The duality is a good point. Because the two views can be extreme in nature, opposites if you will. In my dealing with a resident at work who has dementia and who is or was a pastor I see both clearly with him. He goes from a sincere praying phase then to a demonic stage or a real angry stage. As James as stated on here about gray there is no gray area with this resident. In the old testament it speaks of God and Satan; Gog and Magog and in Genesis God and the Serpent. In the new testament it speaks of Christ and the AntiChrist. Christ makes clearly this difference when he says, "I would that ye be hot or cold because if you are lukewarm I will spew ye out of my mouth." Anyway back to the resident. When he prays loudly to God to help him I come in and tell him that I am not God but I am here to help him. I know from my own experience with rehab that the line between the duality can become fragile. My spiritual meetings are very helpful to me because they help me to get past this paradox. I can personally deal better with a loving God as he may express himself in our group conscience than an angry God. When dealing with the residents I have to see the anger as dementia rather than demonic possession. In demonic possession the anger stays but with dementia the anger can be temporary. It is the humanistic approach of he that argues with a fool is a fool or to back off when a resident is in full dementia. I have to back off or the demon or anger comes into me. I have to keep telling myself that these are not normal people I am dealing with. Normal people can discuss or atleast give an idea the benefit of a doubt. I think my ex said it best when she said I am not Superwoman. She said that because my expectations of her was too high. To me she was either a goddess or a ***** and there was no middle ground. I don't really think I ever saw her as a women or a human in my reasoning.

Isn't it ashame how becoming so close together in a relationship; can become one of such distance?
Kat

For me it brings up a point in a power struggle with regards to a relationship. When one gets kicked out of heaven when there are two in heaven and one goes to hell it would seem that heaven and hell could just be different in location. To serve in heaven or to rule in hell to me seems illogical. I guess because I have always had to serve somewheres. I couldn't see me ruling in hell or heaven. It just isn't my nature.

Yup. Major breakdown in communication. If we could have seen each other as equals and shared the experience so that we could have discussed instead or argued things would probably went a lot smoother. Hindsight is better than 20/20.

I tried to stop the arguements by clamming up and becoming the strong silent type because that had always worked with my dad. With my dad I wasn't allowed to make a comment because he believed that children should listen but not speak. That didn't work in the relationship because all it did was to make her even more angrier and she had to take more depression medicine.

Yes it is, Kat. My sponsor used to tell me, "Let's be friendly with our friends."