did you have a moment that you experienced sadness and /or regret in your last relationship? ex. the feeling of maybe you could have done more or done something different and then you wouldnt be alone and things would be different?

its more like frustration for all he did was hide in his work
for he ran away from his family and relationships
i actually talked to him the other nite.
and i told him if there was anything going to happen between us again
there has to be huge changes... i really doubt that is ever going to happen. but time will tell so in the mean time im not waiting to see his excuse....nothing could be done with him. for he did nothing but brake promises....my daughter went over to talk to him about the money he owes for he was fixing her computer and i told him to go ahead and re sell it for at the time she wasent even in the country. and she wanted a differnt computer.. well he kept giving excuse after another when he was going to pay 6months later nada. so bag him had enough and i told him why... he really didnt say anything just another excuse
my daughter went over to talk to him and she didnt like him she called him a scum bag. she didnt say that to his face but she told me what she thought of him...

Yes things could of been done differently but there was a lack of communication, however the experiences I have had has made me a better person and I wouldn't change that for the world

sometimes i just wonder what if i had tried harder or done something different...if things would be better now......

Nope. The only thing I could have done differently would have been to have the b***h committed.

YEP.....not dater her.

yep there was deffently lack of communication when he would contact me it was mainly in text. geeze thats nothing. i would rather hear the dang freaken voice then see the writing

i lived with my ex for a year....just moved a month ago...and finally am breaking down...right now....i just cant help but feel like if i had done or said something different, then things would be different. and its not even that i miss him...i just ..i dunno sometimes i think maybe i should have done more to make it work

Nah. My ex girlfriend and I knew that we weren't good for each other. But as friends, we work well. I care for her and wish and want the best for her, and I do not regret the time I had with her. We had good times. But I don't things could or would have been different. We tried and it just didn't work.

Sometimes things just don't work out honey. Don't beat yourself up......

Nope never any regrets it did not work out for a reason we just was not meant to be............

agree with you there. That and dump out all her box-wine whenever it was in the house, and pawn her gun for cash.

Only when I've been really lonely.

That stinks to feel that way; I think everyone goes through it at least once in their life. When things don't work out though, you just accept it because you can't change it and then learn from it all.

thats what really sucks...i thought i had accepted it and was ok with it....and then like a ton of bricks....it hit me and the tears are flowing......

there was a guy i was with for 3yrs i actually met him way before i met my daughter dad, and we actually got together when my son was 4yrs old
and we had a great relationship but things just happen. so we broke up for awhile and i was trying to go forward and i met someone where i knew the other guy cared for he proved it.but i hurt him by going back to the other .i was actually trap. the other guy had invited me to his house on new yrs eve and i was leaving the phone rang and i didnt bother to answer the phone if i would had the old bf wouldnt had came back. the next morning i wasent even home 15min and the old bf pops back in my life and moved back in i was stuck and i didnt know how to handle it.i did let him know in a note for i went over to my friends house so i didnt have to deal with him. but i ended up talking to him on the phone. and we stayed together for awhile but it wasent the same... the other guy i got in touch with him last yr in classmates and within the last few months we have been talking on the phone and email

Well yes, but I can't change what happened so I try not to dwell on it.

This.

What's done is done, it cannot be changed. Mistakes could have been made on both parts, but there is no reversing them now. Learn from it and keep going.

accepting it and feeling sad about it, on occasion, are not necessarily the same thing.

also i find the sadness comes more from the loss of the dream, that we weren't one of the lucky ones who got to stay together forever, than the loss of him specifically. i keep reminding myself of the poor times when i feel sad over it.

it isn't so much that i miss him, or his love, but that i question myself and whether i misjudged him, whether he changed, or whether he really even was my friend after all.

as far as changing what we've said, done and thought. i believe that things have a way of working themselves out in the manner in which they were intended. the process might be different, but the result stays the same.