Ok, so my ex (5 years) and his new womanfriend asked me if I would be interested in dating one of her friends (I know but lets not go there). I thought about it and said sure, give him my number.
That was about 2 weeks ago. Last night I got home to a message from
"Kevin". He starts off" HI, my name is Kevin, I'm Dianes ex. Would you like to meet for coffee or dinner? Give me a call, my # is blah blah." Didn't sound very interested.

The question I have is why did Kevin identify himself as her ex?
I got nothing but find it real strange. Am I just going a little overboard in my self preservation to not go out with him because he was her ex.? My ex had told me they had 'dated' and it didn't work out.
Should I? Seems a little strange. Like he ...I just dunno.
Any feedback would greatly be appreciated.

Well you are his ex and he is her ex and she probably said you are his ex so he said he is her ex and didn't sound that interested because he has weird feelings about blind dates like this too and especially since it involves ex's ...

she knows him
he knows you
maybe they think its a match
maybe they think you will kill eachother

seems weird to me but a public place chat is generally safe and can't hurt much, since you are both not that into the idea.

good luck

Hmm... that's a lil difficult to follow much less comprehend. Regardless, I'm big on following my instincts and recommend the same for you... don't over-think it. gl

Im sorry, Im gonna need a visual graphic chart to keep up with who is who in this conversation....

I have a feeling you all are from the country and it is a small town so everyone is someones ex? I think it is very weird, but if you hit it off who knows. obviously if his ex likes your ex, then there is great possibility that you and her ex will hit it off. Think about it, she and your ex, get along, which also means her and her ex do not, you and your ex do not, get the picture.

i suppose he is feeling like you... a bit awkward.. why not give it a try?

maybe dude don't got no game

tell em to put on some air force twos a fresh white t and come back at it again

Well, since posting this, I have decided to put it on the back burner for a couple of days to mull it all over (or not). I think that may give me a little more objectivity about the all the exes.

Thanks for the responses, yet since I am tired from lack of sleep this weekend it's even difficult for me to comprehend, am not going to over think the whole thing, just a few days distance will help me be a little more objective.

It sounds like they are setting up a swap party, and want you to join in.

It could be that she dated him for a short time and from what she heard about you from your ex perhaps she thinks you two would get along... If she had no time and/or emotion invested in him but thinks he's a good person and has heard from your ex that you are as well then perhaps she's trying to do something nice "make a love connection"... I of course know only what you've stated but it seems like an optimistic approach.. Of course I do understand the weirdness factor but maybe it's not as weird as it seems.. I'm guessing his not sounding too excited had something to do with "blind date" it's not comfortable for most... If he didn't want to call I doubt he had to.. I doubt they were holding a gun to his head...

I can understand his being tenative about a blind date, the only one I ever went on was the most horrendous experiences I ever went on.
Maybe thats what is also why I am questioning it all.

I'v never been on a blind date per se but some internet dates I've had in the past seemed like them b/c they sure didn't look like their pics.. LOL.. I can understand how unnerving it would be...

I see it optimistically. They were talking about their regrets of breaking up with nice people that they just didn't connect with and think it would be sweet if you each had someone, maybe each other since you're both good people. They wouldn't bother at all if either thought of their ex in a really negetive way. I say give him a shot, you can always say no thanks to a second date if you don't care for him.

Seems to me he was using the only "thread" of connection between you... seems normal to me, since it is the way in which you were both obviously "introduced" to each other... if he was your ex's carptenter, he might have said "Hi, I am (blah blah), I am your ex's carpenter"....

I think you are reading too much into the situation, and I must say that I believe being introduced via "friends" is a positive thing...

My opinion - go against your instinct, call him and see what happens... you never know it could be fun!

$.02