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I think that most woman "our" age have a hard time finding someone because they don't put themselves "out there". You are not going to find the "love of your life" sitting at home watching TV and knitting. It seems that most women are afraid to venture out anywhere alone. And I don't mean hanging out in bars. They spend their time with the same small group of friends, shy from making even casual contact with anyone they don't know, and then wonder why they don't meet people. That's true! You're not going to find anyone staying home, volunteer, join a bookclub, hiking group, so many options. The problem I'm having lately is men who contact me that have major health issues, I'm fairly healthy (just had a hip replacement in October but went back, fulltime work in November 5 weeks off)that's been my only health problem, not on any medication. But some of these gentlemen have such MAJOR health issues morbid obesity, diabetes, (which if they'd lose weight they'd do theirselves a big favor)CHF,etc etc And I feel for them but don't want to be someones "nurse" gad! it's a complicated world when we get older.....And yes I know sometimes health problems can just happen (stroke, cancer etc) |
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Edited by
burgundybry
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Fri 01/07/11 03:21 PM
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Old and Jaded? I think it is time we resurrected interest in this topic again. This generation of people lack common decency and respect for each other. That seems to be the deeper issue nowadays. Men are acting like children and women have these "must have lists".
Respect and understanding are definately calling cards folk must have before even hitting the dating scene. In my mind's eye, I see the dating scene as being very competitive. Most men do want the "model" type woman. A product of their imaginations growing up and takng root in today,s culture. A way needs to be found for all people to be "equal oportunity" when it comes to finding someone. All of the barriers need to come down and people just need to look at each other a bit differently. I would have no problem with a woman my age. I just see a lot of barriers up that need to come down. If a 50 plus woman approaches me, I am going to come in with both eyes open and no hang ups. That is how it should be .  (quoting mrheartfelt) |
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Some people talk about "being old" a lot..Both men and women do this...They make jokes about their age and talk about their aches and pains a lot etc...This always "gets old" to me...I enjoy having friends of all ages...I try to stay "open" to new things...new ideas...new inventions...new music and new dances...I don't want to be "stuck in the past" or obsolete...But I am not an advocate of plastic surgery or "tummy tucks" or hair dye to cover my gray either...I'm not on a quest for the "fountain of youth" per se....But I don't want to "lay down and die" prematurely either or assume that no one will want me because I'm 62 now.
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Old and Jaded? I think it is time we resurrected interest in this topic again. This generation of people lack common decency and respect for each other. That seems to be the deeper issue nowadays. Men are acting like children and women have these "must have lists". Respect and understanding are definately calling cards folk must have before even hitting the dating scene. In my mind's eye, I see the dating scene as being very competitive. Most men do want the "model" type woman. A product of their imaginations growing up and takng root in today,s culture. A way needs to be found for all people to be "equal oportunity" when it comes to finding someone. All of the barriers need to come down and people just need to look at each other a bit differently. I would have no problem with a woman my age. I just see a lot of barriers up that need to come down. If a 50 plus woman approaches me, I am going to come in with both eyes open and no hang ups. That is how it should be . (quoting mrheartfelt) Yea! Let's resurrect this topic  You're right as usual Bry..I have no issues with being a 63 yr old woman. I have no trouble leaving old issues and hangups behind me. I have dated some in the last few yrs. No problem. I haven't resorted to plastic surgery. I have dyed my hair I hope I have no major health issues. Where I'm going with this is...people (our age) don't want to commit. I don't want to commit to a 'forever' relationship with all the hassles of who's money is it and you are going to do this or the other. My kids vs his kids, ect. Respect and kindness, a helping hand, a shoulder to lean on, a it's going to be ok. Let's go out and walk under the moonlight, let's dance in the rain. Let's ENJOY each other! There are no guarantees. Don't make promises you can't keep, just say 'let's try and see what happens'. So far most of the men I've dated want to get into my business right off the bat. My business is none of their business, just as theirs is none of mine. I enjoy a good time, I enjoy being intimate, no matter what "wishing2' says  . There IS life after menopause!!! |
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Old and Jaded? I think it is time we resurrected interest in this topic again. This generation of people lack common decency and respect for each other. That seems to be the deeper issue nowadays. Men are acting like children and women have these "must have lists". Respect and understanding are definately calling cards folk must have before even hitting the dating scene. In my mind's eye, I see the dating scene as being very competitive. Most men do want the "model" type woman. A product of their imaginations growing up and takng root in today,s culture. A way needs to be found for all people to be "equal oportunity" when it comes to finding someone. All of the barriers need to come down and people just need to look at each other a bit differently. I would have no problem with a woman my age. I just see a lot of barriers up that need to come down. If a 50 plus woman approaches me, I am going to come in with both eyes open and no hang ups. That is how it should be . (quoting mrheartfelt) Yea! Let's resurrect this topic You're right as usual Bry..I have no issues with being a 63 yr old woman. I have no trouble leaving old issues and hangups behind me. I have dated some in the last few yrs. No problem. I haven't resorted to plastic surgery. I have dyed my hair I hope I have no major health issues. Where I'm going with this is...people (our age) don't want to commit. I don't want to commit to a 'forever' relationship with all the hassles of who's money is it and you are going to do this or the other. My kids vs his kids, ect. Respect and kindness, a helping hand, a shoulder to lean on, a it's going to be ok. Let's go out and walk under the moonlight, let's dance in the rain. Let's ENJOY each other! There are no guarantees. Don't make promises you can't keep, just say 'let's try and see what happens'. So far most of the men I've dated want to get into my business right off the bat. My business is none of their business, just as theirs is none of mine. I enjoy a good time, I enjoy being intimate, no matter what "wishing2' says . There IS life after menopause!!! They don't call you "Hot Lips" for nothing! 
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Old and Jaded? I think it is time we resurrected interest in this topic again. This generation of people lack common decency and respect for each other. That seems to be the deeper issue nowadays. Men are acting like children and women have these "must have lists". Respect and understanding are definately calling cards folk must have before even hitting the dating scene. In my mind's eye, I see the dating scene as being very competitive. Most men do want the "model" type woman. A product of their imaginations growing up and takng root in today,s culture. A way needs to be found for all people to be "equal oportunity" when it comes to finding someone. All of the barriers need to come down and people just need to look at each other a bit differently. I would have no problem with a woman my age. I just see a lot of barriers up that need to come down. If a 50 plus woman approaches me, I am going to come in with both eyes open and no hang ups. That is how it should be . (quoting mrheartfelt) Yea! Let's resurrect this topic You're right as usual Bry..I have no issues with being a 63 yr old woman. I have no trouble leaving old issues and hangups behind me. I have dated some in the last few yrs. No problem. I haven't resorted to plastic surgery. I have dyed my hair I hope I have no major health issues. Where I'm going with this is...people (our age) don't want to commit. I don't want to commit to a 'forever' relationship with all the hassles of who's money is it and you are going to do this or the other. My kids vs his kids, ect. Respect and kindness, a helping hand, a shoulder to lean on, a it's going to be ok. Let's go out and walk under the moonlight, let's dance in the rain. Let's ENJOY each other! There are no guarantees. Don't make promises you can't keep, just say 'let's try and see what happens'. So far most of the men I've dated want to get into my business right off the bat. My business is none of their business, just as theirs is none of mine. I enjoy a good time, I enjoy being intimate, no matter what "wishing2' says . There IS life after menopause!!! They don't call you "Hot Lips" for nothing! you're the only one that does that! |
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Old and Jaded? I think it is time we resurrected interest in this topic again. This generation of people lack common decency and respect for each other. That seems to be the deeper issue nowadays. Men are acting like children and women have these "must have lists". Respect and understanding are definately calling cards folk must have before even hitting the dating scene. In my mind's eye, I see the dating scene as being very competitive. Most men do want the "model" type woman. A product of their imaginations growing up and takng root in today,s culture. A way needs to be found for all people to be "equal oportunity" when it comes to finding someone. All of the barriers need to come down and people just need to look at each other a bit differently. I would have no problem with a woman my age. I just see a lot of barriers up that need to come down. If a 50 plus woman approaches me, I am going to come in with both eyes open and no hang ups. That is how it should be . (quoting mrheartfelt) Yea! Let's resurrect this topic You're right as usual Bry..I have no issues with being a 63 yr old woman. I have no trouble leaving old issues and hangups behind me. I have dated some in the last few yrs. No problem. I haven't resorted to plastic surgery. I have dyed my hair I hope I have no major health issues. Where I'm going with this is...people (our age) don't want to commit. I don't want to commit to a 'forever' relationship with all the hassles of who's money is it and you are going to do this or the other. My kids vs his kids, ect. Respect and kindness, a helping hand, a shoulder to lean on, a it's going to be ok. Let's go out and walk under the moonlight, let's dance in the rain. Let's ENJOY each other! There are no guarantees. Don't make promises you can't keep, just say 'let's try and see what happens'. So far most of the men I've dated want to get into my business right off the bat. My business is none of their business, just as theirs is none of mine. I enjoy a good time, I enjoy being intimate, no matter what "wishing2' says . There IS life after menopause!!!  (((Viv)))
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((((Bry))))
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I think the men in our age group are more interested in dating women 10-20 years younger than themselves, making them fool themselves that they are that young also. They are seeking their own youth. .....and then there was the guy that told me he had a 30 year old mind in a 60 year old body. It seems a waste of time - 30 years, that is. 
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once they see that I have grey hair they are gone but its pretty white silver. hum? go figure
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Edited by
mssilverfox
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Wed 01/19/11 11:01 PM
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once they see that I have grey hair they are gone but its pretty white silver. hum? go figure Yep, know what you mean about your hair...mine was silver at an early age, now a beautiful white and I refuse to dye it.. Cost a lot and my hair grows very fast.. I'd be there all the time although the girls at the shop want me to go red..lol I have better things to do with my money (travel)... There's still a lot to give and a lot of passion under that white hair...give it a chance! |
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I think you are only as old as you think think you are. It's a frame of mind. I might be in my 50's, but I don't feel i'm ready for the nursing home yet.
 Now I'm just smart enough to know not to do some of the same things I did at 20.
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Yeah me too but I want to get on that horse and ride like the wind
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Viv, Silverfox, Sparkey, Sadie, & others have all said it much better than I. At this age, relationships take on a different meaning. Past life problems, I have, I would not inflict on ANYONE else. Other peoples kids, most don't like me because I am so opinionated & they can't agree to disagree or ignore me. Matters not to me, either way. Younger women, don't share the same thought pattern & I am not willing to train. Now there are exceptions to every rule & NEVER say NEVER. But for the most part; companionship, dinner partner, traveling companion, somebody that can put up with me & let me be ME, I will do the same for them, is all I want..anymore.
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Viv, Silverfox, Sparkey, Sadie, & others have all said it much better than I. At this age, relationships take on a different meaning. Past life problems, I have, I would not inflict on ANYONE else. Other peoples kids, most don't like me because I am so opinionated & they can't agree to disagree or ignore me. Matters not to me, either way. Younger women, don't share the same thought pattern & I am not willing to train. Now there are exceptions to every rule & NEVER say NEVER. But for the most part; companionship, dinner partner, traveling companion, somebody that can put up with me & let me be ME, I will do the same for them, is all I want..anymore. Does this make sense?? Perfect sense!! 
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I think you are only as old as you think think you are. It's a frame of mind. I might be in my 50's, but I don't feel i'm ready for the nursing home yet. Now I'm just smart enough to know not to do some of the same things I did at 20. I'm not that smart! 
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I think you are only as old as you think think you are. It's a frame of mind. I might be in my 50's, but I don't feel i'm ready for the nursing home yet. Now I'm just smart enough to know not to do some of the same things I did at 20. I'm not that smart! poor baby!
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I think you are only as old as you think think you are. It's a frame of mind. I might be in my 50's, but I don't feel i'm ready for the nursing home yet. Now I'm just smart enough to know not to do some of the same things I did at 20. I'm not that smart! poor baby! Hey, you don't either! |
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I think you are only as old as you think think you are. It's a frame of mind. I might be in my 50's, but I don't feel i'm ready for the nursing home yet. Now I'm just smart enough to know not to do some of the same things I did at 20. I'm not that smart! 
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