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Topic: The Age Delema
MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Sat 06/05/10 07:22 PM
I just like younger women.......I get along better with younger women. I have dated younger women in the 5 years younger, and the 5 years older, but for me the 10 years or younger fit my physical being and the way I think. ... and you own it! Thanks Melody....I am Ok with me, just as you are with yourself..... I have to tell you this.....The pic you have up now is haunting to me.....My true love Lori that just died a few weeks ago, is looking at me in that pic.....It's a good thing.....You are very beautiful, in your heart and soul. I am so sorry for your loss Thank you

sweetsimplesassy Joined Thu 02/12/09 Posts: 706	Sat 06/05/10 07:45 PM Edited by sweetsimplesassy on Sat 06/05/10 07:48 PM
Is it just me ? When I was younger, people my own age, looked my age to me. Now at 57, people my own age, look older than me, IMO. I suppose I look their age to them, but my brain hasn't adjusted yet I suppose. I feel like im in the black hole of life... At first, I thought I was going crazy, but then I started noticing other stuff, like music interests. Im still into AC/DC, Johnny Winter, Led Zepplin, ZZ Top, The Doors, etc... Am I some weird old guy who never grew up, or just set in my ways ? I hope im just firmly set in my ways. I don't wanna be some old weird dude I feel the same way and sometimes stop and think OMG,I'm 40...I shouldnt like this or that or behave that way, but you know...age doesnt change WHO you are..I still feel 20, but just have life experience to go by and responsibilities I may not have had at 20, but it shouldnt change that you like certain things...go for it..I still decorate with and have "childish" things, ex: pooh, tinkerbell ect...I like it and if someone has a problem with it, its their issue..Im enjoying life and hurting no one and still a responsible adult...Ive had this discussion with my mom who is 73 and she says the same thing...she too says that she doesnt feel 73 inside, and still feels "young" but the body changes and ages. ....To me not having fun, laughing, enjoying the simple things in life makes us old

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 06/05/10 08:14 PM
Is it just me ? When I was younger, people my own age, looked my age to me. Now at 57, people my own age, look older than me, IMO. I suppose I look their age to them, but my brain hasn't adjusted yet I suppose. I feel like im in the black hole of life... At first, I thought I was going crazy, but then I started noticing other stuff, like music interests. Im still into AC/DC, Johnny Winter, Led Zepplin, ZZ Top, The Doors, etc... Am I some weird old guy who never grew up, or just set in my ways ? I hope im just firmly set in my ways. I don't wanna be some old weird dude I feel the same way and sometimes stop and think OMG,I'm 40...I shouldnt like this or that or behave that way, but you know...age doesnt change WHO you are..I still feel 20, but just have life experience to go by and responsibilities I may not have had at 20, but it shouldnt change that you like certain things...go for it..I still decorate with and have "childish" things, ex: pooh, tinkerbell ect...I like it and if someone has a problem with it, its their issue..Im enjoying life and hurting no one and still a responsible adult...Ive had this discussion with my mom who is 73 and she says the same thing...she too says that she doesnt feel 73 inside, and still feels "young" but the body changes and ages. ....To me not having fun, laughing, enjoying the simple things in life makes us old we don't stop playing cos we get old...we get old cos we stop playing...

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Sat 06/05/10 08:20 PM
It will be time for me to feel old when I can no longer chase after women! I'll be mellow when I am dead! Knowing me I will be late for my own funeral!

Rondoobie Joined Wed 05/26/10 Posts: 578	Sat 06/05/10 09:28 PM
At 41 I don't feel as old as my peers either. I've always attributed it to the fact that I haven't been able to have a baby. Spent a long time feeling like my life was on hold waiting to start the Mommy thing. Now I have to accept that it probably won't ever happen. Now while I'm coming to terms with not having anyone to teach life's important lessons or carry on my genes or go looking for my tombstone some day in the far off future, my peers are becoming grandparents! It seems totally impossible and unreal. How can the kids I went to school with be called Grampy and Mawmaw? Sometimes I feel like I'm in the twilight zone. I have found a few advantages to my plight. Even though I might have to color my hair, I get a lot of compliments on my breasts. Just as perky as I was in my late 20's. And a lot of guys seem relieved to not have to worry about dealing with the kids I never had. Gotta look for the bright side of whatever your situation is. Hoping to find a slightly older man myself next time around. Want someone with more wisdom, tired of being the only responsible party in my relationships. Younger guys are a lot of fun at first but then they're just a lot of work and frustration.

heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Sat 06/05/10 09:33 PM
People my age look and act younger than me!

freeonthree Joined Tue 06/19/07 Posts: 2407	Sat 06/05/10 09:37 PM Edited by freeonthree on Sat 06/05/10 09:40 PM
Is it just me ? When I was younger, people my own age, looked my age to me. Now at 57, people my own age, look older than me, IMO. I suppose I look their age to them, but my brain hasn't adjusted yet I suppose. I feel like im in the black hole of life... At first, I thought I was going crazy, but then I started noticing other stuff, like music interests. Im still into AC/DC, Johnny Winter, Led Zepplin, ZZ Top, The Doors, etc... Am I some weird old guy who never grew up, or just set in my ways ? I hope im just firmly set in my ways. I don't wanna be some old weird dude I feel the same way and sometimes stop and think OMG,I'm 40...I shouldnt like this or that or behave that way, but you know...age doesnt change WHO you are..I still feel 20, but just have life experience to go by and responsibilities I may not have had at 20, but it shouldnt change that you like certain things...go for it..I still decorate with and have "childish" things, ex: pooh, tinkerbell ect...I like it and if someone has a problem with it, its their issue..Im enjoying life and hurting no one and still a responsible adult...Ive had this discussion with my mom who is 73 and she says the same thing...she too says that she doesnt feel 73 inside, and still feels "young" but the body changes and ages. ....To me not having fun, laughing, enjoying the simple things in life makes us old Very nicely put, bravo !

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sat 06/05/10 09:39 PM
Isn't it great that we all are WHO we are, like WHAT we like and best yet .. have the ability to make these choices in life. I think the key is to find your niche, know your comfort zone, be happy with your life where you have chosen to live it ... and not be judged for our decisions! The key babe, is to not give those judgments a second thought.

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Sat 06/05/10 09:41 PM
Isn't it great that we all are WHO we are, like WHAT we like and best yet .. have the ability to make these choices in life. I think the key is to find your niche, know your comfort zone, be happy with your life where you have chosen to live it ... and not be judged for our decisions! The key babe, is to not give those judgments a second thought. EXACTLY!!!!!

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sat 06/05/10 09:48 PM
Isn't it great that we all are WHO we are, like WHAT we like and best yet .. have the ability to make these choices in life. I think the key is to find your niche, know your comfort zone, be happy with your life where you have chosen to live it ... and not be judged for our decisions! The key babe, is to not give those judgments a second thought. EXACTLY!!!!! Hey You!!! How have you been? Haven't seen you in like forever. But then I haven't been ON HERE in like forever either. LOL

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Sat 06/05/10 09:49 PM
Hey you, back!!!! I been a hidin'!!!!

freeonthree Joined Tue 06/19/07 Posts: 2407	Sat 06/05/10 09:51 PM
"If you didn't know how old you are..... How old would you be?" I don't notice the outside very much....I am drawn to the inside... as well as not having your D I L E M M A...(spelling nazi arrived!) ..I have seen 90 year old faces with 5 year old eyes blazing in them. If I looked in the mirror, I would think I was about my age. I fell 25 mentally, but I think I look my age, 57. Dennis

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sat 06/05/10 09:53 PM
Actually when it all comes down to it I've really wonder if it don't all come down to the issue that when we look in the mirror to us we don't look like we have aged that much. But to others we in fact do look older then we think we do...... i was wondering that too!! I never measure myself age wise. I let others do it for me. I am blessed with good genes and take very good care of my skin .. for all that I get rewarded with constantly being mistaken for 40's. WOOT. But let's face it .. shouldn't we be thankful for every single year we've lived. There are so many who don't get the chance to live a full life. so whatever I look .. I'm glad I'm still breathing air eh?

hmlover Joined Sun 02/22/09 Posts: 3156	Sun 06/06/10 07:03 AM
I think I may have hit a time warp somewhere along the way... I've looked exactly the same since I was about 25. Not even a new wrinkle.. just a little gray in my beard and that's a very recent development.

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Sun 06/06/10 07:12 AM
What other people think about my magnificently cute self is irrelevant - all that matters is that I'm comfortable with it ...

interesting10 Joined Thu 01/15/09 Posts: 11	Sun 06/06/10 07:36 AM
At 80 and now a widower, it's now a real problem... I'm looking for new companionship and beyond, and the ladies my age are not inspiring... Topping that off, My son's wife just announced the she's retiring after over 30 years teaching... I'm still working... (self-employed). So I cast about, looking for a lady that is active, preferably technical, and definitely active in life as am I....

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sun 06/06/10 07:45 AM
i pretty much ignore age

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 06/06/10 09:22 AM
First off I think a lot more women in their 50's look to be in their 40's .. not men. Most men in late 50's look like my dad would. And I think a higher percentage that do not care for themselves anymore. Nothing wrong with being friends with or dating younger than you are if you fit in better with that generation. I think I have 1 or 2 close friends in their 50's, the rest in their 30's & 40's. Never date this age either. Usually in their 30's. Just sayin. and it's dilemma not delema I agree, overall men unfortunately do not age as attractively or as well as most women and much of that has to do with diet fitness fashion and grooming. As young men some must be led to believe that their masculinity gets the girl - so I think they do not realize that a good haircut, a reasonable waistline, and something besides a T shirt would make them more attractive. I date men younger also. Somewhere along the line a lot of men do stop taking care of themselves - but men in these older generations also were raised to some degree to think that this is some woman's job to do - that mentality can come back to bite them if they end up single in their 50s & 60s. Of course, I wouldn't be interested in a man who wasn't well groomed in his 30s or 40s either Fade, it's just that I also don't see that so much with the younger guys. My best advice to men my age - if I can offer only a few words: Get fit, & get rid of the T Shirts and golf shorts. Shave. If you wear ur hair long keep it trimmed and in a pony tail.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 06/06/10 09:32 AM
i pretty much ignore age pretty much - I also like what everyone is saying about doing the things we enjoy without relating back to whether they are "age appropriate" When we stop having fun is when people think of you as old and when you start to feel old. Like the one woman who said she still collects Winnie the Pooh stuff - I still love porcelain dolls....and rock n roll and wear my hair long, show cleavage, and slap back a brew to anyone who doesn't like it

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Sun 06/06/10 11:16 AM
WHAT??? This thread is still going? Haven't we come to terms with the fact our inner child never dies like it has in some other people??? People People People! Let us celebrate eternal inner youth! Yeah!