Love is surely better when it's gone.



How has loss shaped your perception of what's important?

Life is but a flicker of a flame.

It has taught me to be appreciative of what I have and not what I don't have. It has let me know to gather rosebuds while I may. I have come to learn how to take advantage of the moment and find that some things in life are temporary. Love did mean more to me when it was gone in that I really didn't fully appreciate that till it was gone. I have found that sometimes it is more important to give love than to receive love. Good topic.

I have lost at love, and I have lost friends to the horrors of war. These monents of our life are hard to go through and I am not going to say I am not hurting right now, because I just lost again.....But to the outside world I just put on my clown makeup and look to all as the tough man. I am learning from these times that it is ok to hurt and I don't have to be tough all the time. I've also learned that in love sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

And my young friend, Love isn't better when it's gone, it just hurts more. Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels.

The reason we hold so dearly to "LOVE" and all it stands for is because of the feelings of oneness that connect us at the soul level. We are creatures made to feel affirmed and wanted. We should be complete by ourselves, but comlimented by our partner.

So ya .. the old adage "It is better to have loved and lost .. than not to have loved at all" ... is true.

Always will be. No matter our pained hearts that tempt us to deny it.

I've developed a greater 'sense of urgency' because of loss ... I no longer wait until the fictional 'tomorrow' or 'later' to do or say things to people I care about. They - or I - may not be here when that time comes. We aren't promised the next five minutes, let alone the next five years or the next five decades. Life is short, fast, and temporary - if you don't tell the people in your life how much they mean to you while you're lookin' at them thru those cute li'l eyes you were born with, you'll never tell 'em once those cute li'l eyes are closed permanently. As for love - if it's gone, it doesn't exist. I'll take it being present in my life even if it does sometimes cause temporary pain ... the up side makes it all worthwhile.

Thanks Fade, but it still hurts like hell.

Heartbreak to me is a physical thing. WIll Young explains it best in his song Leave right now.......

I know. I've been there. I'm sorry Mike.

Agreed.

its painful as hell, thats for sure, but afterwards it made me recognize my weaknesses towards the people i love or loved. However, i'm still glad i experienced it, even if it killed me afterwards.

here is to love

wow this made me cry

Excellent thoughts. :)

And a spark can start a fire.

It has taught me not to trust anyone -- people will say anything to get you hooked, but in the end, all they really care about is babies and booze.

For those people, "love" is a tool, a sledgehammer, a means of manipulation. It goes no farther than their own perceived "needs."

"Better when it's gone"? -- Absolutely.

Love is better when it's gone?

Well I don't know about that

it hurts deep down to lose love

10x more if it's through death

that is a bitter statement

hope your not searching for it now

cause when I read that statement it makes me feel like you won't care or nuture it if you do find it!


Jmo

that is not love, Lex...ur

In all seriousness - that is manipulation and cruelty....if u don't believe me check Webster's. You will know when a woman loves you because you will not feel manipulated or deceived.

you grow. let go & move on. keep hold of those things which define who u are. value your family. love happens again. but can this next time be the last time? we want forever. does that even happen any more? and when did I get so jaded?

it is so true... i guess some people never see what love really is.
people are blinded by what they want out of love, not the love that is given to them

oh, I like this comment, mighty. We all want something. We all have something to give. But when we are in love we are more concerned with the giving than the getting. so sometimes we get burned. thats
how we can become bitter...if it happens over & over again that we r the ones doing all the giving....

it is a message that ur love is meant to be with a particular lady/man when you can give & give, and receive at a good balance that is tolerable for u both, and it is seamless.

seamless in that u don't have to have those sit down talks all the time to say, or hear ur partner say that you (or they) feel like they're doing all the giving (in the many, many ways that that can be said)