So what are your thoughts on dating somebody who has a kid?
For me....I've always been open to the idea but now that it's me that has the child, it seems a lot harder to find a man to talk to.

Guys: Would you date a woman with a child?
Girls: Is it just me or has it been harder to find a man after having a child than before you had a child?

I have not had any issues dating with children. I will say it does take a special person to be able to play second fiddle at times though.

It could also be the age range too. I'm only 20 so I'm sure alot of younger men don't want that responsibility. I do agree that it does take a special person though.

For me dating a woman with a child is really tough, especially since there is no time to spend on the relationship; since the child needs so much attention. I just wouldn't do it

Hummm myself I never had a problem with it and heck I had 2 of them..........

But now at my age I'm finding it more difficult finding those my age that don't still have young kids I'm talking under the age of 15.......

For me I have already raised my kids and prefer to date those that have kids that are grown.......

No matter what age you are there is going to be times you find those that don't want small kids around. Due to they are still young and still wanting to party and not be tied down or due to they are older and have raised their kids and wanting to have that freedom to do as they please when they want too...

You will finally find one that does not mind kids at all. At times it is best to look towards those that have kids around the same age. For they understand much better and kids do not bother them...

I was 20 when my son was born (single mom) and I didn't have a lot of time for dating back then, so I guess I never saw who would date somene with a child or not.

Mine are grown up now...when they were younger there were some who weren't interested because I had children, some who were. I never took it personally. It can be challenging, and I wouldn't blame a guy not being interested in women with children. We have the advantage of knowing our children when they were sweet babies..the man does not have that luxury.

I would date a single father because I don't have any of my own. Although, I would rather pass on the baby mama drama if there is any.

Having dated women with kids in my younger days, and having discovered that I have absolutely no aptitude for, nor interest in, being a "parental figure," surrogate or otherwise, I would never get involved with anyone who had kids.

And I know it's a severely limiting factor, inasmuch as I see profiles of 19-year-olds with 3 kids already -- childfree women on dating sites are about as common as ostrich horns -- but I know what works for me and what doesn't....

My experience was that the women I dated who had kids, weren't really looking for a relationship, per se, at all -- they were looking for someone to step in and "play daddy" -- and that's not for me....

having natural children of my own was always very important to me and i most likely would not have dated a father who was unwilling to have any more with me.

now that i'm older and have my own, i'd date a man with kids. however, i'd rather them close to the ages of my kids so there'd be some things in common if we were all spending time together.

Earlier in life, yes ... now - no.

yes i've dated a woman with a child. It's a hard role to take part of. The child in my case didn't treat me as a father figure in anyway. I know i could never had taken place of her true dad, but would have been nice to still be treated as such.

But i think it really doesn't matter if it's a real child or step child, as long as the child treats the step dad with the same respect as a real dad, and if that step dad comes around at a real early age i would assume the child and father's bond would be just as a real child and dad. It's mainly up to the child if it's going to work or not, cause the relation would never last if the child doesn't like your boyfriend for the simple fact would you continue doing something or bringing someone around that got your child upset or simply your child didn't like?

I've dated women with kids, never had a problem with it...I've always been good around small kids, teenagers I want to throw bricks at though. ^^

KIDS:

Tammys opinion:

Older
Out of the house

I'll date ya!


Young
in the home
still paying support
visitation


sorry

Not for me!!!

Oddly,, when I was younger and unaware of the WORK it takes to raise children,, I would have been open to dating someone without regard to whether they were a Parent.


But now that I am older and a parent myself, I really dont want to HAVE anymore kids but I would love for my kids to have step siblings.
So I actually find myself having a preference for men who already have kids as opposed to men who have none. I am not opposed to a man who has none,, I just would feel as if I was being unfair to ask him to be a partner raising mine when I am not willing to give him any of his own and he has none of his own.

JMO
I believe, single men/women with kids would do their kids great benefits focusing on raising your kids and limit your dating to just that. Don't bring 'em home. If ya' got a need for lust, take it to a motel or out in the woods in the back of yer truck.

I say , truck cuz, if I tried to git it on in a VW, they'd have to break out the jaws of life ta' git me out! Full moon and all!

More often than not, Step-Families are hard on kids and do lots of damage.

it completely depends upon the family values of the parents. Adoption works because people are able to completely embrace non biological children as their own. The same happens with adults who combine their children into one family.

Well I don't have any kids but honestly I would not date a single dad. Tried that and never worked out.

I think life as a single person is much different than life as a parent. Single adults can still think completely about themself in every decision, all their time is their own, all their resources are their own, and when they get into a relationship they are usually best matched with someone else who has such complete access to their own time and resources which they can share.

A parents resources and time are already shared with their children, and I imagine that it would be an exceptional single person who could accept sharing their partners resources and time in such a way.

Fellow parents probably can relate better to that arrangement and adapt better to it. Much like the way two celebrities can probably fit into each others worlds better than a non celebrity and a celebrity can.

You are so right! It is so hard to find someone to date when you have a child and your a female. I find it even harder because my daughter is mixed. No guy will give me a chance once they find that out!