I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR SOMEONE FOR 12 YEARS NOW. I AM TIRED.TIRED OF GETTING MY HEART BROKEN AND TIRED OF FAKE PEOPLE WHO ONLY WANT ONE THING.IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE WHO WILL NOT BE SCARED OF THE WORD LOVE? I AM ALSO SEEKING A GUY WHO DOSE NOT JUDGE WOMEN ON WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE ON THE OUTSIDE...STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY TO YOU. GO WITH YOU HEART.

i always have to laugh when i see women (and men) complaining that people should look on the inside to see the real beauty.

does that mean we should date people we find ugly?

i'm not saying that the inner qualities are not important - the two should really go hand in hand - but i'm not going to date someone to whom i am not attacted, no matter what anyone tells me.

Agrees! Must be eye candy.

Lucky we all find different traits attractive. Once you get to know someone they can become either more attractive or less so depending on their character and the relationship you develop with them.

I think she meant don't solely go on looks---at least that is how I took it. I agree there has to be a physical attraction, but like stated by Aussie, a personality and certain traits can make you more or less attracted to a person.

One has to attract my eyes, my ears and other senses before they can get into my heart - jmo

good luck

I think it’s more important than that,
Yes we all see different things about each other attractive and yes what’s on the inside is going to be a strong indicator as to IF things work out.
But don’t we at some point need to look closer
I like certain features in a female: eyes that sparkle, frizzy hair, lips that pout, dimples and freckles but these are likes, I may find these details attractive but that just attraction, I have no intention of dating only female with these attributes. If a female had all the details I find attractive would she be attractive to me?
I’m also worried about Dee saying basically her whole statement:
“I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR SOMEONE FOR 12 YEARS NOW, I AM TIRED.TIRED OF GETTING MY HEART BROKEN AND TIRED OF FAKE PEOPLE”
Is she doing the same thing every time, is she in some way advertising To people that fall into the categories,
“I AM ALSO SEEKING A GUY WHO DOSE NOT JUDGE WOMEN ON WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE ON THE OUTSIDE...”
The only person we should be able to guarantee will have a positive opinion of use is ourselves, it sound like a desperate plea for someone to reaffirm her self image.
“STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY TO YOU. GO WITH YOU HEART.”
Are you talking to use or yourself? If a persons self image is week they will see fault in others to cover what they feel within themselves!
A personal with low self esteem would be an easy target for the sort of man she has mentioned!
I think some question need to be answered!
The people you have dated, do they have the same characteristic as each other not necessary how they look but personal traits?
When was the last time you looked in a mirror and said something positive about yourself?
Does a physical relationship start at the beginning of a relationship or are you waiting until you know these people?

nuff said

agreed..eye candy to me may not be to another. That's the beautiful thing about chemistry..it's either there or is isn't.

I see nothing wrong with the way you look. Perhaps you just haven't found mr. right yet

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