That women are turned off to submissive men? Ive had a couple women contact me. And soon as I let them know that im submissive to women, I never hear back from them. Just wondering.

personal tastes , not really any other way to explain it


Im sure there are dominating women out there,, I think mainstream sites like this are one way of meeting all types of women, but I would try sites for submissive men or dominating women to increase the chance of finding the type that interests you ,,,,good luck

I have gone to those types of sites. First thing they ask for is your credit card number. And Im not all that well off.

This is a great topic OP. I am turned off by submissive men because I want an equal. Not someone I have to carry or cater too. I don't want to be put on a pedestal or talked down to. I want a man that will tell me the truth and want to hear my truth.

That being said, I don't understand why men want submissive women either.

they may even take it out of context, thinking that you mean strictly sexually....if that is what actually happens to be the case you want to wait to tell them...

Another reason I know, is a lot of women see 'submissive' men as 'weak' and 'insecure' even though that very well may not be the case, it is a stereotype.

Not all, but most women I've met like confidence, and if a submissive man is portrayed in a stereotype of lacking that confidence it may be an automatic turn-off.

However, There are plenty of women in this world that do like submissive men as well, they are the more dominating type, they may not even realize it, but they are. But in my experience those women want to 'make' the man submissive, not just have him 'roll-over' for them.

That's about all the advice I got.

Dunno, I'm a mix of both and I never had a problem finding someone. Maybe you should become a switch?

Well. I never thought about it, untill I read your answer. i may be a switch. Because I do enjoy it both ways. Interesting::

I am an equal to my lady in every way shape and form!!(If I ahd a lady!!)!!!

Quite honestly I would also be turned off, I want a partner not someone that will be submissive to me.

I know myself well enough to know I would not have respect for th is type of personality in a personal relationship.

I want neither submissive or dominant.

In reality most, remember I said MOST, women are subconsciously or otherwise looking for someone to protect and provide for them. That's why a lot of them go for, and stick with, the big burly football player types, even though they may act likes d!@#s some of the time. And submissive or weak appearing men just don't cut it.

I love it when my man takes control

I think for most single moms its not subconscious at all. I know when all the responsibility for your family is placed upon you (providing AND nurturing) , the last thing you want is a grown up to feel responsible for. I consciously prefer males who take the lead and the initiative, so I can concentrate that part of my energy on being a mom(to my children)

You have to know when to show the submissive versus the dominant, in the bedroom a good mix of both is always a plus...but out on a date you don't want to be the sissy at the whim of the girl you are dating. Just as well I wouldn't make this one of the first topics of discussion when talking to someone, matter of fact sex should rarely if ever come up in the first few conversations...assuming you are talking about sex, if not and you are submissive on a date...that could be a problem.

I am not submissive, but I pay attention during intimate time, if I feel my partner wants to control speed or position etc, I don't mind it as long as they're no spanking or torcher involved.

its probably good advice not to go labeling oneself with such restrictive terms right up front. What one might think is submissive may not be at all what the other is referring to. I think its best to get to know personalities for ourself and decide if they are compatible.

I was with someone who claimed to be dominant,,,but when we were together, he was constantly victim of this that or the other, and needing me to initiate just about everything,,,,,it was a real turn off personally but I am sure by HIS definition he was dominant, maybe because he cried so forcefully and passionately,,,shrugs

Sure, skip the fun parts.

Spanking and torture is how you know they love you.

If a woman is too dominant, I find that duc tape, hand cuffs and a cattle prod work well.

Geez.
Wouldn't it be easier just to milk her on time?

What?

You expect me to run out to the barn every time some cow needs milking?

That would be too submissive.

Ummm...maybe you should just agree with her.