So, is it an age-related thing where 20-something guys get off on dating needy 20-something girls?

One of my friends has been in 4 or 5 relationships with these (supposedly) super-needy girls, who are apparently looking for a man to save them. He's claiming to be head over heels in love with her, but her mom mistreats her, and may not let her see him, yadda, yadda, yadda. I'm rolling my eyes, and not responding because I think he's an idiot.

super needy girls

Guess I'm screwed then...

Well my dear U are so beautiful that any man over 16 would be in love with U!!

I dated a girl for 5 years, while her mom opposed me at all costs. I was not welcome in their house, so I had to date her in secret. Eventually we broke up, and now she is 35 and can't find a boyfriend. Last time I visited them, her mom greeted me with everything..I was like almost walking on silver plates put front of me..but it's too late..I don't love her, neither she loves me and even if I would try really hard I couldn't do a thing about it.

Should serve as a good warning for moms who are so protective that mess up their childs' relationships. It's none of her business and she should think back when she was young and how she ended up being married and so on.

Anyway this isn't about the topic, I just grabbed out a part from it.

huh in every relationship i've been in (except the 1 where i was married) her parents just loved me... but the 1 time i get married, i started to understand the inlaw jokes weren't always jokes...her parents hated me from day 1. still do

I wouldn't say getting off on it, for most it's just staying close to our age. In my case I've gotten over the whole idea of being with an older woman, been there done that, not necessarily any better, most seem to come with even more drama and baggage than a 20-something. Girls closer to my age have softer skin, better odds that they don't have kids already, and less life experience in general...which is good because I would want to experience things together for the first time rather than be with someone who's already been there done that.

That being said, if a girl is in her 20s and her parents still have that much control over her relationships then I wouldn't want to have anything to do with her. That sounds like the same restrictions of a high school kid. Your friend must be doing something really wrong, I can't imagine that many sets of parents disapproving of someone for their daughter that is in her same age range. Most of the girls I know would only have disapproving parents if the guy had a criminal record, was much older, disrespectful in person, or just a bum with no ambition or goals.

DRAMA

UGH!!!! I run, not walk from drama...

I don't want someone to need me. I want to be wanted. If she can't take care of herself, how the hell is she going to expect me to?

Now, if she's looking for someone to walk through life with, and share in the enjoyment of life, that I can do.

I agree with you. I have occassionally been amused and irritated by comments my parents have made about guys, and I look at them, remembering stories of both of their parents reactions when they dated and married. That's a lot of why most of the family is still up in Michigan, while they ended up down here in Texas. To get away from both families.

I can see wanting what's best for your kids, but at the same time, they still have to make it on their own, and have a life and relationships.

Yeah, he seems to feed off of it, and I get to hear about it. I didn't know if it was an age thing. Between him, and the 20-somethings at work, griping about their girlfriends, or discussing how they could get around their girlfriends and cheat on them, the urge to wish them castrated gets strong.

Sounds like "Needy" Just means they need a good thrashing in the bed Room

ED, fight the urge :-)

So funny how "the genesis" is the most poetic!!!

I have been. I left the knife at home. But I've been eyeing the stapler and wondering if that might work....

I don't want that thought!!!