I have this problem all the time. People often say that they want a no ******** relationship, but i find i can never go up to a beautiful woman and tell her all i'm thinking. Instead there's the whole song and dance that must be gone through before you can even consider being yourself.

I wish, for once, a woman would actually be modernized enough to approach me first. I might get that flirty look from across the room, but other than that i have to try and read if it's appropriate for me to slip a number, ask a number, ask a dance, buy a drink, etc. etc.

It would be nice if a girl could make the approach. What most women don't realize is if they are attractive, and the man is single, their chances of getting shot down are incredibly lowered. Also, i would find it SOOOOO attractive if a woman had the gall to go out and hunt for what she wants. Sometimes the hunt is fun, but also exhausting. It's refreshing for a woman to mix it up.

But i want to hear what you folks think. If you're a woman, what do you wish men were doing? If you're a man, the same thing. Discuss, and if you'd like to talk with me in private, i'm always open for PM.

Chuck

i firmly believe if you like someone admit it. none of that "guy has to do this" and "girl has to do this" if you think im hot say it and vice versa saves sooo much time that could be better spent getting to know eachother.

like il say it now, your a very good lookin man with a good state of mind there!

observation; you get a flirtatious look from across the room = she just made the first move

Ar, Just tell her you're a pirate after her booty. If she smiles then it's all good. If she doesn't smile, then run like hell.

I wish he would grab me, kiss me, and drag me by my hair back to his man cave

And yet....sooo many dudes miss the signs.

uuunnnggaaa bbbuuunnnggaaa!

Thanks emily :) *sends a flirtatious look from across the cyber room*

It's of course a feeling reciprocated. I kinda have this thing for beautiful women... it's an odd attraction i have so don't be alarmed when i tell you you qualify.

And kc003: It's a fair point i suppose... but it's a first move without a lot of emphasis behind it. You can still approach and have to jump through hoops to get anywhere. it's the indirectness of flirtatious nature and requests that's aggravating.

That's when you "own" the moment dude. Look, if you see a chick and you are attracted to her, then why should you stop yourself from trying? Especially if she sents that signal that she is interested. If she plays games, then drop her like a bad habit. Trust me, alot of times, you do that, and she will come back to you. But, if you see her signal, and you make the approach, then majority of the times she will be responsive without the games. I have said it before and I will say it again. If a dude nuts up and talks to a chick, she will respect the hell out of him...and will more than likely want to get to know him alot better.

you not only want to find that mutual attraction, but you also are requesting that she have a type "A" personality and take charge of initial process?

i know that everyone likes to feel as though they are desired, but you are asking for thousands of years of evolution to suddenly reverse itself here. don't get me wrong, there are plenty of women who are comfortable making the first move however, once they do it is up to you to follow through. the flirt from whatever distance is a clear sign that she is open to your interest.

Sherry, when we get back to the man cave, could you check under my loin cloth?????....What????.......WHAT?????????????? I'm happy to see you, so I brung ya a present.....

that's more like a club

Said in my best Elvis voice....Thank ya, thank ya very much.

If we happen to be at the same place at the same time and we seem to have interest in each other then it is time to come and talk and hopefully we have a little time to get to know each other a little to decide if a phone number be the next step.

Nite Ph

ut oh... a penis reference... now we're PG13 people! LET'S PUSH FOR R!!!!

And it is part of a effed up game too! Just becasue a woman gives you that look doesn't mean ANYTHING! I know that for a fact!

No women need to speak up more these days. I can't tell what the hell a woman means when she begins tugging at her ear incessantly during a date! it either means "I wish I could get away" or "This guy is boring as hell." I have been told if a woman plays with her hair while she is talking to you she is interested. I actually seen that one backfire on guys making the move on a girl who plays with her hair while they are talking to her.
Do not take what signals you think she is throwing seriously. You will regret it 9 times out of 10!

I’m fairly traditional when it comes to dating. I prefer the man show his interest by asking me out. If I am attracted to someone, I give out signals; therefore, a guy would know if I was interested and it eliminates the fear of being “shot down.”

Hi Chuck

I just noticed your profile indicates you are "looking for an intimate encounter". Consider changing that to “dating”, or at the very least "friendship" if you don't want anything serious.

Most people block "intimate encounters" in their mail filters so your emails won't get through. That is an activity not taken very seriously with online dating.

Just a thought ....