is that people want to tell you after that fact that you have been cheated on? Why is they can not tell you about the deceit you are living, so you can end it then. And what is the point of upsetting someone after the fact, by finding out they were deceived later? I think if they are disrespectful enough not to tell you while you are together, why rub it in afterwards?

that is a good question. maybe they just had it weighing in on their concience (i think thats how its spelled LOL). unless they are just being an ***, then i really couldnt understand

I did find it assanign actually

want to let you know they knew before you.

If they are a real friend, they'd keep their mouths shut & support you as necc.

That's tough, Baby Girl. Too bad it happened to you.

1 If it's a "straight" man and they tell you after the breakup, they prolly wanna' see you cry so, they could have a chance to come and save the day and reap a 30 minute reward. I know, I've done that before.

2 If it's a "straight" gal who is supposed to be yer friend tellin' ya', she just wants to see you cry and she ain't really yer friend.

If it's a gay man that tells you that, see number 2.

If it's a gay gal delivering the low-down, refer to number 1.

Wud I lie to ya'?

Actually if they were my friend Oldsage, I believe they would have told me in the beginning and not allowed me to stay in the relationship at all.

Agreed and I find the person that told me just as deceitful by not telling me previously.

I actually see a lot of good them telling you this. If the guy was a jerk to you and ran around on ya, that info might seal the fact you wouldn't allow him back in.

You deserve much better. You have a face with soft,"caring" features and kind, honest eyes.

















And ya's gots one great set of Ta-Tas!!

Well guess what if the person really cared, I do not think they would have let me live it without saying anything to me. I just wish my friend had shown me the respect our friendship deserved.

Oh, this is easy.


People suck.


Next question.......

You are absolutely right.
As I said before, you deserve much better friends and a much better man.

My point exactly.

I wouldn't cheat on ya'.

LOL how are you Krupa?

Dang!!
I musta' blew my chances!

Friend or foe, none of us wants to be "That guy" or "That girl" who had to break the horrible news to the one cheated on. In theory, if you are a friend to someone who is being cheated on, then yes, as a friend you would think you would say something. But nowadays people live in their own world, and do not want to get involved with the lives of others, especially when something like cheating is happening. Sad? Yes it is. But most people will "Say" they would do it, but when the real deal happens???.....they fail to step up!

Its not you its me

I am not attempting to justify someone else's actions here, but... it's a no win situation for the friend...

If they tell you while you are "in it" you just may shun the friend in lieu of your "new or current love"

If they tell you after the fact, the same can happen...

It's a no win for anyone... the person who is really at fault it the cheater... the rest is simply collateral damage...

Luck to ya!

$.02

I would have walked away and never looked back. As I will do so now, just needed ventilation of the emotional broadcast system, LOL.

I have to agree. If I were your good friend and I knew about the cheating, I'd have a very difficult time telling you for fear of losing your friendship. Many, many times throughout history when the friend tries to intervene they are either "jealous" or accused of not wanting you to be happy. The friendship ends up in quarrel and breaks up. I'd have a hard time telling my friend. If anything, I'd try to prove it over anything else.