Topic: Good Advice for Conflicts ...
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Tue 07/27/10 01:22 PM
Judy U never cease to amaze me with your wisdom and beauty!!!!flowerforyou

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Tue 07/27/10 01:22 PM
bigsmile Yeah yeah I know join Johnny but he better be buying !frustrated

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Tue 07/27/10 01:23 PM

Fuzzy handcuffs and a feather...
If U got the cuffs I got the feather!!!bigsmile :wink: flowerforyou

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Tue 07/27/10 05:22 PM

Judy U never cease to amaze me with your wisdom and beauty!!!!flowerforyou




Awwwwwww thx Mikey blushing

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Tue 07/27/10 05:22 PM

bigsmile Yeah yeah I know join Johnny but he better be buying !frustrated




Well he did when I was there drinkin with him .. he's a generous guy drinks drinks drinks drinks

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Tue 07/27/10 05:24 PM

Passion must also have brakes applied to slow it down a little.

AS passions rise during conflict so does the speed at which it can get out of control.

So is the speed limit 55 words per second?spock



I'm thinkin whatever the speed it should be dropped to the slow lane during those passionate 'conflicts'

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Tue 07/27/10 05:29 PM
All of this knowledge is very welcome.

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Tue 07/27/10 05:34 PM

All of this knowledge is very welcome.


And so are you. Welcome that is. flowerforyou

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Tue 07/27/10 08:03 PM


relationships are issues laugh laugh




YOU! smokin Go sit with Johnny pitchfork


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Tue 07/27/10 08:45 PM



relationships are issues laugh laugh




YOU! smokin Go sit with Johnny pitchfork


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Tue 07/27/10 08:53 PM
It's not a relationship if there are no conflicts. Anyone who thinks you won't get into any fights or arguements in a love relationship, you are wrong. When you are in love, you get hyper sensitive to everything and conflicts will be happening. There will be things, that aren't turning out to be as you want it, and it doesn't even have to be serious. You hyper sensitivy is enlarging it.

It is how you handle it and it takes self control and sometimes sobering up for a few minutes and realizing how it's a big nothing you're arguing about and your emotions have more to do with it than the severity of the problem.

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Tue 07/27/10 10:20 PM

It's not a relationship if there are no conflicts. Anyone who thinks you won't get into any fights or arguements in a love relationship, you are wrong. When you are in love, you get hyper sensitive to everything and conflicts will be happening. There will be things, that aren't turning out to be as you want it, and it doesn't even have to be serious. You hyper sensitivy is enlarging it.

It is how you handle it and it takes self control and sometimes sobering up for a few minutes and realizing how it's a big nothing you're arguing about and your emotions have more to do with it than the severity of the problem.



Yep .. Exactly what the OP said ..


When in conflict, make *the relationship* more important than *the issue* (the big nothing) you're arguing about :wink:

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Thu 07/29/10 01:32 AM

Read this today ..


When in conflict, make *the relationship* more important than *the issue*

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That works only if it is "conflict" and not repetitive "conflicts".

If it is the latter, there is a serious problem in the relationship.:smile:

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Thu 07/29/10 04:36 AM

That works only if it is "conflict" and not repetitive "conflicts".

If it is the latter, there is a serious problem in the relationship.:smile:


If you get to the point that you'd rather stay at work than come home to yet another argument, it's gotten to the point where it's a problem. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, and promptly lost it in the divorce.laugh

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Thu 07/29/10 05:23 AM
You could avoid the relationship that causes the conflict. Wait. I think I should post that in the 'Why are you still single thread?".laugh

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Thu 07/29/10 05:57 AM
Oh - sorry ... I read the header and thought it said 'Good Advice For Convicts' and I was all, like, well, why are we givin' advice to convicts here 'n all that but now I see I was wrong and so I'm, like, all sorry 'n stuff for the misunderstanding 'n like not reading it write the first time so wow, like, y'all don't be bein' angry 'n stuff on me, 'mkay, 'cuz, like, anybody can make a simple mistake like thinkin' it says 'convicts' when it really says like 'conflicts' and a mine really is a terrible thing ...

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Thu 07/29/10 06:01 AM


That works only if it is "conflict" and not repetitive "conflicts".

If it is the latter, there is a serious problem in the relationship.:smile:


If you get to the point that you'd rather stay at work than come home to yet another argument, it's gotten to the point where it's a problem. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, and promptly lost it in the divorce.laugh



Meh .. if the t-shirt was related to the issue or the divorce you wouldn't have wanted it anyway laugh

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Thu 07/29/10 06:02 AM

You could avoid the relationship that causes the conflict. Wait. I think I should post that in the 'Why are you still single thread?".laugh





You guys are too much. You .. over in the corner with Johnny too. laugh

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Thu 07/29/10 07:18 AM
Oddly enough...I am finding as I get older that I have less tolerance for stupidity and nonsense. Now you would think that would result in more conflicts in my life but it's quite the opposite. I am so much more willing to "let it go" these days as opposed to getting all worked up and fighting over it. I used to be the world's worst at holding a grudge or holding onto hurt/angry feelings so that they bubbled up and caused fights all the time. Nowadays I just go with the flow and if someone irritates me I just walk away. drinker

Course the whole "letting it go" thing may be more due to the fact that I now have that C.R.S. (Can't Remember ****) disease than any conscious effort on my part! ohwell bigsmile

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Thu 07/29/10 07:26 AM

Oddly enough...I am finding as I get older that I have less tolerance for stupidity and nonsense. Now you would think that would result in more conflicts in my life but it's quite the opposite. I am so much more willing to "let it go" these days as opposed to getting all worked up and fighting over it. I used to be the world's worst at holding a grudge or holding onto hurt/angry feelings so that they bubbled up and caused fights all the time. Nowadays I just go with the flow and if someone irritates me I just walk away. drinker

Course the whole "letting it go" thing may be more due to the fact that I now have that C.R.S. (Can't Remember ****) disease than any conscious effort on my part! ohwell bigsmile



Lapse of memory can definitely help in "letting it go" eh? :thumbsup: