how do u keep yo mind of yo ex,tha one person that u knw has your heart? how can u move on?

If you're planning to move on up... I suggest the East Side. It's much better there, problems seem to solve themselves...

Typically they're an ex for a reason, keep in mind why, go through
whatever closure method that is right and comfortable for you, and
move on. Meanwhile, keep yourself busy.

Hello and welcome.

Love your advice, Indigo. I had a bad breakup not all that long ago. Sometimes I slip into forgetting why he is my "x".

Not saying that all second chances are a mistake, but yeah, I
made the definate mistake of giving a second chance. The fallout
was worse than the first time, not going there again. If, with
every option explored the first time it doesn't work, there won't
be a second time. JMO

Oh, yeah... start off with the easy questions...

Hello and Welcome

Seriously though... you don't. You come to places like this and make new friends. Not get rid of the old.

In my opinion, if someone thought that disrespecting and dishonoring the committment that you shared with them, then what profit is there in allowing them the chance to do it again? Integrity is like a balloon, it doesn't matter how good the rubber is, the air still goes out the hole.
Just my 2 cents.

When you're ready to get over them, you will. I know that sounds too simple, but it's true. Once you're ready to be over it, it won't be hard at all. Good luck to you.

First of all if they are my ex they already had one chance with my heart. It seems while they were holding it within their hands the first time they got careless and dropped it causing it to break.

So you see I wonder why should they be given a second chance I would have to say 90% of second chances do not work out.

The best thing to do is stay busy forget about them and learn to move on get the closer you need to and turn and walk away.....

My ex knows me better than anyone has ever known me in my life & sometimes I think back & wonder how our marriage ever fell apart. Then I realize what we had we can never have again & I started to move on. I dated this guy last summer & I really fell hard for him & was ready to move out of state with him then found out he did drugs & laid drunk when I wasn't around. He also had unresolved issues with his ex wife so we split. I'm just now getting over the ex BF & starting to get back into living again.

you need to pop a cap in his melon. then you can move on

* struggles mightily to keep fingers from typing out thoughts *

must....resist...

Tessa. I feel your pain. When you give yourself to someone you thought you knew only to find out that they were putting on a show, its devastating. On the rebound myself, met a "party girl" she was fun, we shared everything, then when she moved in I found out that "party" meant 7 days a week. All the drunk calls from the bars, the late nights worrying where the hell she was and whether she was going to make it home safe just became too much. So while we were a "perfect match" when she was sober, those times just became fewer and fewer, so it had to end.

She constantly calls now, claiming to be clean, but what is done cannot be undone. My heart breaks, but what the hell can you do?

I eat their heart...

Yeah, guess that's why I'm not too quick to jump into another relationship right now. Still stinging a little from the last one!! I'm not trying to be judgemental because I'm a recovering addict/alcoholic myself & don't try to hide the fact that I was into drugs & alcohol heavy. But, over 2 years getting myself out of that hell I don't need to be involved in a using relationship now!!

Think about why he's your ex

down a bottle of 151

wake up on the kitchen floor with your pants off






!!!! FORGOTTEN !!!!!

Also think it depends on how long you were with the person. 18 years for me and it took quite a while, esp since we dated another year and 1/2 afterwards. We're very good friends now, just talking the othernight about the past and we both laughed that it could never be again because we couldn't live together. People evolve or change and remembering only the good things- which most tend to do when they look back- gets or keeps you in a semi hopeful state. Write down the things that weren't working and everytime you start to get wistful again look at it. It will def. speed up the healing process and you'll be able to move on. just my 3 cents.