Ok......so here's the story. I have this friend....from back a few years ago when I was still going to college. Met her through a friend of a friend at the time guess you could say.

We really didn't talk much for a long time though till recently when she left a message on a facebook status of mine, just at random. It surprised me but in a good way. Kinda wanted to ask her to hang out then, as I hadn't seen her in so long, and I don't get out a lot as it is, but I didn't.

I finally talked to her for the first time at length in a while this evening, at first with the intention of seeing if she was available to go to this festival in town I wanted to check out before the weekend was over. We ended up talking about a lot more, about many different topics, ones particularly important to me, and she really understood and listened to me through it all. It made me wonder a bit if there is something there possibly with us.

She left soon after that to go to a concert in the park, I really wanted to ask her if she'd take me with her, as I wanted to get out of the house and had not much else to do, but...I couldn't get the courage to not wanting to impose, and also I was hungry lol. Was kinda kicking myself for it later though, and still want to do something with her soon to see her again.

Here's the thing.....she's 33 and I'm just turning 23 in November. Age of course is but a number I suppose, but I wonder if she'd even want to date a guy 10 years younger if things progressed to such a point.

All this is rather nervewracking really, haven't dated in real life in 5 years, haven't had but one girlfriend, and can be a bit shy in real life, don't go out a lot and don't have many people to do things with. It's all kinda new again right now, and there's a bit of fear there about getting close to someone again, and not having it go bad for any number of reasons. Just a lot of thoughts, on top of the age thing.

Anyway, would you date someone 10 years younger then you are?

Hit it fast.....hit it strong!


Seriously. Just go with the flow right now. See how things move along, try to get a good feeling to see if she wants to date you and all.

I would at my age now but I'd prefer just a few years younger if I were going younger..

lol the quick hitting not so much my style.

Yeah, my head is just kinda going all over the place at the moment. I really do want to see her again though, even if just as friends. Need something more productive to do then sitting on a computer all day, seems that's been the story of my life for a while, need to get out, active and motivated.

maybe... but no more than 10

I agree. Dude. Get out a little bit at a time. Find some activities that you would like to do. Nothing wrong with computers, but there is a cool world out there that offers alot to those who want to explore it.

As for the chick. Just be you man. And, as I stated, just get a feel of things.

10 years younger than me is just too young.

I have dated 10 years younger than me... And up to 15 years older... Age really has nothing to do with it. If you have chemistry, and are pretty even on maturity, It can work.

i think i'd be arrested if i dated 10yrs younger lol

You're the 2nd person to react this way lol. Assuming everyone is legal lol, better?

yep lol n yeah i would as long as both r over 20!

Don't ask....don't tell.

10 yrs younger? no


10 yrs older?yes!

This year, no
Next year, YES!

(I am 27)

If i was 28 and she was 18, with a really strong emotional connection shared between one another, i would for sure. but i would make sure it was done the right way. Alot of serious thought would go into it. I mean, whos to say she wont turn around at the age of 21 and complain that she isnt "living her life to the max".

It's another one of lifes many risks which you would have to decide on i guess.

just dont be greedy if you feel like she doesnt want the same things as you. Its her life to remember :)

Go for it. If you don't, you'll wonder the rest of your life about the 'But what IF I had ... ?' part of the equation. Find out now.

Don't wonder 'what if?' later ... or moan about 'If only ... '.

Of course. I'm 64 and I don't think 10 years is so bad. My dad was 11 years older than my mother.

yes

have and would

Like just go have fun. Hell, so what she is older. As long as you don't take it too seriously things should go well. If you get serious things will get weird.

Life is too short to suffer with the "what if I" this and "What if I did that?" kind if garbage.

Would I date a guy in his early twenties when I was in my early thirty's?

Yea I did.

He was a truely nice guy that after a year was very hurt when it just didn't take hold and move into the hoped for permenant family scenario. Why? Because it was just too hard for me to back track over the decade difference in life experiences but it still hurt a lot to face it.

So my advice is get yourself someone who is more your peer and save yourself the misery.