For me it will. My new and inproved critiea for dating. Exspecialy online dating. #1 They have to have a job, or a steady source of income.#2. They have had to live, and maintain thoer own place of resadence for atleast a year.#3. They must have thier own car. #4. Be close enough that we may see eachother on a reglar basis in order to spend time together live and in living color. #5. Allow me to talk with her friends so I am able to get charector refs.

I think that "both" of you should have been more responsible.. I wasn't there so I don't know her complete intentions but you stated that you wanted something serious, she wasn't going for it so you kicked her out.. I get where you were coming from BUT two responsible adults would have discussed things and planned a little better not expecting love and living together after one meeting... I don't believe in just blaming the other b/c we almost always have control on our side and part of the responsibility lies there...

Of course it could have been planned better. But what kind of person goes on a trip like that and doesn't bother to make sure they have enough money to take care of themselves should things not go well? Especially when they're not being honest about what's going on to begin with? Sorry, but I have no sympathy for someone like that.

Sympathy or not, using someone or not he brought her to his state wanting something from her.. She didn't give him what he wanted so he got rid of her.. I don't care who you are, if you got them there and didn't like them it's your responsibility to get them home.. Like I said if he was going to buy a ticket he could have bought round trip.. What if he didnt' like her? Would he have put her on the bus to go back home? Just b/c he didn't get "his" needs/wants met is no reason to leave someone on the streets I don't care if she thought she was getting a free ride.. She didn't do anything physcially to him, she didn't tear up his house, she wanted a free ride.. Right or wrong on her part, I wouldn't leave a person in the streets... But then again I wouldn't bring someone to my house with plans of living together and never having spent time with them over a very long period...

Damn bro that was kinda cold........

We both talked through texts,email, over the phone ( for hours)for atleast a month b4 she agreed to come out here. She stated to me, and her friends that she wanted to start a new life with me hoping that some day in the future there would be a posability of marrage. She also stated over and over that I was the only man she wanted.

I'd never expect someone to buy my ticket. I guess I just see it as he didn't have to do it and she should have been prepared to get herself home if it didn't work. Who would go into a situation like that without having a backup plan to leave?

And yes, seems that she did want a free ride. Just because she wanted that, he shouldn't have been expected to provide that for her. As an adult, she should have her own money.

I wouldn't either but that's not my point... My point is HE WANTED SOMETHING AND DIDN'T GET IT... She was wrong that's a given.. maybe she didn't like him upon seeing him and that's cold and YES she should have had her own money and been able to provide for herself BUT HE OBVIOUSLY KNEW SHE COULDN'T b/c she couldn't even afford a bus ticket.. Right there RED FLAG! I'm sure he knew more about her financial situation before he bought the ticket therefore by buying the one way he obligated himself to take care of her if it didn't work out.... Again I ask "What would he have done if he didn't like her?" Would he be any less responsible for getting her out there?

Forget what YOU would have done or what I would have done.. What's RIGHT? Humanely right? Neither of them were right but to leave someone in the streets that is TERRIBLY WRONG!!!!!!

Amen to that!! I just got out of that situation!!

I swear. I will NEVER NEVER happen again

A month? You must be new to online dating.

Frequent flyer miles!

I dated a guy in Tennessee for a year before he moved to Cali. We flew back and forth between Tenn and Cali every week - and shared the cost. It wasn't a big deal. He stayed together for 6 years. It was the best relationship. We are still close. He lives in Hollywood and is a music producer now.

I'm glad I took the chance!

This is big, huge world. Do you honestly think the right person for you in your city – or even in your state? Besides, what a great way to see other cities in meeting new people. I love entertaining guests in Cali too. There is so much to do! Life is a big vacation!

I've met great guys in Virginia Beach, Florida, Georgia, and Arizona.

I know the guy for me isn’t near me. I’ve been here too long!

My rule is: the first time we meet, whether he comes here or I go there, we pay our own way. If we hit it off then we can share travel costs after that point. I never, ever stay at his place nor he at mine for a few visits. Hotels are safe and private. I have my own money and I don’t want to be a pawn in potential head games if I have to rely on a guy for money. I never rely on anyone to watch over me.

If someone wasn't truthful with you and still wanted to stay and have you take care of them, would you let them? Or would you ask them to leave?

Okay, let's get the topic straight here. I fully agree with Princess, why? Well if you read his other topic, and then read this one, suddenly things don't add up. His other topic states they talked for two years over the phone and text, constantly, and just above he says it was only a month. Also in his other topic, he bought her the bus ticket out there, he did...responsibility is a two-way road. He brought her out to a place she wasn't familiar with, regardless of her intentions when she arrived, and then ditched her, in a state, she more than likely has never been in.

Again, responsibility is a two-way road. You were burnt, you really burned yourself, pick up the pieces and send her back, you did send her there in the first place.

I think I said a few times "I would buy their ticket back home"....

Thank you Fear for getting what I was saying.. Perhaps I should have been more concise... Working on that...

Yeah, I understand what you're saying. I'm just giving my point of view. If I were in a situation where the other person was not who they said they were or wanting something completely different than they led me to believe, I would not allow them to stay. I would also not give them money to get home. They should be responsible enough to be able to do that themselves.

If she would have told me that she had no interest in me romanticly, but wanted a place to stay untill she eas able to get a job and a place of her own. Yes. i would have let her stay untill she got enough money built up to get a place and stand on her own two feet. But decieving me in telling me that she wanted a life with me. And that she was inlove with me in order to get a place to stay untill she got her own place, kinda of hurt realy bad, and bust the bubble that I alowed to grow. Not only was I hurt. I was pissed. She had been lying to me for atleast the past two months. Just for her gain.

If it were as simple as that I might agree with you.. However, it is not..

I'm sorry it happened that way but the bottom line is as I said "you didn't get what you wanted/were expecting so you threw someone out into the streets".. Her misleading you wasn't cool but didn't deserve the streets far away from home...