Topic: Dating Perferences..or Dating Predjudices!?!?!
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Fri 07/16/10 07:36 PM

You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences.
ya, sure they do - me? eh - I don't get wigged out by a whole heck of a lot...

but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic

and I agree with her

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Fri 07/16/10 07:59 PM

Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think?


I had this conversation with my son today. Attraction and chemistry is about MUCH more than physical attributes and sex. People can change their outward appearance pretty simply and they can evolve sexually. The things that should matter are common values and goals though. So, something like, not wanting to date a fifty year old who is still interested in eighteen year olds,, speaks to a certain mentality that someone doesnt feel is compatible. Not wanting to date a blonde,,is kind of superficial, although stating that you prefer non blondes is not. I guess its all in the wording and the reason behind your 'standards.'

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Fri 07/16/10 08:01 PM


You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences.
ya, sure they do - me? eh - I don't get wigged out by a whole heck of a lot...

but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic

and I agree with her


And that is your preference.

Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree.

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Fri 07/16/10 08:04 PM
I think so too!


But alot are not really looking all that hard ya know

some are playing games

some just want friends

some make this their life


There are all kinds-- no different then real life

take it with a grain of salt ya know

maybe just maybe the real one will "pop" up!:heart:

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Fri 07/16/10 08:07 PM



You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences.
ya, sure they do - me? eh - I don't get wigged out by a whole heck of a lot...

but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic

and I agree with her


And that is your preference.

Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree.
yup and u r absolutely correct again ~ this must be the F&L nite to be rite nitelaugh I agree we are entitled to our preferenes , but some of them crack me up....I also tend to agree w/ u that this topic is overdone....maybe the OP is new -er to the threads???what

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Fri 07/16/10 08:10 PM

I think so too!


But alot are not really looking all that hard ya know

some are playing games

some just want friends

some make this their life


There are all kinds-- no different then real life

take it with a grain of salt ya know

maybe just maybe the real one will "pop" up!:heart:


would be nice if the real one would do "something" "up":thumbsup: winking

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Fri 07/16/10 08:13 PM
I could/should post this in every "Dating and Relationship" topic.

Every relationship I have been involved in has been different. No two women have ever been remotely the same and I like it that way. Short, tall, thin or not thin...it doesn't matter as long as I find her attractive, engaging and independent. It helps if she has a sense of humor but more importantly, I DO want to be challenged, frustrated and kept guessing; and to quote, she should always be "an enigma wrapped in a riddle shrouded in mystery." Anything else would be just too boring.

I guess what I am trying to say is just relax and don't go looking for specifics or the perfect match, just enjoy how she makes you feel and go with it.

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Fri 07/16/10 08:16 PM
I totally have a preference when it comes to guys, i have standards, and also what im physically attracted to, to some it might be picky but i just know what i like, but then im not going to pass up a nice guy either.

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Fri 07/16/10 08:31 PM
i prefer lobster over steak
i prefer brown hair over blond.. however would i date a blond? well yes i married one once.. i prefer brown eyes i think lol or i used to however mostly dated guys with blue eyes...
i think preference was in everyone the day we were born.. babies prefer bright colors..and bananas over peas.thumbs over toes...
i dont get how that is prejudice.

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Fri 07/16/10 08:37 PM
I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face.

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Sat 07/17/10 09:16 AM

I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face.
how predictably sweet of you goofflowerforyou

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Sat 07/17/10 11:25 AM

I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face.
Don't tempt me!

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Sat 07/17/10 12:30 PM


I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face.
how predictably sweet of you goofflowerforyou


I know right. I mean....it is all about the sweetness. Forget sending flowers or lovey dovey cards. That is sooooo 1970's.

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Sat 07/17/10 02:31 PM




You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences.
ya, sure they do - me? eh - I don't get wigged out by a whole heck of a lot...

but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic

and I agree with her


And that is your preference.

Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree.
yup and u r absolutely correct again ~ this must be the F&L nite to be rite nitelaugh I agree we are entitled to our preferenes , but some of them crack me up....I also tend to agree w/ u that this topic is overdone....maybe the OP is new -er to the threads???what


This is actually her some-odd hundredth topic on this very subject. Which is why I was annoyed.

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Sat 07/17/10 03:03 PM





You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences.
ya, sure they do - me? eh - I don't get wigged out by a whole heck of a lot...

but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic

and I agree with her


And that is your preference.

Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree.
yup and u r absolutely correct again ~ this must be the F&L nite to be rite nitelaugh I agree we are entitled to our preferenes , but some of them crack me up....I also tend to agree w/ u that this topic is overdone....maybe the OP is new -er to the threads???what


This is actually her some-odd hundredth topic on this very subject. Which is why I was annoyed.
no offence your always annoyed or so it seems

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Mon 07/19/10 12:27 PM

Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think?


i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what
that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones

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Mon 07/19/10 02:50 PM
Edited by Fade2Black on Mon 07/19/10 02:52 PM


Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think?


i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what
that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones



Cynicism is lethal. It is obvious when someone has experienced overload in the rejection arena so doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin. They have no pictures of themselves & tend to post angry or nasty messages in the forums. The writing is on the wall sorry to say.

To the OP .. I do agree. People can be too picky and leave no room for the magic flowerforyou

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Mon 07/19/10 03:33 PM



Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think?


i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what
that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones



Cynicism is lethal. It is obvious when someone has experienced overload in the rejection arena so doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin. They have no pictures of themselves & tend to post angry or nasty messages in the forums. The writing is on the wall sorry to say.

To the OP .. I do agree. People can be too picky and leave no room for the magic flowerforyou
yea really whats up with that

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Mon 07/19/10 05:19 PM




Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think?


i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what
that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones



Cynicism is lethal. It is obvious when someone has experienced overload in the rejection arena so doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin. They have no pictures of themselves & tend to post angry or nasty messages in the forums. The writing is on the wall sorry to say.

To the OP .. I do agree. People can be too picky and leave no room for the magic flowerforyou
yea really whats up with that



smokin

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Tue 07/20/10 12:50 AM
Edited by 28chacha on Tue 07/20/10 01:39 AM
I think reducing a person to a "list" is pointless and misses the whole point of trying to know someone. I've had it happen, and I thought, "This is just like shopping... Shopping for people. You have your milk, eggs, and bacon. Now you need to make sure he's also well educated, tall, handsome, can benchpress more than a few poodles, and looks good in a mankini."