hi,

Did you say he texted you and said he loved you but wasn't in love with you?
I see that you love him back too hence you also mentioned you care for him which we all do with our relationships wether or not it is bf/gf or our friends. So you both love each other from what I can tell but the bit that is concerning you is the fact that he has told you he isn't in love with you.

Can I just say this....you met him in March it has only been a few months of you being together and you want him to be in love with you already? Maybe he just needs time to grow to love you more after all it does take time and does not happen over night. Let him know how you feel again but don't pressurise him into wanting more from this relationship as he might back off completely?

Wish you well and hope it all works out?

Take care

WHAT!!!!! where on earth did i even say i wanted him to be in love with m already.. i didnt cast a dang spell and say you have to ..geeze
i love him as a friend for now and maybe in time... and me pressuring... im not doing squat..... your reading it wrong

my advice hun....take a chance...go for it...if you have no reason to deny it...try it!

once you have seen for yourself and tested the waters ...go from there...actions speak louder than words...believe me...u will know sooner than later if he is the man for you...

i just got off the phone with him. and he said that he knew what he was saying last nite, and when i ask him why did he insist for me to tell him how i felt and he said because he can feel it.. well ok but thats the problem falling in love and getting hurt is what im scared of i guess.

Kinda sounds that way to me also, and the drinking can be a bad deal. It sure ruins alot of relationships. Dennis

Smart lady, this isn't bingo

yea i can be smart and stupid at the same time. but aren we all
by the way yes im drinking...

he just admited he was being selffish for he said the last time he heard anyone tell him they loved him was his dad 20years ago
and he just wanted to hear it from me and mean it and he knows i do. but i care about him but expressing what he wants me to well i can say thats scary in some ways

Just be careful. I really do hope things work out for you. Sounds like this guy may have some issues to deal with though.

yea but doesnt everyone have issue to deal with
i know what some of his issue are and i think im understanding
on his point.. he came from a family that didnt care about crap

Hummmmmmmmmm guess I'm a big confused here everything is over the phone by text and I assume talking.

Curious is this a guy you have actually met face to face? Or is it someone you've been talking to online and have not met...

Myself I would have a problem with one he was drinking when he said it and two that he text those words to you for the first time..

Sorry but if a man tells me he loves me as far as a partner for the first time and he texted those words to me and did not say them in person.

We all do things different anytime I have to question the actions another person does then it is time to take time and do some soul searching....

i have known him and yes met him in person back in march
and no he just mention the word i love you so its not like he just met me and said it..everything is not over the phone by texting it just was that nite. we talk all the time. he was just here this morning for a bit. and we talked

Just take your time.beware of a guy that says I won't hurt u,because when they say that they usually do.

not all men would do that even though they may say it