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Topic: Step back
AGoodGuy1026 Joined Wed 04/22/09 Posts: 1333	Fri 09/03/10 06:59 AM
if I had respect for the opinion of the one giving the advice, I would likely step back and take a look at my behavior, otherwise F **K em! $.02

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Fri 09/03/10 07:23 AM
If someone told you that you come across to people in a negative way, do you step back and look at it from their perspective? Not saying you have to agree with it, but do you stop and think about if there is any truth to it or do you just blow it off? It could be in real life or online disclaimer: not that it helps lol....but this isn't about me. Just a topic for discussion I have been accused of such behavior, and after a rigorus soul searching i realized i really dont give a rats a$$ and its their problem not mine.... "Sometimes being a b!tch is all a woman has to hold on to"

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Fri 09/03/10 07:31 AM
If someone told you that you come across to people in a negative way, do you step back and look at it from their perspective? Not saying you have to agree with it, but do you stop and think about if there is any truth to it or do you just blow it off? It could be in real life or online disclaimer: not that it helps lol....but this isn't about me. Just a topic for discussion I have been accused of such behavior, and after a rigorus soul searching i realized i really dont give a rats a$$ and its their problem not mine.... "Sometimes being a b!tch is all a woman has to hold on to" haha. Ive heard that quote. And sometimes we mean to be negative. the problem is that sometimes, strong-willed, opinionated women are seen as aberrations. Such behavior is considered negative...Im just me, chances are, if I had been born male, my attitude and behavior would have been considered normal, perhaps even respected, but since Im female, I tend to be seen as a b!tch...oh well...like I said, its the other persons problem, not mine.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 09/03/10 08:19 AM
Naw, I would just assume that they are too dense to communicate on my level. Then I smile at them like you do to a stupid child and speak slower.

Sabrosura089 Joined Thu 08/19/10 Posts: 269	Fri 09/03/10 08:24 AM Edited by Sabrosura089 on Fri 09/03/10 08:24 AM
If someone told you that you come across to people in a negative way, do you step back and look at it from their perspective? Not saying you have to agree with it, but do you stop and think about if there is any truth to it or do you just blow it off? It could be in real life or online disclaimer: not that it helps lol....but this isn't about me. Just a topic for discussion Online it is extremely hard to decipher someone's communication (i.e. different sense of humor, writing skills or just interpretation from another). I wouldn't blow it off if the person approached it in a civilized manner.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48928	Fri 09/03/10 08:57 AM
If someone told you that you come across to people in a negative way, do you step back and look at it from their perspective? Not saying you have to agree with it, but do you stop and think about if there is any truth to it or do you just blow it off? Well, being that I am not a politician, I doubt that I'll ever face the above-mentioned scenario.

venusenvy Joined Sat 07/31/10 Posts: 2984	Fri 09/03/10 09:03 AM
Personally, I couldnt give a flying monkey's azz for others opinions of me. If it was say my kids or something then sure I would consider it. Other than that I live to my own standard. "To thine own self be true"

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Fri 09/03/10 09:08 AM
If someone told you that you come across to people in a negative way, do you step back and look at it from their perspective? Not saying you have to agree with it, but do you stop and think about if there is any truth to it or do you just blow it off? It could be in real life or online disclaimer: not that it helps lol....but this isn't about me. Just a topic for discussion No. I don't need external validation or approval, and others don't depend on me for theirs ... If they interpret my position as negative, that's their problem to deal with, not mine ... I transmit information the same way everyone else does. When and IF they take my perspective into account, then I might do the same for them - but I'm not holding my breath for that to happen.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 09/03/10 10:16 AM
If someone told you that you come across to people in a negative way, do you step back and look at it from their perspective? Not saying you have to agree with it, but do you stop and think about if there is any truth to it or do you just blow it off? It could be in real life or online disclaimer: not that it helps lol....but this isn't about me. Just a topic for discussion I always consider how other people feel. Id ask for examples of when and how I had come across 'negative' and take it under consideration.