Topic: what the hell i give up
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Tue 08/24/10 06:55 PM

So in other words, online dating is just for flirtin around and killin time? I am new to being online dating. I was married for ten years and had the task of evading men. Now it's like they wont come near me with a ten foot pole. I wish! Murphy's law is steadily at work here. Well i am having a blast on these forums at least I get to talk to people above the age of 10. That alone is a reward all in it's own.


Online dating is just a conduit.

Just another option where to meet single people.

It is up to you to decide who you should date...no different than real life in a bookstore, or a bar, or a concert, etc. You meet someone you are attracted to, find out about them and go from there.

I'm not saying it's easy to wade through the chaffe...laugh


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Tue 08/24/10 08:57 PM


put your wedding ring back on..that will atract them for sure...
bigsmile



... laugh ... I love you, you constantly crack me up ... flowerforyou


sending the love right back at ya...

smooched

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Tue 08/24/10 09:00 PM

I have met countless guys on this site and one other. These guys me send texts, flirts and even call me some of them, I have only met one of them in person, scoring another date is like murder. It's hard for one thing because most of us are parents and are working around our kids, but I really feel as a woman, i should have to be calling all the shots. If these guys are really interested like they CLAIM to be, then what the hell is the problem. I am not desperate, but I am sick of trying to navigate everything. I am a mother of three and I can even manage to pull off some spare time if needed. What gives. Maybe i shouldn't put myself out there anymore. Guys please give some advice, what are you thinking, quit telling girls how beautiful they are if you really are not interested. I'm frustrated.


boys are stupid...throw rocks at them....winking

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Wed 08/25/10 03:55 AM
If you can't beat em join em, the fact of the matter is there are too many women in this world to compete with and if let yourself fall for the Bull then you will end up pissed off. Online dating is a risk like all dating & even though you thought it would happen sooner and alot easier, sometimes we (women) are looking for something we will never find. If we do find him we always find it was too good to be true.

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Wed 08/25/10 04:41 AM
I've run into the same thing. Not sure this is what's happening to you--just another perspective. A guy pal of mine explained it to me this way.... A guy is in his middle-age crisis. He's looking for a young hottie, and there are plenty on dating sites. In the mean time, he strings along women around his own age to fall back on if he can't get someone younger.

Sad, isn't it?

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Wed 08/25/10 05:35 AM
^^^ Do you really believe that?

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Wed 08/25/10 11:50 AM

I have met countless guys on this site and one other. These guys me send texts, flirts and even call me some of them, I have only met one of them in person, scoring another date is like murder. It's hard for one thing because most of us are parents and are working around our kids, but I really feel as a woman, i should have to be calling all the shots. If these guys are really interested like they CLAIM to be, then what the hell is the problem. I am not desperate, but I am sick of trying to navigate everything. I am a mother of three and I can even manage to pull off some spare time if needed. What gives. Maybe i shouldn't put myself out there anymore. Guys please give some advice, what are you thinking, quit telling girls how beautiful they are if you really are not interested. I'm frustrated.


Take the boxing gloves off your profile:)

And come to Florida! I will make time for youflowers smitten

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Wed 08/25/10 11:51 AM

I've run into the same thing. Not sure this is what's happening to you--just another perspective. A guy pal of mine explained it to me this way.... A guy is in his middle-age crisis. He's looking for a young hottie, and there are plenty on dating sites. In the mean time, he strings along women around his own age to fall back on if he can't get someone younger.

Sad, isn't it?


I think your "guy friend" has his own issues.

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Wed 08/25/10 11:55 AM

I've run into the same thing. Not sure this is what's happening to you--just another perspective. A guy pal of mine explained it to me this way.... A guy is in his middle-age crisis. He's looking for a young hottie, and there are plenty on dating sites. In the mean time, he strings along women around his own age to fall back on if he can't get someone younger.

Sad, isn't it?


Not every guy is like this but I have seen it happen as the "younger" one being perused.

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Wed 08/25/10 12:01 PM
Younger one being pursued? Im hoping im one of those younger ones who get pursued by a good woman lol. Im only 18 but ive been dating mostly much older women since i was like 15. (My last relationship lasted 6months with a 45 year old woman from bangladesh) It was rewarding, we spent enough time together to tie up the gaps between when i could visit and when i couldnt, and it was really fun, but for us, we didnt stay together because of the simple fact that in her culture what we were doing was absolutely scandelous lol

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Wed 08/25/10 01:02 PM

I have met countless guys on this site and one other. These guys me send texts, flirts and even call me some of them, I have only met one of them in person, scoring another date is like murder. It's hard for one thing because most of us are parents and are working around our kids, but I really feel as a woman, i should have to be calling all the shots. If these guys are really interested like they CLAIM to be, then what the hell is the problem. I am not desperate, but I am sick of trying to navigate everything. I am a mother of three and I can even manage to pull off some spare time if needed. What gives. Maybe i shouldn't put myself out there anymore. Guys please give some advice, what are you thinking, quit telling girls how beautiful they are if you really are not interested. I'm frustrated.



This should also explain, in a sarcastic way.




Unfortunately it's not 1990, neither 2000, but not even 2009. It's 2010 and things just aren't the way as it supposed to be.

Read this:
Single? You're not alone

(CNN) -- There are 96 million people in the United States who have no spouse. That means 43 percent of all Americans over the age of 18 are single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

"Single" is defined as adults who have never been married, are divorced or are widowed in the bureau's America's Families and Living Arrangements survey of 2009.

Of the singletons, 61 percent of them have never said "I do." Twenty-four percent are divorced and 15 percent are widowed.

An increasing number of these single Americans -- more than 31 million -- are living alone, according to the census. They make up 27 percent of all households, up from 17 percent in 1970.

About 46 percent of all households nationwide are maintained by a single person. That adds up to 52 million singles.

http://edition.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/08/19/single.in.america/#fbid=GAWQJP2LEcU&wom=false

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Wed 08/25/10 01:05 PM

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Wed 08/25/10 01:14 PM

I have met countless guys on this site and one other. These guys me send texts, flirts and even call me some of them, I have only met one of them in person, scoring another date is like murder. It's hard for one thing because most of us are parents and are working around our kids, but I really feel as a woman, i should have to be calling all the shots. If these guys are really interested like they CLAIM to be, then what the hell is the problem. I am not desperate, but I am sick of trying to navigate everything. I am a mother of three and I can even manage to pull off some spare time if needed. What gives. Maybe i shouldn't put myself out there anymore. Guys please give some advice, what are you thinking, quit telling girls how beautiful they are if you really are not interested. I'm frustrated.
well i have had the same problem.. and there arent kids in my case... seems most want to have a online fantasy... say they want to meet then dont.. you can never get to know someone if you dont meet.. maybe there would of been an interest and maybe not... maybe their self esteem is so low they dont want to take a chance at rejection? however at the same time they are passing up a possibility of the person not rejecting them as well.. i dont get it.. rejection is all a part of life anyway. who cares just means that person wasnt right for you.. or you for them.. doesnt mean anything bad at all.. doesnt even make the person who was rejected un attractive or a nice human as well.. just means that for some reason you 2 were not a match... life goes on! i have not met one local from on here myself. though 4 locals have pretended to want to meet. some its like pulling teeth to even get a picture.. some want your phone number then wont even call! yet continue to tell you they want to call you.. in emails lol! myself im just frustrated as well.. all i find in the single life are games... i guess im too grown up to be single.. most do not even want to meet for friends.. so i do not understand their fears of meeting a new friend? best of luck to you... Debraflowerforyou

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Wed 08/25/10 03:45 PM

i came here to see if actually talking to a guy might work- - - -alien territory for god's sakes.


Wow! I really do fit in here.

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Wed 08/25/10 04:00 PM

I have met countless guys on this site and one other. These guys me send texts, flirts and even call me some of them, I have only met one of them in person, scoring another date is like murder. It's hard for one thing because most of us are parents and are working around our kids, but I really feel as a woman, i should have to be calling all the shots. If these guys are really interested like they CLAIM to be, then what the hell is the problem. I am not desperate, but I am sick of trying to navigate everything. I am a mother of three and I can even manage to pull off some spare time if needed. What gives. Maybe i shouldn't put myself out there anymore. Guys please give some advice, what are you thinking, quit telling girls how beautiful they are if you really are not interested. I'm frustrated.


Oceanbluze, have you considered trying eHarmony.com ?

For what's its worth, you having 3 children at home could be a turn-off for some men. Of course there isn't anything wrong with you having 3 children, but you need to be matched with a man who enjoys children and is willing to include them in his life.



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Wed 08/25/10 04:29 PM
i have tried other sites designed for parents, thinking that would be easier than having to explain everything, although I find men with kids as well have just re-acted the same way. Its also been "hard" coordinating schedules with two single parents in meeting up. I seem to have no problem calling a sitter to make it happen, but with men it's like they have part custody and feel guilty about leaving their kids. (supposedly) even just for two hours. go figure.

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Wed 08/25/10 04:40 PM

. . . with men it's like they have part custody and feel guilty about leaving their kids. (supposedly) even just for two hours. go figure.


Not me. My son reminds me of why some animals eat their young.
Of course, people keep tell me that my son acts just like me.
That scares me. scared

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Wed 08/25/10 06:44 PM
I love children, especially when they belong to someone else....

:wink:

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Wed 08/25/10 06:54 PM
it's a jungle out there - let's go commando! drinker

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Wed 08/25/10 09:28 PM


. . . with men it's like they have part custody and feel guilty about leaving their kids. (supposedly) even just for two hours. go figure.


Not me. My son reminds me of why some animals eat their young.
Of course, people keep tell me that my son acts just like me.
That scares me. scared


haha, no one wants to admit that their kids drive them crazy sometimes, too funny you said that.