thing is i know why im still single mine is the trust factor i dont trust so easy no more since i was cheated on

it takes time to get past that, was married 17yrs and found out.....really makes you think

yes it makes you think If anything your told is the truth... one thing i hate is a liar especially when they look into your eyes and lie

you'll have that for a little while...thats the way i was for a a few years

everyone says it gets better

It does.

But, the thing is, you have to take it upon yourself to ALLOW it to get better.

I have been in 5 LTR type deals.

4 out of those five, I have gotten cheated on.

My last relationship was over 5 years ago.

I don't 100% trust anyone.

here is the secret for sleeping from justaguy so thank him of it works for you :-)


Ok. This will sound kinda silly at first but I PROMISE that it really does work.

1) Lie down on your back. Take several deep breaths and totally relax.

2) Close your eyes. In your mind, picture a row of green lights. Under the green lights is a row of red lights. Under the red lights is a row of switches. They can be any kind of light, and any kind of switch you want. Each green light is going to be a part of your body. Feet, legs, arms, hands....as many or as few as you want. Make sure there is a switch for your ears, and a switch for your mind. Those two are essential.

3) Starting at your feet, go down the row and turn off the switch. Do it slowly because if you go too quickly it can throw you off and cause this to not work.

4) Once you have all of your body turned off, then turn off your ears. Lastly, turn your mind off.

Like I said, I know it sounds kinda silly, but it's just a basic self hypnosis technique that I learned a long time ago. And it really does, with a little practice, work very well.

You will know you are doing it right when, once you throw the switch for your feet, you can actually feel the effect. Your feet ( and the other body parts that follow ) will feel a little different. Literally like they have been turned off.

Hope it works for you. :-)

Tim aka (justaguy)

me either i always feel the need to protect myself even more for some reason so i wont be hurt again but i do know not all men are that way

I'm sorry.

just wanted to say i love you guysssssssssssss

I gave up a lot as you know, but I still took the chance, thanks to you.
You know what you need to do

Meh. It's my own fault for picking the women who do that kind of thing.

* shrug *

Heh. I am VERY good at the " Do as I say, not as I do " thing...lol

i still think chances are worth taking and i would take a chance on love if i found it again

You dont find love, IT FINDS YOU. You should always take a chance on it if you get one

I would too.

I am just a LOT more cautious about taking those chances than I used to be.

Honestly I meet really cool guys who will probably make some woman very happy someday. I just meet them when they are having major life issues or are just not grown up enough (yet) to deal with what I have to offer. Long story short I have the WORST timing ever.

Yeah, I would be inclined to take a chance if I could find someone who was more than a cardboard cutout pretending to be a better cardboard cutout pretending to be a real person.

That much cardboard is a fire hazard.