this is my interpretation of how relationships start. When you meet a person you meet their representative. This is my interpretation of the personality we take on to suit the others' interest:) But there are genuine matches of personality in these cases this doesn't apply. So you know that representative for a period of months until a trial comes your way. Then the real person comes out and you find out who they really are.LOL. Its then when the realization of is this gonna last or not. Is this someone i can see myself with in the future. I believe their would be more meaningful long lasting relationships if people would just mutually be themselves and leave out the representative.

That's why my relationships never last! I'm not into egos and a guys "representative" as you call it, acts like he is ok with a strong, independent female. Months on down the road I come to find out that's really not the case when he turns into a d*ck with a bruised ego because he realizes that I don't NEED him for anything.

Sometimes I think I scare guys away rather quickly because I lack a representative and I just let all of my personality out for the world see from day 1.

Welcome

Your theory is the same psychological test format for " Personality Disorders: Camouflage Clusters."

Many suffer from it - but the sad news is, those that represent their true personality from the gate are dismissed for being "too much; too strong; too jaded; set in their ways", etc. In contrast, many people who camouflage their personality to “catch” a partner can withhold their true colors for years.

Just use common sense and watch for red flags.

BTW, have fun in the forums!

In reality...I'm one rude dude!!

STFU! You are not!

You are a bad azzzz but not rude. (oops, am I giving away your game? )

Me too

Youre a dude?

Lol, I`ve been called 'dudelike', i take it as a compliment

Hello,

My representative has informed me that a request has been made that I respond to this thread. Unfortunately, he is currently in the middle of an online personality test on my behalf, so I'm not sure what to say at this time.

Thank you,
Totage Management

What is it about you...thats "dudelike"?

just my personality, curt and to the point, businesslike (very stern),,, as i have to deal with construction field personnel. and the fact that i`m always in jeans & tee-shirts (have to dress comfortably for work, it`s a warehouse-like place).

no wonder no one likes my representative!

I like it...but I have to keep it to mylsef.

Now that is funny Totage management

Well, they say you should run your life like a business.

Mabe I should try that

amen, be upfront before the emotions attach, I hate having my time wasted or wasting anyone elses time and there is nothing wrong with just being friends and continuing to be available for the 'right' partner

about this whole representative thing i agree Josh. Its a terrible thing to like someone then find out what they are like IF its a disappointment. It seems like there is so many people in this world that pretend who they are. When this happens it leads to meaningless, wastes of time. I would just like to meet some genuine people that dont lie or pretend because that would save us both the heartache.
~one honest girl Ashangel~

And THAT, folks, is the reason a 'FWB' relationship is the best solution ... maintaining separate residences helps, too ..

There are times

maybe rare??

That you meet a person as real as you are

andyou blend like a well made smoothie

personalitys mingling as one

so easy to talk to. So easy to be near. You hold hands from miles away

it's happening to me now

i am experiencing the realness-the wholeness-of another human being because we were not afraid to be "real"

it works!!!