I have met countless guys on this site and one other. These guys me send texts, flirts and even call me some of them, I have only met one of them in person, scoring another date is like murder. It's hard for one thing because most of us are parents and are working around our kids, but I really feel as a woman, i should have to be calling all the shots. If these guys are really interested like they CLAIM to be, then what the hell is the problem. I am not desperate, but I am sick of trying to navigate everything. I am a mother of three and I can even manage to pull off some spare time if needed. What gives. Maybe i shouldn't put myself out there anymore. Guys please give some advice, what are you thinking, quit telling girls how beautiful they are if you really are not interested. I'm frustrated.

maybe your choosing the wrong guys...

I am not one of the guys,but, Try and remember, you have to "kiss a lot of toads before you find the guy for you." Hang in there.

<---- this is a hand from watching to much internet porn...wanna talk about frustrating

"Those" guys that you are talking to are playing you. I mean...it is what it is. They flirt, they get you hooked, and then they fade. Sometimes it has to do with alot of dudes liking to live in the cyber world. Some guys are married and they like to play. Some guys say one thing, but when it comes down to it, they mean another. I mean, there really isn't one simple answer. Men, and women, play these kinds of games. And yes, it can be infuriating.

Hey oceanbluze, from your photo you are a vey attractive lady. 98% of us guys are ********.I know because I used to be one. I used to walk over any and everyone to get what I wanted until 3 girls got together and taught me a lesson in how it feels to be screwed over.

I think there is something larger going on here. The culture has changed where people do not know basic common courtesy. They also don't really care about others feelings because there will be someone else to come along fast with this instant jiffy pop world of ours.

The days of actually meeting someone, having a few dates with them to see if you like each other to continue are over. If expectations aren't met within 30 seconds, then yer out!

I know this all sounds cynical, but what other explaination is there? People keep trading up for perfection stomping on others to achieve the unachievable. The worse part of it all is the pathological uncaring and disregard for other's feelings along the way.

They know....it's just very easy to get away with crap from behind a computer screen.

Attraction has nothing to do with how these guys are treating her. And, news flash...it isn't just her. This is happening to alot of people...men and women. Thing is, the guys that she referred to have not really attained what they wanted. She had an attraction to these men, they were attracted to her, and she pushed it further because she wants to meet a man who is into her (which is how they played it to her...they played on the emotion that they were, if fact, into her). Basically, the guys are flirting and are either already attached to another woman, or are just chumps (and wimps). They are not getting what they want from her. They simply are wussing out, which is frustrating her.

Now, had they pursued her, and then got what they wanted from her, then I feel your post would make more viable sense.

Well said.

My advice is don't rely mainly on a site to find what you are looking for, expand you social circles & meet new people that way. It's the internet, don't expect anything & you won't be disappointed!

Very true Ruth. Supermen in front of the computer but in reality wimps in their robes and slippers...

They are broke. Its the times, and well some are just that way.

I think that the problem stems from our "fast-food" society..it takes time to develop an intimate, nurturing relationship..time that most people tend to dedicate to themselves, living the individualistic "me only" life...

It can get very frustrating if what you are looking for is a long-term relationship...however, if you change gears and be content with.."enjoy it while it lasts" (which in some cases may be just that one date) then you wont feel like the problem is you...Youre not the problem..circumstances are what they are...

Well said & Agreed.

Sometimes I think, making the computer and getting online easy was a mistake.

Or at least, even the immature adults need parental controls installed, the one they can't deactivate.

The immaturity of many is staggering, I was shocked (not anymore) some people just never grow up and the computer should be taken away from them.

um trust me I DONT, dont get me wrong, i meet guys at the store and beach too. It doesnt stop them from being gas-turds though. If ur not down for one night stand these days or first date sex- then the relationship is over. im all about compatibility too but if your personality sucks and you tell me you are so funny, hahaha, and you arent then we are not compatible, so who cares if we are compatible on the kitchen counter, er I mean the bed. i came here to see if actually talking to a guy might work- - - -alien territory for god's sakes.

For what it's worth, a friend of mine who knows her ropes used to say: "it's always the best ones who never get laid."

I think she's right, as I know a thing or two about being one of the best ones.

honey its super tough out there. Guys will lead you on just to get what they want because they are sick and get a sick pleasure from it. Just keep your head up not all guys are like that but its crap waiting for the one good one