I'm just wondering why the friend is acting as the "go-between". Is the girl not adult enough to approach you in the first place or when there seems to be questions?

Long time lurking in the back ground just reading. So I must say HI once again.

So now on to my confusion. I just recently started working at this place back in the beginning of the year, due to being laid off at my last job.

So one day I was asked what I thought about this person at work from her friend, I responded that I found her attractive but that I don't really know her since my work keeps me in the back ground a little. So about a week later this friend of hers asks me again "Why haven't you asked her out"? I responded that I have never asked someone out from work; since it may not turn out good or what not. Her friend then gave me this person’s phone number and told me she was hoping that I would call her to go out sometime, or just to talk.

So I did just that, I called this person and we had a good 4 hour chat over the phone the very first time. And we have had many more as well. But the last few call this person had informed me that she would like to keep it to just friends for now, since she has been having problems with her Ex(of over a year now). Mind games as she informs me. He had got remarried less than a year after their divorce.

But my problem is that I really don't follow this persons lead or hints. She kind of flirts like a little girl when she comes around me by like adding a little hop in her step, smiling and seems to find reasons to come over to where I may be asking someone questions for my shipments, which seems to be out of her way in my opinion.

Now a few of my best friends from many years say that she has me like on a "back burner" just in case. So I am at the point of not calling her figuring if she wants to further this she can call me, I mention that since her friend had asked me why I haven't called her friend in four days.

So my question is... Umm what is going on here? Should I take my friends advice and stay away or continue this game? I know that she had mentioned that she wanted to be friends, but I don't understand why she would do this stuff to get my attention if we are to just be friends. And yes maybe I would like to be more than friends but when I am asked other things from this persons friend.

I will tell you what is going on here. But first, let me say that, in my opinion...you should definitely not go any further with this chick. Now, allow me to explain why.

She wants to be friends. But, she is also flirty with you as well. I don't see this as a case of being on the backburner (not all the way). I feel that she also wants to see what you are feeling. Yeah, you agreed to her terms and all, respecting her wishes and what not. But alot of times, people (men and women) do say one thing, but they really want something else. What I mean is, I feel that she said the friends comment just to see what you would say, or also to hear like if there was some amount of disappointment in your voice. However, as she is still being flirty, going out of her way to see you and all, well that just signals to me that she wants you to actually pursue her. It is a game, and no doubt it seems that she likes to play them. Yeah, we all want to be pursued, and I just feel that she does want that from you. She obviously likes you and the attention you give her. She lives for the chase. And she wants that from you.

Anyways, I think you should just ignore her and move onwards dude. Just my thoughts.