So on another social website an old aquaintance has looked me up and we have become email & text buddies...chattin & chittin,textin & tweetin. I have gotten to know him pretty well along with a little of
our semi friendly past we had 4 years ago. I am in N.Y. and alas....he is in Kentucky now. He comes home once a year for a couple months. Now he wants to start up something, he's got me anticipating his return and wanting to give it a shot. I don't think it's fair but I think I'm becoming addicted! Any advice?? I tried a l.d. relationship once and it was anightmare!

Dawnette.... this sounds like the situation I'm in... I met a guy three years ago and I liked him but at the time he didn't seem to like me. Long story short we stayed as just friends and very recently decided to take it up to the next step. Now he ignores me and whatever but I'm thinking its my "fault" cause I'm getting to attached? to him. Anyways my advice to you would be stay as his friend for now and see where it leads.... if he does manage to make it to where your at and then wants to still meet up with you then give it a shot. That's what I'm doing about my guy... staying as his distant girlfriend (his work keeps him away from his home so...) then once my guy has more down time then what he is getting then I plan on driving to see him (he only lives about 3 hrs away from me.

Anyways good luck with whatever you do decide to do... and for anyone who wants to tell me or this girl to just break up with our guys... you don't know the full stories on both our parts... there are reasons we have these guys as friends. Right Dawnette?...

Well thats kind of right Theresa..except I'm not actually with him yet...though we do have a date set in July to go out...lol. I already know I'm gonna flip like a pancake over him and not sure I want to set myself up for the inevitable. As he also is away most of the year because of his work. I did tell him friends first but it's already happening and he's not even here yet! Anyways slow ,slow ,slow is what I'm doing too.
Good luck to you with your situation!

I'd say go for it, but I'm young, naive, and unwise...

So maybe I'm not the best advisor...

Sometimes you yougins know more then old folgies like me...
thanx for opinion Sugar!

Hummmmmm well if you don't you will always wonder what if???? Why not see if there is anything there at least in the end you will know if things don't work out......

True Tx! Trying to be friends for awhile first We'll see...only 4 more weeks and he'll be home!

I say go for it! You only live once! Broken hearts mend but regrets can last forever!

i say let sleeping dogs lie
or whatever
i avoid revisiting the past. anyone not in my current circle is outside of it for a reason. occasionally, i may wonder about what might have been or what so and so is up to, but i believe there is a reason they're not in my life now and haven't been in some time. i don't necessarily need to know the reason.



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Well been there done that tried it and it did not work but at least I walked away with no regrets....and not having to wonder what if???

Yeah we'll see....just don't want the heartache! He's not even here yet for the summer and I'm already dreading him leaving...lol

Ok..OK thats just it....I don't want another broken heart and I'm just not wired to go for it just for the fun of it. I always end up emotionally attached!

It's not even like that Drew he was more of an aqauintence..that I did'nt have a chance to get to know. Actually I thought he disapeared off the face of the earth or something.

Go forward with it-just be cautious. It is better than wondering what could have been.It only has to be right once-and everybody deserves that.

I think so too...and he's a good one (I don't think he's a game player)

I say throw caution to the wind. You only live once. You're lucky if you love once in this lifetime. If there's a chance with this guy, go for it. Why hold yourself back from what you're feeling? Give it your all, and if it doesn't work out, so be it. You'll get back up, brush yourself off, and be on your way. If it DOES work out, you could be happier than you've ever been!

In my experience, when you try to deter your feelings, good or bad, it burns you in the end. So I say go for it, don't fight what you're feeling for him. It seems kinda pointless to wonder how much it'll suck if it fails before it's even begun! But then again, I'm an all or nothing type of person. Some people play it safe, some throw caution to the wind. Do what feels right to you! Good luck.

OMG!! I'm throwing it in the wind alright! So he calls me on Tuesday with a surprise...he's coming to N.Y!. It is now Saturday morning and he is here (actually 2 blocks from me!!) Seems he had to come up to grab his teenage son as the kid got into some kind of trouble. He's gonna only be here for 3 days ,then he has to go back until July... were gonna try to get some time together tonight . OLEY CHIT!!!

To Be Continued......

Good luck!

ZOINKSSSSS!!!

Dinner at a nice lil Mexican restaurant,stopped by to visit his brother,wife & kids.... then drove up by the water for awhile and talked. Okay so he's a nice guy so far and we get along great....even though he's kind of a modern day no-mad with a slight mix of Harley Davidson & Jack Daniials... (tatoos of both!....hmmmmmmmmm!)

What's the point of a long distance relationship unless you both just decide to get together once a year for dinner and a roll in the hay and nothing more.

If he expects more than that, he would eventually want to move in with you or you with him.

Under no circumstances agree to exclusivity or fidelity unless you are in the same city.

That's a no brainer unless you like living like a nun, and worrying whether or not he is keeping his end of the agreement.