I went to go meet a guy I met on here and we were really for it being the first meeting and everything but I thought we seem to really hit it off. Excluding how shy and nervous we were. There was a family emergency andthings didn't go so well. He lost a family member the day after I left and we still talk but we seem so distant compared to a month ago.

He even told me how girls hit on him so much now which never use to happen and how he likes it. He even picked up a girl once and said he never does that? But even if your seeing someone I don't feel you should be picking up another girl? The distance for us is only an hour but neither one of us drives. So we have to go by train.

We use to take an interest in each others lives and now I feel it's a one way street. Can this change with time as it could be just because he is grieving??

i think he has lost interest so much as he is even telling you about his dates etc... think he is giving you a very hard hint... time to go your own way..

Maybe meeting you in person gave him the confidence he needed to meet or pick up other women.

Doesn't sound much like he's grieving to me, but just liking the attention that he's getting from the ladies

Sorry but it sounds to me like he has lost interest Chelsea. Probably time to put him in the "friend" category and move on? Disappointing I know, but...

if a guy tells you that he picked up another woman then he clearly do not care about your feelings or he has a death wish but either way it's a red flag .....don't walk or take the train.....Run ...unless of course you like that type of drama

That's what I was afraid of.. What really disappointed me was that he was the one looking for a relationship and I wasn't but really started to think there was something there. He was even showing me to his friends and everything..? Now all of a sudden he doesn't want any kind of commitment??

Ugh... Not impressed..

Yeah I'm gonna have to go with the group on this one. A lot of times online friendships don't translate to real life ones. People sometimes have a different personality when they have the luxury of being behind a monitor.

i dont necessarily think he is trying to hurt her feelings.. maybe so or could be.. but doesnt sound like it.. i think he cant communicate to her by being blunt.. a lot of times this occurs when someone doesnt want to hurt your feelings..

It's weird because we were both the people who we said we were. And had a blast. I'm not saying it just because I did. He even told me that the whole time he was with me he didn't think about past relationships he was just happy with me.

I don't think so either because he went into details about how that never happens and he doesn't normally do that. I am just so confused. I have alot going on already.

You must have built up his confidence in himself. It seems like you have helped him. But maybe that didn't help you so much. But then again maybe it cut to the chase and you are free to seek someone who is more serious about a relationship with just you. It probably has given stuff to think about before you next encounter.

And then you have to factor in that some people are just plain weird. I gave up on thinking all people think rationally a loooooooong time ago.

Very true to both of ther above posts.

ehhhhhh same i went thru numerous times

Ok. Were you two dating (after you spent time with him)? Did you both decide to become bf/gf? If so, then yeah, him hitting on other women is totally not cool. Now, if you two were not bf/gf, or exclusive dating, or whatever, then he really didn't do anything wrong.

To answer your question though, he is not grieving. You don't grieve by picking up a chick. You might go get drunk and then stumble into meeting a woman and then going home and getting laid. But really...how many times does that REALLY happen? I'm grieveing, so I went out and pick this hot chick up and banged her. Sorry. Not happening.

This guys an ***!!


Move on

What he said .. sorry sweetie

Don't waste another minute. Get the check. Pay the bill. You can do it

really, agreed

Chelsea it's time to cut & run - doesn't sound like he's any great catch anyway if he doesn't know better than to talk to you about other women he's dating. I think that it is mean to do that to you & u can do waaaaaaaaay lots better than that nonsense -as u r very cute!

Thanks I went for a walk tonight and did alot of thinking and I am tired of being second to someone. For once I want to feel like I am #1. I deserve it and I know it. One day it will happen and I am not going to rush anything. I like suprises. Thanks sweetest!

Goof - we were seeing each other. Don't really think that classifies as bf/gf but just my opinion you still don't do that. Not very nice at all. Everything happens for a reason.