Why is it so hard to find a woman that will be dedicated to what the word "us" means? I mean, im tired of pain. i'm a good man that continues to get hurt. And trust me, im all man. not lacking a thing. Just wondering

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Everyone gets hurt if they don't look out for their best interest - yourself.

The best medicine to learn from your mistakes and move on; do not dwell in the drama and do not victimize yourself.

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No offense but something must be lacking. It happens......

No offense meant either but it could be something you have, or do, that causes them to flee.

Good Advice:

Stop being nice to women.

The women I treat badly, like me more.

Counterintuitive, I know....But it works for some reason.

That is horrible advice!!

Don't treat anyone badly.

Just up your standards to someone who will appreciate you.

It's not counterintuitive; that is a game.

How will a girl know the real you if you are playing games with how you interact with her?

Or you can "up your standards to someone who will appreciate you".

Either way. Either way is fine.

STOP DOING THIS ABOVE,,,

and START being the real YOU.....YOUR A GOOD MAN,,SHOW-IT
YOUR A GOOD MAN,,,BE-IT,,,,YOUR A GOOD MAN, DON'T EXCUSE YOURSELF THEN,,,,,,Stand-up and BE,,,ALL THAT YOU ARE and THEY will SEE YOU FOR THAT!!!
Good Luck on here,,
and IF YOU ARE LIKE YOU SAY YOU ARE?

THEN,,YOU WILL FIND LADIES WHO FIND YOU,,"SOMEONE" SPECIAL..

Aren't you here because you lack a woman?
Most of the women I know want a man who is self-assured and not needy.
Suck it up, grow up, let go of the past and get back into the game!
Oh, and welcome home!

T u allways find the rt thing's to say ur rt b urself and u might get farther

Don't expect anything from anyone that you wouldn't expect from yourself. Sometimes you have to read between the lines.Absolutely,you must stand on your own two feet. Take care of your self esteem first, you are more likely to attract want you really want then what you think you need.

I'm looking at you....because you are in my best interest!!

Hmmm..not lacking a thing, eh??

Perhaps the ones that caused you " pain " thought differently??

Ya gotta pimp slap em from time to time.

how do u show the oppessite sex that you are in the that person without making an *** out of youself, or affrad to get shoot down

i agree to this.... jus be yourself no games, games only last for so long if someone fell into the game u are playn and find the real you afterwards how do u expect them to trust you?

Here's the thing dude. You can "feel" that you are so damn sexy because alot of women tell you that you are. And guess what? Even if you are good looking, the possibility of you getting shot down by a chick is still there. Remember, what one chick likes (as my friend Melody calls them "preferences")in a dude isn't what another chick will like. You can be a geek and have an average body, but you could also be the attraction that a chick will be looking for. You never know until you just try (I know that is the hard part) but if you live in fear of things, then you will sit back and wonder what might have been.

I have an average body. I'm not six minute abs dude, but I am in shape. I am a dork/geek/preppie/demented/hip dude that is just himself. People normally like me because of the crazy things I do and say, and yeah...I have a certain sex appeal. Doesn't mean I wouldn't get shot down by a chick who just wasn't into me. And yeah, it does suck to "fail" when you try, but as I said you just never know what will happen? What if that hot girl you like but feel is "outta your league" did find you attractive and is just dying for you to ask her out? You wait too long, then someone else will come along and take her.

I guess it just comes down to a mindset of accepting that rejection is a possibility dude. If you can't accept that, then you will always live in fear. I used to be that way my friend. Not anymore. Goof says "Just go for it".