Ok, let's assume you aren't someone who is only coming here for posting various stuff and talking to friends.

Let's assume you are one of those who come to this forum, because you actually want a relationship and don't want to be single.

If you are still here 3 years from now still looking for the "one"...do you think something just gone really fckd up?

Well, you've been here about that long, you tell us...

Three years ago...

She might be just as good at hide and seek as you are.

LOL..I want others to answer.

Yeah I do think something is fckd up if you ask me LOL... that's why I don't take things seriously anymore. here.

It's like you were directly asking me that question... You know what? I fit exactly into your criteria. Funny thing is... I've never once thought about it before, but I'm with you... F'd up is kinda the way it's leaning... But as much as it could be me? I think it's a lot to do with the fact that not too many people are completely serious about internet dating. At least not on a free site where anyone can get in. I found that those who are dead serious, break down and go to the paying sites. You know people are serious when they're willing to pay for it. Not to mention... The pay sites screen out the weirdos. I'm not saying to give up on Mingle... But Hell... I've been here for 3 years, and still hangin on.

Actually I thought about that too. If anyone really thinks about it..a dating site monthly fee (20-30 bucks) cost about half the price of a date. Here, 40-60 bucks for a date is almost being too cheap. But now what I'm thinking is..that means that I could spend hundreds of dollars and ---then plus a date---, if I would ever even find one to begin with. The experience with dating sites like this or any other free ones kinda scares me to think about paying for it, even if the weirdos are screened out.

Someone once said, if there would be no women, there wouldn't be money either. I start to agree.

Yup...been here longer than 3 tears and something ain't working...

Another 3 years and I will be in the looney bin

Well I'm gonna throw my point of view in on this! I think it's all the same-there is not anyone close (in distance) to me that is even a little interesting! It happens on both free & fee sites!

If I was looking for someone, I wouldn't spend three years here looking for her.

I had used match.com before and payed for it, it wasn't any different.
I had a dating service in Salt Lake City that I was a member of over a year. These men would pay for 'quality introductions' and they were screened, back ground checks done, had to meet specific $$ qualifications...
They were busy guys who didn't want to go clubbing and shiit. Perfect you would think, maybe I blew it a couple times but at least I didn't settle...
so many factors are figured in, heart connection, timing..

3 years..huh, amateurs

So you would just quit the site? I'm not sure if I have quit on everyone here..but there are plenty who are definitely not dating material.

One thing for sure: Lack of newcomers..or lack of newcomers who are present on the forums. It's the same old same old. We got some good talkers who won't show up anymore, probably happy with their relationship, I don't blame them, I would probably disappear just like them. But still, there is a lack of new people who write as much as the old members.
And it's typical that old members long gave up on the match search thing..they just watch the forums for anyone new.

LOL..probably when I disappear, many will give a big "sigh"...finally gone.

that time might be approaching...

3 years from now would mean 6 yrs on the site. what is the record so far?

oh pffft
There are some..male and female that I have recently become friends with and getting to know after a year...I must not be an old member because I'm still staying open to possibilities even though I play in the forum.

Have you ever tried speed dating??

So fast you'll freak!!

I've tried it once, coming down is rough. The worst part is waking up the next thursday and trying to remember what you did last Friday.

Actually I haven't..I've thought about it since I only need 10 minutes in real life to feel him..energy I mean.

you ever do it Sherry?

IMHO I don't think it's f'ed up at all. Some people know what they want and they won't settle until they find it.

No i never tried it...just thought it would be a good idea if you didn't want to still be trying to get date's for the next 3 years.

I'm been at this for ten years..three more and I'll be driving my car off a cliff, not speed dating.