hey Slow,,,just my thoughts on this,,
What some might feel or call (games),,to SOME on here THAT FITS,,,wink,but like with me.
I put thoughts deeply into that as for (how they might feel about me) on the real-side of all the BS in the dating sites venue,,,lol

Lets say, I am talking with a lady who liked me and wrote me then we went to the phone,,OK..
Now as we talk the first time together,,its all good and we say we shall talk again soon,,,well the next time,,,depends??
If I call her and she doesn't answer?? Then next day,,the same,,,and so on,,YES,,I will take THAT as she may NOT have liked our conversations as much as I did,,lol.
Now if she answered that second or third time,,,and was STILL all her first self with me,,then cool,,we go forward.
If on the other-hand,,she kind of gives me a brush-off,,and wants to go..
THEN,,,I would wait and see IF SHE CALLED me back?
Now if BOTH are into talking long and often together,,and ITS ALWAYS only the SAME PERSON CALLING THAT OTHER ONE,,,like say ME always calling her,,
I MIGHT seem to ALL-ABOUT-HER,,in her thoughts,,and she may feel I am over-board with THAT,,,,so I try and SEE (not a game) IF she really WOULD WANT TO CALL ME,,,FIRST? so as to wait and find out...
Just to KEEP my focus on HER REAL THOUGHTS of me and our talks together?
What it comes down to is ONE SHOULD ONLY FEEL A PROBLEM with that,,,
IF,,,only ONE of them is ALWAYS THE ONLY ONE TO MAKE THE CALL!!!
If BOTH our REAL with their desires to TALK to one another,,,then who calls first should NEVER really be an issue,,,it just happens that BOTH FEEL the same to the others wants to do that also...so both call back and forth WHENEVER??
Many could call this a GAME,,but to really WANT TO KNOW SOMEONES HEART,,it takes being able to FEEL their actions as to what and how THEY do things
BACK to you,,or SHOW YOU through their desires and actions to compliment YOURS back..
OR,,,,SOME might NEVER see this as anything but a game to them,,,
But I call learning someones heart or their 'real' feelings inside.

See,,to me WE ALL have that basic form of want,desire, and we act on them,,in much the SAME as MOST!
So one-sided ANYTHING,,,in a relationship-----------SUCKS!!!!lol,lol

Just my two-cents worth,,but as to who done that research and or study you mentioned,,I would say was a small group of the same type of age or people who
were limited to the amount of wide-spread opinions through more than 100 people,,,you would need at least 1000 folks to give a real percentage to popular opinion??

I hear ya Rose, when did dating become so political? I think so many peeps overthink things now, they have lost touch with the gut reaction that should always guide us. (morning)

Oh venus....I learned a long time ago, the hard way, to listen to my Jiminy Cricket

I guess I'm too honest and hate "playing" silly games. IDK....maybe I'm too old to get it now

Good morning

Mornin Lovey, well me too, but I see/hear it happening alot. "to thine own self be true" I just think its critical to listen to that small still voice inside. Especially when it comes to dating.

I know it's hard to look at yourself in the mirror and see the true you. Sometimes it makes you want to smash the mirror

But how can you work on fixing the problems that you see in yourself if you don't look?

Very true, but once we look at ourselves square on, I think we will discover we are not as bad as we thought we were. We are always our own worst critic. Once we face a fear, it has no power over us any more.

well said

Who was it that said that a life unexamined isn't worth living... very true IMO... I'd rather think too much than not at all in this regard.

Socrates

smart fella', him... ty.

(I drank what??)

Good catch hmlover.

Love this quote Ted. I had never heard this before. I like it. I might add it to my profile if you don't mind.

Hey ask Socretes... I'm just the middle-man.

ok...let me channel him.

Darn it....I'm on hold

see there???? fits in the topic. Socrates is playing games with me

cross his arse of your list of dating potentials!!

geez...even the dead want to play games.

why oh why won't Socrates take my calls?????

That's it. I'm not calling him. He needs to chase ME

some people never quit their gamin'...

Once in a land far, far away there lived a group of people called Trids. The Trids were happy except for the huge ogre that lived on the mountain. The ogre would periodically terrorize the Trids.

The Trids tired of the ogre and sought to reason with him. They thought one of their religious leaders would be a good intermediary. So a group of Trids and their minister went up the mountain and before they could even say one word the ogre kicked them down the mountain. Not being dismayed the Trids thought that maybe the ogre was Catholic, so they sent another delegation, this time led by the local priest. But alas, as they approached the ogre he once again kicked them all down the mountain.

The Trids were upset until they thought that perhaps the ogre was Jewish. Unfortunately, no Trids were Jewish, so they wrote to the people of another land and asked them to send a Rabbi to help them with the ogre. The Rabbi arrived and led a delegation of Trids up the mountain. The ogre saw them coming and kicked all of them, except for the Rabbi, down the mountain. The Rabbi, having been told of the previous expeditions, wondered why he alone had not been kicked down the mountain, so he asked the ogre. The ogre laughed and replied:

"Silly Rabbi, kicks are for Trids!"

I like games on the interwebs...


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMrN3Rh55uM

i cant stand talking on the phone myself but really whats it matter who calls first are the females not playing the game if they dont call first either unless both people are playing youd never know it was a game to start with