looking for sex. Is a big reason why I think that. no one can help who they fall in love with. |
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Another thing I noticed. Is that a lot of people spend so much time. telling us all about themselves. They fail to tell us what they are looking for.
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I don't know if many people even pay attention to what is put in a profile anyway. (Right Lex?) I mean on my profile I state I am taken and am not looking anymore, but in the last week I have had men sending me hugs and kisses.....not men I know and have joked with but total strangers! We make profiles so that people will read them and KNOW something about us so we will have something in common to talk about. Or put interesting items in there that will make others WANT to know about us. I don't think many would be on dating sites if they didn't like and or want sex....that's why people join, to find a partner, right? Sometimes I see a sort of vicious circle here -- women often say "Guys don't read the profiles anyway," which seems to be true enough (although there are some exceptions, like myself), so then the women don't put anything in their profiles (which is mainly what I'm seeing now), then the few guys who do care about this stuff say "Well, how are we supposed to know if we're interested or not if you won't write anything?" at which time the women put up a bunch of cleavage shots and then get offended when Joe Lowbrow sends a message that says "nice boobs." This is NOT good communication. I look at it this way -- a profile is there for you to get to know something about the person. Well, what does the person want you to know? Maybe nothing, maybe a lot. It will vary. But I can't make a decision about whether or not I'm interested in somebody unless I have something to work with. If someone can't be bothered to do that much, I'm certainly not going to try to extract information out of them like some sort of deranged KGB agent. yeah alot of young girls do that. They put sexy pics of themselves on thier profiles. Then get pissed when guys hit on them. But that is just the mind games they like to play. |
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Sing, and Indian Princess, if the first thing on your mind when you meet a man. is, What kind of job or education they have. Then you have been watching to much Oprah. Seriously. Maybe you'ld be better served joining those Nazis on EHarmony.com. You can not sit there and tell me. When you meet a person in a social public place. The first thing you think, is "Did this guy graduate college and does he have a 401K plan?" Cause if that is the case. then no wonder you are still single. I'm not sure where either of us said it was the first thing we look for. I can only speak for myself, though. If it's just casual dating, then no, it isn't going to be a big deal. If it's going to turn into anything more serious, I certainly do expect the person I'm dating to have goals. Why do you have an issue with this? Do you not have goals and are annoyed that women are looking for men who do? |
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