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I don't have a wallet. No wonder I don't get any 
Grip something else in your pocket, they will think you do. |
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<----5 years looking, 2 + here and I have lost my flirt. I understand what you are saying. It gets old after a while all the same old, same old "hey sexy", "whats up" "Loved your profile". And they wonder why when I ask them, " What about my profile did you like?" and they do not have an answer, they get pissy. Its just old. And who wants to email and talk for months and they never show up to meet when they say they will. Or how about the ones that do finally show up and you realise that they are not who they say they are, or they poof. You never hear from them again after you tell them you are not going to put out after coffee. Old I tell ya. So, yes I am tired of seeing all the events going on around town and have no one to go with, tired of being alone every night and tired of having no one in Ohio to be mine and want me to belong with them. Ancient. Me thinking me should be moving to Ohio soon.. 
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Don't have expectations bro............ 
thats sums it all up! 
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I've been on so many sites over the last few years. I wouldn't meet people in person at first (my family instilling fear of online crazy people I guess, till one day I realized that if all online people are crazy, then so am I, since I spend many hours online
 then I started meeting people in person) Anyway, I have had a few dates, most being one time only and pretty dull. Man, I do know what you mean. It is frustrating  . But, I will continue to go through all the smalltalk BS and the awkwardness of the first date process, becuase I haven't given up hope that I will find someone who gives me that feeling, you know, like little butterflies in your stomach, like falling in love. Someone who sparks my interest, and I spark his, and we can go on from there...
And someone doesn't want me to give him benefits on the first date  Benefits are great, but come on guys, on the first date???? Give it time, they will come...
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Maybe it's only me..don't know but somehow I'm not thrilled much about dating or finding someone or just having women responding to mails etc..just became too predictable and it's like a game I'm tired of going through talking about if I have any dogs or how to pronounce my first name and my favorite music. Seriously, I'm not trying to offend anyone or make think that it's not worth to effort to try talking to me or mailing me or anyone else, I'm just saying that it' became such a routine now (2 years?) that I'm just exhausted running the same tape over and over. It also made me less responsive and less excited to get a reply or just someone showing some interest towards me. I remember back in the day I used to get excited about replies and seeing if anyone checked my profile etc.., now I feel numb to all this..not sure if it has to do with the time spent alone or the time spent on dating sites and getting the same replies or just not seeing much of hope getting anywhere with it, so I don't know. If you have been for at least a year, on a dating site, don't you feel like it's more like a routine now and your expectations has winded down a lot ever since you first joined? Been at it since 1998 I've learned that the fun is in the pursuit, the result you don't control It's a great chance to learn to see yourself a different way, express yourself differently and see how women respond, maybe the girl for you doesn't speak your toungue, although she may speak your language. |
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Edited by
cajungal328
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Thu 07/01/10 05:33 PM
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Edited by
cajungal328
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Thu 07/01/10 05:40 PM
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<----5 years looking, 2 + here and I have lost my flirt. I understand what you are saying. It gets old after a while all the same old, same old "hey sexy", "whats up" "Loved your profile". And they wonder why when I ask them, " What about my profile did you like?" and they do not have an answer, they get pissy. Its just old. And who wants to email and talk for months and they never show up to meet when they say they will. Or how about the ones that do finally show up and you realise that they are not who they say they are, or they poof. You never hear from them again after you tell them you are not going to put out after coffee. Old I tell ya. So, yes I am tired of seeing all the events going on around town and have no one to go with, tired of being alone every night and tired of having no one in Ohio to be mine and want me to belong with them. Ancient. Thu 07/01/10 05:29 PM In response to you justme659: Girl, I know exactly what you mean.... I live S. Louisiana, in a place where we have festivals every week practically. Do I ever go to them. NO. Why? becuase its no fun going alone. I like lots of places and activities, but I can't enjoy any of them becuase Im always alone, unless Im tagging along with other folks who dont really want me there. I go out with guys, most of which want sex almost immediately on the first date. Come on, already! I'm just as horny as the next person, but I just met you.... Whats the freaking rush??? People text me and email me all the time saying "hey sexy" or "you are my princess" or "you are so beautiful" or whatever, and I do appreciate the compliment, but most of the time, it seems all they saw was the picture... They didnt see ME, and the very long paragraph profile I have to get to know ME. I am a person, not just a sweet face. Read the freaking profile guys. That's why it's there. I am frustrated with the shallowness of it all, but I am determined not to give up hope of finding a man that will take me seriously, like me, maybe grow to love me, and see me as a good candidate for a life partner. Oh, and not try to bang me on the first date. Thank You. 
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We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' ..
Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms 
What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country .. GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!! 
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We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' .. Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms
What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country .. GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!!
 I stalk him all of the time! He is just hard to please.
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We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' .. Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms
What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country .. GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!!
I stalk him all of the time! He is just hard to please.
Well he's being ridiculous. He's got it all goin for him .. I'm gonna start offering some cheese with that whhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiine
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We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' .. Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms
What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country .. GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!!
I stalk him all of the time! He is just hard to please.
Well he's being ridiculous. He's got it all goin for him .. I'm gonna start offering some cheese with that whhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiine
It's a free country. I can whine as much as I want. Stop me if you can. 
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We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' .. Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms
What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country .. GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!!
I stalk him all of the time! He is just hard to please.
Well he's being ridiculous. He's got it all goin for him .. I'm gonna start offering some cheese with that whhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiine
It's a free country. I can whine as much as I want. Stop me if you can.
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f you have been for at least a year, on a dating site, don't you feel like it's more like a routine now and your expectations has winded down a lot ever since you first joined?
Oh I remember when I first joined the internet dating field, I would be so excited over all the emails, then well. It slowly went from oh boy let's see what this person has to say to can someone talk about something other than me being an alaskan {like that is an oddity lol}, what am I doing here. I find I am most interested in the people that I think their give a damn is busted and they are so bluntly real. That I am intrigued or startled which is rare. Don't get me wrong I have met some wonderful people out here on the net and have some beautiful friendships that will last a lifetime. Prince charming off the net nope I dont' believe so since most of the men that contact me are still stuck in the oneliners... |
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Thu 07/01/10 05:29 PM In response to you justme659: Girl, I know exactly what you mean.... I live S. Louisiana, in a place where we have festivals every week practically. Do I ever go to them. NO. Why? becuase its no fun going alone. I like lots of places and activities, but I can't enjoy any of them becuase Im always alone, unless Im tagging along with other folks who dont really want me there. I go out with guys, most of which want sex almost immediately on the first date. Come on, already! I'm just as horny as the next person, but I just met you.... Whats the freaking rush??? People text me and email me all the time saying "hey sexy" or "you are my princess" or "you are so beautiful" or whatever, and I do appreciate the compliment, but most of the time, it seems all they saw was the picture... They didnt see ME, and the very long paragraph profile I have to get to know ME. I am a person, not just a sweet face. Read the freaking profile guys. That's why it's there. I am frustrated with the shallowness of it all, but I am determined not to give up hope of finding a man that will take me seriously, like me, maybe grow to love me, and see me as a good candidate for a life partner. Oh, and not try to bang me on the first date. Thank You.
Exactly 
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The only thing positive about a defeatist attitude is...
you can say to yourself .... I told you so . others will say... just another self fulfilling prophecy
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We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' .. Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms
What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country .. GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!!
I stalk him all of the time! He is just hard to please.
Well he's being ridiculous. He's got it all goin for him .. I'm gonna start offering some cheese with that whhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiine
It's a free country. I can whine as much as I want. Stop me if you can.
*sings LaLa LaLa La* while holding hands over ears ...... (((((((((((((((((( NOT LISTENING )))))))))))))))))))
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I get it. I stated previously finding a "chat buddy" would be nice. The problem is, the chat turns into questions like "whats your favorite color?", "Do you want pets someday?", "whats your favorite car?"
Uhhhhhhhhh. Serious? I can not handle that vanilla conversation. I need a good debate, topic, maybe even a good old fashioned argument with two opposing views from a strond minded woman! now thats fun and makes for great conversation! |
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The only thing positive about a defeatist attitude is... you can say to yourself .... I told you so . others will say... just another self fulfilling prophecy
It's not a defeatist...it's more like just being disappointed and turned off by many. Or a pity? On a forum like this it might sound pessimistic but in a regular conversation in like a bar or on a party it would be completely normal to say "damn there is so much nothing out there ". Or maybe it's just people are too insecure to discuss anything more so at the same time the whole conversation never really goes anywhere and actually both know how shallow the whole thing is, but neither of them dares to brake out of their little shell and say something more meaningful and honest? |
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The only thing positive about a defeatist attitude is... you can say to yourself .... I told you so . others will say... just another self fulfilling prophecy
It's not a defeatist...it's more like just being disappointed and turned off by many. Or a pity? On a forum like this it might sound pessimistic but in a regular conversation in like a bar or on a party it would be completely normal to say "damn there is so much nothing out there ". Or maybe it's just people are too insecure to discuss anything more so at the same time the whole conversation never really goes anywhere and actually both know how shallow the whole thing is, but neither of them dares to brake out of their little shell and say something more meaningful and honest? I do understand ... but feeling its defeatist ... or non positive thinking ... kinda pessimistic ... but more falling into depression if not careful. that is the danger ... apathy ... a big problem in society in general. We have to stand up to the seduction of apathy to solve the rejection and disappointment of finding that happiness of being half of a couple. Yet when we look at so many couples they are not happy ... more often complacent which has its own percentage of apathy in the mix. Can't let the conundrum of mating get ya down ... What's that old song ... "If you can't be with the one you love ... love the one your with." |
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Online dating, for too long, will do that to you. It`s the same as dating ppl that you meet out and about, it`s VERY hit & miss. It`s easy to lose your enthusiasm. But what the heck, give it a try until you die, what have you got to lose?. (ok, maybe that doesn`t sound very positive, lol)
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