I don't have a wallet. No wonder I don't get any

<----5 years looking, 2 + here and I have lost my flirt.
I understand what you are saying. It gets old after a while all the same old, same old "hey sexy", "whats up" "Loved your profile". And they wonder why when I ask them, " What about my profile did you like?" and they do not have an answer, they get pissy. Its just old. And who wants to email and talk for months and they never show up to meet when they say they will. Or how about the ones that do finally show up and you realise that they are not who they say they are, or they poof. You never hear from them again after you tell them you are not going to put out after coffee. Old I tell ya. So, yes I am tired of seeing all the events going on around town and have no one to go with, tired of being alone every night and tired of having no one in Ohio to be mine and want me to belong with them. Ancient.

Don't have expectations bro............

Maybe it's only me..don't know but somehow I'm not thrilled much about dating or finding someone or just having women responding to mails etc..just became too predictable and it's like a game I'm tired of going through talking about if I have any dogs or how to pronounce my first name and my favorite music.

Seriously, I'm not trying to offend anyone or make think that it's not worth to effort to try talking to me or mailing me or anyone else, I'm just saying that it' became such a routine now (2 years?) that I'm just exhausted running the same tape over and over.

It also made me less responsive and less excited to get a reply or just someone showing some interest towards me.

I remember back in the day I used to get excited about replies and seeing if anyone checked my profile etc.., now I feel numb to all this..not sure if it has to do with the time spent alone or the time spent on dating sites and getting the same replies or just not seeing much of hope getting anywhere with it, so I don't know.

If you have been for at least a year, on a dating site, don't you feel like it's more like a routine now and your expectations has winded down a lot ever since you first joined?

<----5 years looking, 2 + here and I have lost my flirt.
I understand what you are saying. It gets old after a while all the same old, same old "hey sexy", "whats up" "Loved your profile". And they wonder why when I ask them, " What about my profile did you like?" and they do not have an answer, they get pissy. Its just old. And who wants to email and talk for months and they never show up to meet when they say they will. Or how about the ones that do finally show up and you realise that they are not who they say they are, or they poof. You never hear from them again after you tell them you are not going to put out after coffee. Old I tell ya. So, yes I am tired of seeing all the events going on around town and have no one to go with, tired of being alone every night and tired of having no one in Ohio to be mine and want me to belong with them. Ancient.

We need to get you an extra dose of 'happy' ..

Many of your threads lately have been down & out .. woe is me .. I think I'll go eat some worms


What's up with that dude? You are good looking, young, live in a great state & country ..

GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME MAN!!

I stalk him all of the time! He is just hard to please.

Well he's being ridiculous. He's got it all goin for him .. I'm gonna start offering some cheese with that whhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiine

It's a free country. I can whine as much as I want. Stop me if you can.

f you have been for at least a year, on a dating site, don't you feel like it's more like a routine now and your expectations has winded down a lot ever since you first joined?

Thu 07/01/10 05:29 PM
In response to you justme659:

Girl, I know exactly what you mean.... I live S. Louisiana, in a place where we have festivals every week practically. Do I ever go to them. NO. Why? becuase its no fun going alone. I like lots of places and activities, but I can't enjoy any of them becuase Im always alone, unless Im tagging along with other folks who dont really want me there. I go out with guys, most of which want sex almost immediately on the first date. Come on, already! I'm just as horny as the next person, but I just met you.... Whats the freaking rush???

People text me and email me all the time saying "hey sexy" or "you are my princess" or "you are so beautiful" or whatever, and I do appreciate the compliment, but most of the time, it seems all they saw was the picture... They didnt see ME, and the very long paragraph profile I have to get to know ME. I am a person, not just a sweet face. Read the freaking profile guys. That's why it's there.

I am frustrated with the shallowness of it all, but I am determined not to give up hope of finding a man that will take me seriously, like me, maybe grow to love me, and see me as a good candidate for a life partner. Oh, and not try to bang me on the first date. Thank You.

It's a free country. I can whine as much as I want. Stop me if you can.

The only thing positive about a defeatist attitude is...

you can say to yourself ....

I told you so .


others will say...

just another self fulfilling prophecy

It's not a defeatist...it's more like just being disappointed and turned off by many. Or a pity? On a forum like this it might sound pessimistic but in a regular conversation in like a bar or on a party it would be completely normal to say "damn there is so much nothing out there ".

Or maybe it's just people are too insecure to discuss anything more so at the same time the whole conversation never really goes anywhere and actually both know how shallow the whole thing is, but neither of them dares to brake out of their little shell and say something more meaningful and honest?