Do women still like nice guys or is there such a thing as to nice?
Ive been divorced for 1 year now i was maried for 9 years is it to soon to date?
I think im a good looking guy can i have some input?
Since I am a single dad will this scare off women?

thank you for your time and answers

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Mike

Depends most women want men that remind us of our dads, cause they teach us how we are to be treated by men. I prefer not to date men with children because I don't have any and sometimes men don't really tell the truth about their past with his childrens mother. If she is worth having you being nice will be a bonus not a turn off.

Wel;l it depends upon the woman...

So then what about me? men also are scared of me to have relationship with cos i'm a single mom with 3 kids
but the fact is im not married and never been married...
Dont rush on it
the right woman will come unto you
just wait and see...

as long as you´ve got "personality" you got nothing to worry about...too often "nice" guys are just flat liners waiting for someone to take care of them...

single mother of three here, i look for guys with kids of their own, so we can relate to each other, As far as dating after divorce, whenever your ready go for it. I was married for ten years, Im positive it's over so I'll date whenever i want, ok, unless I dont have a date. haha We like nice guys, we just need a chance to get to know them. Besides everyone has their faults, bad boys are nice too to their woman, nice guys are nice to everyone and sometimes not as nice to their woman, just saying. . .

Well here is the truth both men and women tend to act like they want someone who is an *** hole or ***** just because they don't think there are nice guys and they think nice guys or gals won't like them its all a matter of what will get them the attention.no its not too soon to date you need to be happy to and if that means being with a girl who loves you then that's what should happen. And about the children thing its all a matter of personal choice some women don't want the responsibility some women don't want to deal with the ex and some women couldn't be more happy being in that childs life.

Personally I want a nice guy who loves me for me and he can't love me for me if he doesn't know who me is. About the kids if I am in love with the man I will be there for him and his kids. I love children and would take on anything for the man and the kids.


Hope my answer helps you figure it all out

I think a year is more than an acceptable waiting period.

I don't date men with kids; however, there are many that will and many other that won’t.

Dump the "nice guy" theory, use common sense, and have fun. Keep your kids out of your adult, dating business until you get serious with someone.

huh?

Dude. I find it pretty darn cool you are a single dad. Shows you care for your child, and you aren't a dead beat dad. Chicks will see this and respect you for it. Don't worry so much about the single dad label. You are a dad, and your child is the most important person to you. No shame in that.

Second. Go out and have fun just meeting women. Don't worry about trying to find that special someone. Chill, have a few drinks, smack a chicks azz, fall in love....you know....the usual method.

Yes, you can be too nice. Don't try to win her or buy her. Be willing to walk away if she's not into you. Don't take any off her BS. Women want a man they can respect. That means he stands up to her from time to time about things he feels are important.

It's never too soon to date. It's only a date. Date often and date many different women. This way when you're ready to setttle down again you'll have options.

Looks is only one part or the package. Do what you can to look your best right now. Be well groomed, wear clothes that fit. But, just as important is a clear understanding of who you are. Allow your true self to come through and be fun!

How old are your children? I didn't date at all while my son was young. But, once he was about 14, I made up for lost time.

Hi Mike!
It's not soon to date. And It's cool that you are a dad that cares about your child. Some women will keep away because you have children, mostly because of the troubles that comes with having an ex not the child itself. I dated men with children and had no issues with it. If the girl understands your child will always be a priority, things will be fine. Yes you are handsome, and don't change who you are, someone will appreciate how nice you are.
Best of luck!
Amanda

I prefer not to call them "nice" guys. I like the term "real" men better. My opinion of a nice guy is someone who's too needy, clingy, etc because that is what nice guys have been to me in the past.

I don't think it is too soon to date, but really only you know the answer to that question. Are you ready to move on? Have you dealt with the divorce and all the emotions that come from it?

You are good looking.

Being a single dad has advantages and disadvantages. As an advantage, I see that as an awesome thing. It shows you aren't a dead beat dad. However, in my experiences, I have also found that men who already have children are most likely to not want anymore children with anyone else. That is a factor that would personally scare me off. Even though I am upfront with men right from the beginning, it doesn't keep them from lying. If their wants are the same as yours, they win until the girl discovers the ugly truth about them not really wanting more children in the first place yet they lied. But for the most part, being a single dad isn't a turnoff.

Really WolfEyez? Interesting.

I've never met any man who only wanted the child/ren he already has. I've found them more then willing to continue breeding, whether they should or not.

I have other issues with regards to population control, and 2 children as reproductive value, not rabbiting into 3-10 kids. I don't want to raise someone else's kid, because if I should decide on kids, that negates one (possibly more, depending on how many kids they have) right off the bat.

yes, really. I have only had one experience dating someone for a year with kids. It was a disaster in the end when I found out he had been lying all along. This keeps me from taking another chance with someone else who already has kids.

Depends on how old the kids are. You aren't suppose to replace their mom. I think after a respectable amount of time (say 2 years) you should be able to be considered an authority figure towards his kids. You shouldn't necessarily have to raise them, but I believe you should help in guiding them.

Yeh, I had one experience with young kids, and that didn't go well. In this case, not really the kids themselves, but I had taken in a lab/pit mix, and he went off the deep end about evil pit bulls and I'd better get rid of her.

I met up with him again years later, still have my Shadow (she's 11 now) and he actually apologized about that. Considering she had gotten all sorts of oddball awards, including one for a game we both played (She and I camped out. She got it for being "in the spirit of the game" and is the only dog ever to have gotten an award) I was rather impressed with the apology.

No, I certainly don't want to be the mother. Unfortunately, there's a whole issue with being an authority figure that comes in to play in general, and is worse with divorces and nowadays with the law, that its just a major hassle. Guiding involves discipline when needed, and I know to many parents who never get the discipline balanced out and are miserable and end up divorced.

It says he's already deactivated.

Wonder who did it.

Considering he only had 12 posts... he probably did it himself.