Topic: Dating Perferences..or Dating Predjudices!?!?! | |
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You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences. but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic and I agree with her |
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Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think? I had this conversation with my son today. Attraction and chemistry is about MUCH more than physical attributes and sex. People can change their outward appearance pretty simply and they can evolve sexually. The things that should matter are common values and goals though. So, something like, not wanting to date a fifty year old who is still interested in eighteen year olds,, speaks to a certain mentality that someone doesnt feel is compatible. Not wanting to date a blonde,,is kind of superficial, although stating that you prefer non blondes is not. I guess its all in the wording and the reason behind your 'standards.' |
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You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences. but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic and I agree with her And that is your preference. Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree. |
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I think so too!
But alot are not really looking all that hard ya know some are playing games some just want friends some make this their life There are all kinds-- no different then real life take it with a grain of salt ya know maybe just maybe the real one will "pop" up! |
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You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences. but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic and I agree with her And that is your preference. Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree. |
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I think so too! But alot are not really looking all that hard ya know some are playing games some just want friends some make this their life There are all kinds-- no different then real life take it with a grain of salt ya know maybe just maybe the real one will "pop" up! would be nice if the real one would do "something" "up" |
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I could/should post this in every "Dating and Relationship" topic.
Every relationship I have been involved in has been different. No two women have ever been remotely the same and I like it that way. Short, tall, thin or not thin...it doesn't matter as long as I find her attractive, engaging and independent. It helps if she has a sense of humor but more importantly, I DO want to be challenged, frustrated and kept guessing; and to quote, she should always be "an enigma wrapped in a riddle shrouded in mystery." Anything else would be just too boring. I guess what I am trying to say is just relax and don't go looking for specifics or the perfect match, just enjoy how she makes you feel and go with it. |
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I totally have a preference when it comes to guys, i have standards, and also what im physically attracted to, to some it might be picky but i just know what i like, but then im not going to pass up a nice guy either.
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i prefer lobster over steak
i prefer brown hair over blond.. however would i date a blond? well yes i married one once.. i prefer brown eyes i think lol or i used to however mostly dated guys with blue eyes... i think preference was in everyone the day we were born.. babies prefer bright colors..and bananas over peas.thumbs over toes... i dont get how that is prejudice. |
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I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face.
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I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face. |
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I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face. |
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I dunno....I am partial to a chick who will sit on your face. I know right. I mean....it is all about the sweetness. Forget sending flowers or lovey dovey cards. That is sooooo 1970's. |
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You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences. but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic and I agree with her And that is your preference. Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree. This is actually her some-odd hundredth topic on this very subject. Which is why I was annoyed. |
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You post the same topic up using different words and the answer is always the same: People have their own preferences. but my impression of the OP's point is that sometimes these preferences can get so picky that they are barely, if at all, realistic and I agree with her And that is your preference. Everyone has their own preferences, some are more laxed than others and others...well, won't find a date more than likely on this planet. None-the-less, they are preferences and we all have them to some degree. This is actually her some-odd hundredth topic on this very subject. Which is why I was annoyed. |
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Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think? i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones |
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Edited by
Fade2Black
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Mon 07/19/10 02:52 PM
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Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think? i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones Cynicism is lethal. It is obvious when someone has experienced overload in the rejection arena so doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin. They have no pictures of themselves & tend to post angry or nasty messages in the forums. The writing is on the wall sorry to say. To the OP .. I do agree. People can be too picky and leave no room for the magic |
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Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think? i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones Cynicism is lethal. It is obvious when someone has experienced overload in the rejection arena so doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin. They have no pictures of themselves & tend to post angry or nasty messages in the forums. The writing is on the wall sorry to say. To the OP .. I do agree. People can be too picky and leave no room for the magic |
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Ok..so..I have noticed several profiles stating that the person is looking for an LTR or marriage but then goes on to state this looooooooooooong list of things that they don't want in a partner..and in scanning these lists they seem like REALLY trival reasons to not give someone a fair shot at getting to know them..things like Hair Color to The type of car that someone drives..Do people create the need for these types of sites by being too freakin picky?..Are people sabotaging their own chances at finding love?..I THINK SO!!!!..What do you guys think? i think most people are so superfiscial i have seen people rejected for being 1 inch to short in height is that effin stupid or what that is why i have no expectations from this site just to play the games and read post and to laugh at the dumb ones Cynicism is lethal. It is obvious when someone has experienced overload in the rejection arena so doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin. They have no pictures of themselves & tend to post angry or nasty messages in the forums. The writing is on the wall sorry to say. To the OP .. I do agree. People can be too picky and leave no room for the magic |
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Edited by
28chacha
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Tue 07/20/10 01:39 AM
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I think reducing a person to a "list" is pointless and misses the whole point of trying to know someone. I've had it happen, and I thought, "This is just like shopping... Shopping for people. You have your milk, eggs, and bacon. Now you need to make sure he's also well educated, tall, handsome, can benchpress more than a few poodles, and looks good in a mankini."
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