Just to clarify...I'm not referring necessarily to that type of relationship. Not referring to getting your heart broke by a lover type situation

These are the people that ruin your approach to others.Even though u don't want to hold on to the experience ,it is almost impossible not to.It makes you alot less willing to believe in someone,even though they are saying all the right things.You touch something and get burned you are not so willing or quick to reach for it again.

I have that happen a lot at work. I have this one resident at work who is so much fun. I call her by her name and she calls me the same name. It is fun to talk to her in the third person but I think she is getting wise to me. It is hard to tell because of her dementia but even dementia residents can manipulate. People are fascinating individuals.

I'm 0 for 2 as well bro. They say the third times a charm. I think that is bullchit........

So, if this isn't about these types of relationships then what is it about then? If I didn't love they'd be no heartstrings to pull.

I get used by pretty much everyone I know. My ex's, my friends, shoot... even my parents.

Need advice, why not come to me? Need money... why not come to me? Need help moving... why not come to me? Need a shoulder to cry on... why not come to me? Need to borrow a truck... why not come to me? Need to drink someones beer... why not come to me? Need food to eat... why not come to me? Get the message here?

Now if I need something... where the hell is everyone???

oh my,, I cybermet the most handsome, sweet, military male on this site when I first joined,, he said everything right, posted respectfully and made me think he thought me the most wonderful person,,,,until,,,

I happened to google his name (out of boredom) and found a message on a military website from his 'fiance' professing her love and hope that he would come back safe. When I asked him about this lady, instead of being the honest gentleman, apologizing for the misunderstanding,,,etc,,,

he instead just denied, denied, denied, and then suddenly left a message that he had been deployed,,,lol


anyway,, its just the internet,, and life still goes on

When ever there is caring involved can heart strings not be pulled? I know my sons pull at mine at times. Is the only heart felt relationships with a lover?

Dang, if I ever need anything I know who to call!!! Sorry, I have gotten taken advantage of like that too. But, I'm one of those who just can't for the life of me tell someone no!!! Doesn't matter what they ask if I can anyway possibly do it I'll jump in to help someone out. Then when I get ticked I've got to remind myself that I allowed it to happen. Even if it's an inconvenience to me. It's taking responsibility for my own actions.

I think its only lovers who pull at our strings with bad intentions. But certainly others can pull them. My daughter used to whenever she cried(she is a grade a actress at only three years old). I mean, the face, the tears, the drama,, the whole nine yards. AFter a while though, I learned that these episodes were merely a tactic to manipulate me into what she wants and they stopped affecting me as deeply.

Anyone we care about can pull at out heart strings, a friend can do the same. Generally because it is a friend we don't think that their intentions are bad..until after wards....doesn't have to be a lover. Hopefully we all know our friends well enough..but not always. I admit I am a very trusting soul and do seek the best in people..when I do see the not so good in someone it is usually to late. I have no one to blame but myself...I'll not stop caring though.