Just curious as to how others react to receiving gifts. I don't like to recieve gifts at all. I always tell others not to give me a gift but rather donate money to the homeless. A guy I was dating dumped me because I refused his gift of flowers. To me, I would rather he spend time with me and not spend money one me or making a gift for me. I feel like he was trying to buy my love rather than taking time to talk and be with me. To me the best gifts are whats in your heart; a hug; an "I love you". I don't need flowers or any other gifts to show someone loves me or cares for me. Why can't men accept that I am fine without gifts? What are your thoughts?

Sometimes a small token of Love can go a long ways to make someones day!!

I feel obligated to accept gifts, but I feel uncomfortable receiving them.

That is my point. That hug means more to me than flowers or jewelry anytime. I just couldn't make this guy understand that.

Gimme gimme gimme gimme

Depends on the gift.

Handwritten letters make my heart melt. *smile*

Really, anything that they make and give to me would make me melt.

I tell people bluntly I don't want gifts and if they give them to me; I will either donate them or throw them away. I know that sounds mean but they get the point real quickly.

People give gifts as a way for you to show that someone cares for you. I know the hugs and words mean more but you can't put a hug on your mantle and show it to friends who come over.

As long as I get "that special" wake up call

A gift, like a compliment is just the other person's way of doing or saying something nice for you. I finally learned that when you don't accept either of them graciously, you are taking the pleasure away from the other person's kind gesture. It's really about both parties giving and receiving.

So, you are saying that love needs to be displayed on a mantle? Why?

What about respecting a person's right to not receive gifts? So, I have to pretend to like gifts to appease them? Isn't that being dishonest?

You can if you cut off their arms and put them on your mantle....just saying....

But that is exactly that; I am not greatful; I resent it.

Isn't a hug a "display" of affection and love? It just isn't one that everyone can see when you and your loved one aren't together. A person gives a gift to let you and others know that you mean something special to someone, the hug is to let just you or only those watching know.

Maybe (and this is just a question ) people who don't want gifts from loved ones, don't want to get close for fear of getting hurt? (Not meant to single anyone out, just a question)

So by the same token, do you not ever GIVE gifts either then?

Yes, your rights should be respected. I agree with that. All I'm saying that if you DO receive a gift, accept it graciously and in the spirit with which it was intended. Of course, let the person know how uncomfortable you are with it after the first time, and if they continue crossing your line, then tell them it's unacceptable.

So you would NOT want a diamond ring/necklace/earings, a framed picture of the 2 of you, a nice robe, tickets for a cruise/show/anything. Gifts usually aren't given to prove possesion, but to show how much someone thinks of you or how deep their feelings are for another. If someone constantly complained about the gifts I chose to give her,as in they were totally worthless to her; I wouldn't stay around long. I would see that as a reflection of how she felt about me.

Just MY opinion.

I would love it if someone gave me a GMC Yukon Denali XL black in color, I wouldn't even mind if it was a couple yars old.