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What we have here is ... failure to procreate. *eww*   Damn breeders!  That line was supposed to be a spin on the famous declaration in "Cool Hand Luke" but I guess it was a reach in that no one picked up on it.  Actually, I got it. "Failure to comminicate ..." great line! I just caught up on the procreate thing! very well then .. I thought I could count on you. Underneath that silky blond mane is an adroit cerebellum affixed to a functional medulla oblongata. Your gray matter Melody, well, errr, matters. Your other parts are in top form also. Even your nose looks very olfactor-"y." Hope I spelled all that correctly. I'm working sans-net today. Yes, my nose is olfactorily adequate!! 
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there can be legal complications as well if someone has lived together, chances are if they have been together for long-term they have loans/mortages that are in both parties names..... Personally I tell people I'm single, sometimes I say divorced, but in all aspects I am single, divorce is final, no legal complications left over, no kids/ no real baggage(except normal from a LTR i suppose), and maybe a predisposition to never get married again, but I know a lot of guys that never want to get married. I guess I don't see the point in saying divorced right up-front because people tend to automatically think "why" "what went wrong" now if they ask me I'll tell them, when you just say single they evaluate you one who you are at the time, and not what your past character may be like fromt he negative connotation that the word 'divorce' holds. So, you say single because you're worried people will judge you if you tell them you're divorced. If I were getting to know someone and interested in dating them and they didn't bother to tell me they were divorced until later, it would seem like they were trying to hide something. |
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I always say I am divorced. After my matrimony is
  over. whata heck i am not the only woman in getting divorced in this planet. I am freee!!!wooho    jennie 
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What we have here is ... failure to procreate. *eww* Damn breeders! Really don't hear that term very much since I quit spending time on the alt.support.childfree newsgroup....! |
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At first I said "divorced" then as time went on I would say "single" because I had nothing to do with him anymore. As the conversation went on I would let the guy that I had been married before but it has been over and we are divorced for "X" amount of years. One situation that hasn't been addressed here is whether a person is a widow/widower...what should they have said? They are now single too because there is no other spouse/ significant other in the picture. I agree with this. After my divorce I said divorced (mainly because it was fresh in my mind and glad it was over) After time, I say single because I am. I'm not with anyone, so I am single. I can't think of a time when I have heard someone around here said divorced though (unless it was a recent divorce) They say single and the conversation might go to talking about a divorce in the past. |
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You file Single if you have never married or you are divorced without children on forms from the government social services states single never been married....so different agencies view it differently...as well as people unattached is good enough for me if its what I want....
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I'm not sure if I like the "single" term anymore. That sounds like something I'm not supposed to be. If someone is single, the next word jumps into most peoples' mind is "alone".
If someone is not single, than he or she is called either "married" or "in a relationship" or "taken" etc. So to make someone "not single" that means you got a girlfriend or boyfriend or married. What about this..I'm never single. There is someone always around me, friends, families and others. I'm just not in a relationship and that's it. I'm not alone though. |
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I'm not sure if I like the "single" term anymore. That sounds like something I'm not supposed to be. If someone is single, the next word jumps into most peoples' mind is "alone". If someone is not single, than he or she is called either "married" or "in a relationship" or "taken" etc. So to make someone "not single" that means you got a girlfriend or boyfriend or married. What about this..I'm never single. There is someone always around me, friends, families and others. I'm just not in a relationship and that's it. I'm not alone though. "It's complicated"
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"It's complicated" The FaceBook equivalent of "buzz off"... |
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"It's complicated" The FaceBook equivalent of "buzz off"... I've always found it to be more "If you're sexy enough, I might try my options with you" 
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I think single means you are not married. You can be 'never married' and still have children and child support. Agreed, but if a person is hiding the fact that they have children, that's even worse than hiding the divorced status. While I won't turn someone down because they are divorced, I will absolutely not date someone who has children. If the fact of a divorce comes out on say the second date, I may be a little suspicious about what else I'm going to dig up during conversation and continue to learn more. But if children that were hidden up to that point come up, then I'll walk away with nothing else said. |
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from my buddy miriam webster
single: 1 a : not married b : of or relating to celibacy 2 : unaccompanied by others : lone, sole <the single survivor of the disaster> 3 a (1) : consisting of or having only one part, feature, or portion <single consonants> (2) : consisting of one as opposed to or in contrast with many I always though of single as referring to a NUMBER, meaning ONE, unaccompanied,,, So someone living ALONE (Whether not married anymore or never married) would be considered single. |
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I've never dated anyone who lacks complications in some respect - legal, financial or otherwise. You have to decide if that person is worth the pain. If they aren't, I suggest no-strings-attached lovin.' That has always ended well ... starting with Glenn Close in the 80s. Yeah...I mean, so she boiled a bunny. I call that just being economical! You are always a pragmatist Goof. I respect that immensely.  Admit it CB.....we would be lovers if.....well.....if we were gay! 
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I've never dated anyone who lacks complications in some respect - legal, financial or otherwise. You have to decide if that person is worth the pain. If they aren't, I suggest no-strings-attached lovin.' That has always ended well ... starting with Glenn Close in the 80s. Yeah...I mean, so she boiled a bunny. I call that just being economical! You are always a pragmatist Goof. I respect that immensely. Admit it CB.....we would be lovers if.....well.....if we were gay! I don't know man, I'm more of an opposites attract kinda' guy. That's why Melody and Myka refuse to marry me ... They both can read.
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I like living in the moment.. I am single now. Of course, if asked, I've been married. I just recently stopped using the "divorced" term because it felt like I wasn't letting go of the past..onward n' upward!
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I say divorced.
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Edited by
Kings_Knight
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Wed 07/14/10 03:22 PM
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'Single' = 'Never married'. 'Divorced' = well, 'divorced'. It ain't pocket science ... 'Divorced' says "I have a prior history before you came into my life - get used to it." ... 'Single' sez 'I haven't let anyone abuse my pleasure palace except people of good taste and judgement." ... unh-huh ...
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I go with divorced....
But here's a thought no one has brought up? Maybe women do this more than men (or maybe I am the only one that does it?) but....when viewing profiles...is it not considered a negative if you are in say...your late 30's or 40's and still "single"??? Don't you immediately think...whoa...what's wrong with this person that he/she hasn't at least been married once or twice in those 30-40 years? Are they afraid of commitment? A player? I dunno....just a thought for discussion? 
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I go with divorced.... But here's a thought no one has brought up? Maybe women do this more than men (or maybe I am the only one that does it?) but....when viewing profiles...is it not considered a negative if you are in say...your late 30's or 40's and still "single"??? Don't you immediately think...whoa...what's wrong with this person that he/she hasn't at least been married once or twice in those 30-40 years? Are they afraid of commitment? A player? I dunno....just a thought for discussion? No, I don't think that way. I worry more about someone who has been divorced more than once before they're 40, rather than someone who is still single by that age. |
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