I believe a person’s actions indicate their moral standard. A person’s habits are not likely to change unless their moral standards change, and even then, old habits are hard to break.

I would actually run but I have been in this situation before!! My ex cheated on me and had 8 girlfriends..so I divorced him. BUT while we were married he did bring a couple over for a cookout...I had no clue they were swingers until the guy informed me why they were really there. And yes my ex did know all about it..he arranged it.
IF someone cheats once, I truly believe they will do it again. I would never put myself into a situation to where my husband wanted me to do something I didn't want to do. Sooner or later he is going to try to manipulate you and try his hardest to get you to try to live the swinger lifestyle..so keep that in mind!!
Good Luck with your decision

I like your thinking.

Ask him these questions...and either trust his answer...or don't.

Ask yourself these questions...and if not solid in your responses....then YOU may need to leave the relationship.

Mismatched ethics and belief structures of what is important to each INDIVIDUAL within a relationship will only cause power struggles, and insecurities.

Why sell yourself short?

Why inflict your moral code on another?

it ain't rocket science...he prefers the dalliances and distractions of other lovers....you don't.

Move on with YOUR life.

i gotta ask... so i read your profile.. it says something in the likes of... im here to talk and after that to see where it goes from there.. my question is does he know you are on here?

i have been cheated on before myself... however i broke up with him before i moved on looking for someone else, to me that would of been me cheating back at him.. i remember too thinking how dare he cheat on me how could he of done that and why because im worth so much more that to be treated that way.... however how much would i have been worth if i went and did the same thing back? i moved on in hopes of better things..how could i expect better things if i did the same thing he did to me? just a thought to ponder

thank u

No he does not know i am on here but im not hidding it either. If he checked the computer he would find out and i would not denie it. The whole reason i am on hear is to make new friends and to keep my options open to what is out there.

I read George Burn's autobiography.
In it he relates his one and only lapse
of marital fidelity, a secretary where
he worked.

He felt SO guilty, he went out and bought
this huge overwhelming chandelier that
his wife had coveted for years, and presented
it to her. She was thrilled, clueless..episode
over, right?
He had learned his lesson, and it never happened
again.

Years later, he came home from work early to overhear
his wife talking to someone in the dining room...
Guest lady: "My, that is one gorgeous chandelier!"
Gracie: "Yes it is. George gave me that when he had
an affair. I sure wish he would have another so I
could get the matching chandelier."

Lesson:
It can happen just the once.
Happiness can still rule the day.
A wise woman wins in the end.

well i think one thing has been over looked in the times of so many deadly things
him cheating and swinging who the hell would want someone from that im sure they are not always fail proof i know comdoms do fail ewwwwwwwwwwwwww thats nasty

JMO

But if I caught any diseases from him he would not have a pecker or a set of balls and by the time he got home the next day his **** would be on the lawn with a sign saying "everything is free to good home!"

That is really good...I like that!!