How do you deal with liars?

Confront them?? If so...how far do you take it?
Walk away?? If so...how do you blow it off?

*edit to add* Insert disclaimer here

I confront

I find out all the facts first

and then confront

and keep confronting

and confronting

until

the truth is told


Damn I'd make a great prosicuter(?)(spell check). Lol

Kim, it depends on who it was and what they lied about? It is family or friends, I normally confront them. Talk about how fragile trust is and it's not easily earned after broken. If they make a habit out of it, I normally cut them off (friends that is).

If it is no one of importance I normally blow it off and minimize my exposure to them so I don't have to deal with it. I don't have time for dishonesty.

I have to blow them off, because
I can't stand a liar.
I have to force myself to not rely
on anything that exits their mouth.

How to, hmmmm.
I guess I play the lalala song in my head.

i married one.. my ex hubby he was a cronic lyer
even when he was caught lying he would make up a excuse

for me, it depends upon the lie and the why of the lie. if they are honestly trying to protect someone or have good intentions, i might scoff and let them know that i've seen through it...

if they are claiming prior plans or something to get out of something, i'll usually let them. they might not know how to say "no" and need to not do whatever it is.

if it's malicious, that's a whole nother story...i tend to let them know, as soon as the lie hits, that i'm aware that it is one. i point out that non-truths can be harmful, same with gossip. i'll point out that it's not their story to tell, and maybe they should keep their mouth shut.

It depends on how good they are. A terrible liar is just lazy and insulting. But, if they put the time and effort into it, the least I could do is play a long for a bit just to waste their time.

I believe all lies are told out of fear. If I can figure out what the basis of their fear is, then we can resolve their feeling they 'need' to lie about things.

I also limit the amount of exposure here. I pretty much abide by the Three Strike Rule. They have three shots to break the lying habit and if they succeed, we remain in each others lives. If they can't/won't break the habit...they no longer exist in my world. It's pretty simple, no drama, no anger...just walk away.

produce the evidence, then confront them with others they lied to there. Block the escape as they are held to account.


THEN SCOLD ON THEM HARD!

Maybe cover them in Tarantulas...

Good question.....

I deal with liars, by letting them know they are lying. If they deny it, I share the fact(s) of how I know.

If they continue to lie about(whatever)the subject. I make sure they have a guarded or no part of my life.

If, they admit they lied, I try to find out why, they felt like they needed to lie to me?

THE only problem is I still keep lying to myself about not looking fat in this outfit....

I tend to like to bust people. It's a hobby of mine After that, I walk away

I have to have hard proof that they lied to start with, then I get on with my life without them.

Though, once I send an email to a liar, informing them that the benefits their lie had purchased were paltry compared to the gifts the truth would have unveiled.

I got no problem with liars.I have friends who lie constantly. I simply accept the fact that everything they say is bullsh*t and we still remain friends. (they sure dont like hearing that though)

Apparently none of you liar haters will ever date a lawyer. (its thier job to bend the truth....cant fault them for doing thier job)

Yes, I do love a good lie...

Ohhhhhhh I'm coming!!!!!!

That was the best sex I EVER had!

Krupa, you got the biggest **** I have ever seen......

.................oh yeah...lie to me baby.

the krupalope strikes again

I think everyone’s reaction to any lie is based on the extremity and purpose of the lie.

To say, “I ‘love’ the sweater”, that my mother gave me for Christmas…which in truth means, I love that my mother thought to get me a sweater she thought I’d love, is a very different lie than “I didn’t sleep with your best friend”, though you have the video tape that clearly shows him screwing your best friend.

If you tolerate the later from your friends and have no problem with it, then you are a much more free and easy person than most.

BTW...how do you know your friends are lying to you?

How do I know my friends are lying? I got some pretty dumb friends and attention to detail is not thier forte'. They give themselves away. I also work with most of my friends. At various times I will borrow a phone.."I gotta check something"...I the activate thier GPS signal and give the phone back. Later when they are taking a three hour lunch or coming in at 11 am I can call and ask "Where the hell are you?"

When I get the inevitable, "I had to take my girl/kid/mom to the doctors/hospital/probation" I can then laugh as I am looking at thier gps signal at thier house on a satellite map and say.."then why the f*** am I sitting here looking at you sitting in your f'n house?"

5 minutes later they are back at work with a sheepish grin saying "Ya got me..how did you know?"

My answer......"You aint that smart"

It depends because I'm very confrontational but there are so many liars out there, I just don't have the time.

right on!

I have a special way to deal with them. don't confront them, I just make them realize that I'm not a fool and soon they gonna stop lying by themselves.

Sometimes I just blatantly lie back to them, like so badly there's no way for them to not know. Kinda sends the message that you think the other person is dumb enough to fall for it. It's weird but it's a bit like reverse psychology and it works.