Hi, I am Alvaro and alst Friday I became a Mingleplus member thinking it would expand my chances of finding nice women from NY and NJ.
Sadly I have found out there are many women here that are spammers and not even live in the US at all but theys ay they do.
I also wonder how to find Online women in NY, I have tried the Whos Online thing but that covers all members int ehw orld, not just NY and so is just impossible to find someoenf rom NY in that section.
And when searchign for women in NY, I find that msot are nto even Online for weeks, so is ebcoming more and mroe frustratging, I wonder if anyone knwos how to find Online women from NY, I thoguht this was easy but not at all, try ti yoruself and you will see most women are not Online, they ahvent been ont he site for voer a month, this happens all the tiem to me.
Am I doing soemthing wrong when looking?
I am seriously looking for love and thats why I paid but ahvent seen any beenfit really yet...

Dating is dating regardless of whether it has an 'online' in front of it or not. Mingle also can't be held liable for people that decide to stop coming back, nature of the beast. Although they could do something better about the 'who's online' feature.

Save your money and mingle in the forums to get to meet and know people.....people come through all the time the longer you linger the liklier you are to find yourself wrapped around a finger......LOL....I slay myself.... Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck

Most of us here on the forums have never paid a dime, we just took the 'free route' .. get involved in the forums and perhaps you will find the woman you are looking for?

You'll have better luck cruising the local grocery store for a date then getting one here...and you don't have to pay

Thank you so much everyoen for your help and kindness.
I admit I never thought about joining the forums because in the past on forums I always have been surprised because peopel tend to be rude and very disrespectful and I am the opsite, I dont like trashing others but helping them and make friends.
Due to the nice welcoming of you all I will certainly particiapte in many discussions, I lvoe tot alk and have interesting conversations.
Thank you again and I am sure I will make good friends on here.
God Bless You.
Alvaro.

Welcome to Mingle

Join for forums to meet active members and to interact with members.

As Fear said, dating is dating. Unless you find MUTUAL attraction it will always be one person is more attracted than the other (or not at all).

Relax and don’t “LOOK” so hard. Love is supposed to be fun and spontaneous and not a commodity.

And some of us were not so wise and paid before hand just to find out that it really didn't make a difference. But we came to the same conclusion eventually. Which makes one wonder about the old adage of, "You get what you pay for."

Actually, these forums are far more laid back than others I have been in. (They were more like a bar fight)

I don't know about you Alv, but love always sneaks up and slaps me upside the head when I least expect it. Everytime I have gone looking for love I only get bummed out. Life and love take their own sweet time. "You can by a hooker.....but you can't buy love" quoted from Ghandi

Geesh snap out of it Eric......am I reading a deep sentimentality??......shut up....nuh-uh.....no way....

Eric or Krupa whateevr you prefer em to call you friend:
I may tell you my story one day as it is not the average story of single guy but I need to comment on your reply.
First thank you for your ncie words.
Second yeah I agree, I have never been in love but I find a date when I am not looking.
Sadly my situation sis now such that I NEED someone, you see, I was diagnosed with an eye disease when I was 18, I now see about 5 percenrtage of vision in each eye, only that.
To add up, I live in South America where there is no treatment for my eye disease and thats one of the reasons why I am moving to the US.
However the treatment will take years to be available maybe ten, maybe elss or more.
As someone who has been alone all his life due to my life circumstances, and being 36 in 2 weeks, I am absolutely refusing to stay alone for long.
Noone here will be interested in my personal issues but I am a good guy and I dont have anyone to help me deal with my eye disease, you know, soemthing like walking hand by hand and caring for you, someone humane...
As I am goign to mvoe to the US maybe in a year or so and as I am traveling to the US this september, I am now seriously looking for someone.

Should I wait instead of looking? Yeah maybe but for someone who has not the possibilityt to drive, has not many friedns at all in where I live, has an inmens lvoe for American womne, dont ask why I just do, for someone who has helped his family always, for someone like that...
ITS TIME TO THINK ABOUT ME, I want a family, kids, I want tos ee the eyes of my woman and I want to see so much.
I cant wait til I move to the US only because I feel very in need of support emotionally by a woman, I need that.
Anwyays I made this decission because I need it, no I cant buy love but I can buy as many dating services as I need to in order to increase my options of meeting someone decent.

I told my parents when you have an eye disease that is verys evere and you have a good heart, damn you deserve someone!!!!!!!

So anyways Eric, I hope God wills ned me someone, I help aolot of women get a date but look at me, I cant do it for me LOL

I am a very positive person but I wont lie to you, I am ntof eelign that great rightnow, I dont care what people think, but I feel frustrated because there are many women in the US alone and I cant find one LOL

But anwyays I am sorry this topic ended this way, dotn want tod epress anyone just being me, I am super honest and thats all.
I even recorded a message saying what I want and what I offer women.
Yeah it soudns like I am too needy but please dont judge me, try to understand me ok?
Oh and for thsoe who think I shouldd ate women here where I am, I have and I have never liked latin women and they have not like dme, and what is aamzing is how American women that have got to know me say too absd theya re taken ebcause I have qualities thata re important for women there.
In any country you fidn good and bad, I just happen to prefer Aemrican women.
Anyways I hope you guys understand my thoughts and I hope people get a sense of who I am after reading this.

i need to add something else:
Obviously my idea is not to have a year or more long long distance relationship, I would travel to meet her in the US and I would invite ehr to come see me in South America.
But I am not dumb, I know the type fo woman I need aint the average girl, I need someone pretty special as my doc used to say, so as you all will agree, if I contact maybe a thosaund women, maybe 1 will say hell he may not see much but seems a good guy and thats all I want.
Well I need the 1000 options to find that only 1.
So looking is not an option, is my only option if I want someone.

as far as scammers go....this site is one of the best at protecting our members. The site can only do so much if they don't know who is scamming. You have to report these members so the site can investigate it.

As far as getting to know people, the best way (as previously suggested) is to join in the forums. You will let others get to know you and you will get to know them.

Kim

Hay bro all I can say is kept looking. You just haven’t found her yet.

hello and welcome to mingle honestguy

It is pretty much the same numbers for about everyone. 1 in 1,000 sounds about right, can stretch it further and depress everyone a little bit more and say the actual number would be somewhere around 1 in 50,000...but I don't want to shatter someones dream.

oops dbl post dang!!

Ding ding.....Elvis has left the building and I do not think there is a dry American Woman eye left in the building....ladies and gentlemen please exit through the doors to the left and to the right....I could base a romance novel off of that...I hope you find what you are looking for and good luck

What a ncie pack of people, I am sooo happy I decided to say hi and open my heart.
Crossroads, man thansk for the support, yes I am sure when time is right I will find someone, and to all of you, thank you for your respect and your decency.
I will be posting thigns in the music and mvoies area soon, one of the things that happens when you have a certain disability is that your sense of ear is pretty powerful so I have a good musical ear and adore music.
And movies are just the best therapy ever as music is too.
Anwyays I want to thank you all for allowing me to say all I needed to.
I feel better.
Goodnight all.

Yeah bro. The medical thing does lend to the not wanting to go through it alone gig. I can understand that. Hopefully fate will cut you some slack and someone will come into your life that will make the situation doable.

I will say this...(half laughing as I say it)

Keep that "I am a nice guy" thing low key bro. This site is loaded with nice guys....it is the kiss of doom. Chicks like mouthy and arrogant pricks...don't ask me why but almost all of em have an ex that fit that description....I know...it ain't right.

But, chin up my man....there is someone out there for everyone. You can play this to your advantage if you approach it like I would. Failing vision is a valid reason to grope any woman...."I just wanted to know what you look like!"....

Believe me, I have tried it but, they don't buy my story about my rubber chicken on a leash being my seeing eye chicken.

Anyway, best of luck brother.

oh yeah, I am Eric Krupa...most people just call me Krupa