there is this guy that im kinda seeing i have known him sense march
and we have this uncanny connection where it blew me away when i started talking to him.
i care a great deal about him

and tonight he text me and said that he knows how i feel and he wont hurt me, he said he love me but wasent in love with me and wanted me to tell him i loved him and i text him back and i said the guy should be the one saying that first... so he proceeds and says ok im in love with you... i respond by saying is the beer talking..LOL for he been drinking tonight...

he insists for me to tell him i love him.. i did by saying as a friend as where possible more down the line...


hes a great guy.. there isent really a problem he just kinda reminds me of a old bf in some ways. the good part is he doesnt critize. as the old bf did.. and he has a job. so thats a plus...

I just saw two red flags. The drinking, and it seems a bit controlling that he insisted on you telling him you loved him. I don't know maybe I'm misunderstanding the post, but that's what I got from it.

Tell HIM how you FEEL (LIFE is too SHORT!)

what r u waiting for? just go forward ... follow ur feeling ;)

thats what he said

He is probably just a little insecure. So what he has a couple beers. I think it is great you met somebody that you connect with. I wish you luck.........

the drinking yea could be a issue but hes stays home and drinks he doesnt drive nor goes to the bar

u mean he said that? wow

JUST remember LIFE is TOO SHORT!

him feeling a little insecure hummm.
he doesnt show it....

From what I read in your post, I have to agree with this guy. Im not a big fan on people that drink. Also not a big fan of women insisting that I tell them im inlove with them.

YEA HE SAID THOSE WORDS FOLLOW YOUR FEELINGS!!!!

Everybody is honey wether they show it or not. I wouldn't read too much into it.....

hi,

It is a good start that he doesn't critize you as this can be a real problem in any relationship ....ie having friends who always tell you that you don't look good or always bite when you express your opinion.

One thing is though that you shouldn't be pressurised into saying something just to please him, it does sound as though he could be a bit of a control freak.

A bit of advice is to talk with him and ask him how he really feels ...preferably when he is not drinking. Try and find out why he is not in love with you....something is holding him back maybe?

Take care

Wait. He said I love you but I'm not in love with you......then turned around and said ok I'm in love with you? To get you to say it back?

you know i had a old bf from 21yrs ago i had met him right before my divorce was final. and it shortly after i had met him. he insisited for me to tell him i loved him.. i told him i loved him as a friend and nothing more.. in fact i still talk to that old bf after all this time. we just went our separated ways after 1yr for there was to many issue

as for the guy im talking about in this post.. i can say hes not a controler for i dont really see that in his actions.. for i have seen it in past relationships but not with this guy

or u can meet up with him, face to face, and ask him exactly what he feels about u. Don't say u love him first.

like I said before, do what is best for you. You told him how you feel about him already. Just take it slow. He sounds like he is trying to push you faster.

A couple of beers or whatever isn't a big deal, but if this is going on and he is drunk, then wait until he is sober to talk to him.

You told him you love him as a friend and there could be more in the future. But you aren't in love with him now. Take your time.

If he is interested and loves you, then he should understand you don't want to get hurt and you want to take it slowly

exactly

wtf is that.


and what's the deal with the guy should be the one to say it first?



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I wouldn't worry to much about the drinking unless he does it frequently. As far as him staying at home, that is more concerning then if he went to the bar. If he went to the bar, that would mean he was a social drinker and most likely not an alcholic, if he stays at home, the reverse is more likely.

I agree that it sounds like insecurity, especially if he had a couple of beers first (may be trying to loosen up and get the nerve to say it). As far as him pushing you to say it back...well...you just have to go off of how he was acting in general. Was it a "You better say it back." or an "I hope you say it back."?