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What is important to one may not be important to another... What we think is mundane may not be to our SO.. IF it is important to them then we should respect them enough to give it consideration as we would want them to do for us... This is getting into the area of CHANGING someone. It never works. They try hard for a while, but sooner or later they fall back on their old ways. They become themselves. If someone does (or doesn't do) spomething that gets on your nerves you should take a look at it and decide if you can live with it or not. If you can live with it, shut up about it. If not, leave the relationship. Everyone will be happier without the nagging. Every happy couple I know lives this way. My mom and dad, who have been married for more than 60 years are a great example. CHANGING is your negative name for being CONSIDERATE to a partner... Just as a SO asking you to pick up your socks or milk is nagging.. It's not nagging unless she's constantly harping on it but if someone "asks" someone to do something they are doing JUST THAT asking... I think it's fantastic if a couple NEVER disagrees but somehow I don't think that's possible.. People that think that they can act however they want and do whatever they want with no consideration for another are going to end up very lonely people.. |
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that's what happens when you eat too many skittles. definitely a rainbow i don't want to tastes. 
. . . you want to taste other rainbows? Navy that's unfortuante  I understand what you're saying..
layered rainbow jello molds are good. skittles says in their advertising "taste the rainbow." and i don't discriminate based on color, so women from all nationalities could be worth trying. . . . |
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What is important to one may not be important to another... What we think is mundane may not be to our SO.. IF it is important to them then we should respect them enough to give it consideration as we would want them to do for us... This is getting into the area of CHANGING someone. It never works. They try hard for a while, but sooner or later they fall back on their old ways. They become themselves. If someone does (or doesn't do) spomething that gets on your nerves you should take a look at it and decide if you can live with it or not. If you can live with it, shut up about it. If not, leave the relationship. Everyone will be happier without the nagging. Every happy couple I know lives this way. My mom and dad, who have been married for more than 60 years are a great example. CHANGING is your negative name for being CONSIDERATE to a partner... Just as a SO asking you to pick up your socks or milk is nagging.. It's not nagging unless she's constantly harping on it but if someone "asks" someone to do something they are doing JUST THAT asking... I think it's fantastic if a couple NEVER disagrees but somehow I don't think that's possible.. People that think that they can act however they want and do whatever they want with no consideration for another are going to end up very lonely people.. To never argue is not going to happen. But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had. I'm not suggesting neither one ever does anything for the other. But, if one person has been hanging her panties on the shower rod to dry, so what? I may not like it, but it really doesn't matter. It's not worth fighting about. I'm ADD. I'm never going to remember a lot of things. It's like asking someone with MS to run a foot race. It's just not going to happen. So, a woman I'm involved with has to decide if she can deal with my forgetfulness or not. Are there enough good things I bring to the table to make up for it? It's up to her. |
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What is important to one may not be important to another... What we think is mundane may not be to our SO.. IF it is important to them then we should respect them enough to give it consideration as we would want them to do for us... This is getting into the area of CHANGING someone. It never works. They try hard for a while, but sooner or later they fall back on their old ways. They become themselves. If someone does (or doesn't do) spomething that gets on your nerves you should take a look at it and decide if you can live with it or not. If you can live with it, shut up about it. If not, leave the relationship. Everyone will be happier without the nagging. Every happy couple I know lives this way. My mom and dad, who have been married for more than 60 years are a great example. CHANGING is your negative name for being CONSIDERATE to a partner... Just as a SO asking you to pick up your socks or milk is nagging.. It's not nagging unless she's constantly harping on it but if someone "asks" someone to do something they are doing JUST THAT asking... I think it's fantastic if a couple NEVER disagrees but somehow I don't think that's possible.. People that think that they can act however they want and do whatever they want with no consideration for another are going to end up very lonely people.. To never argue is not going to happen. But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had. I'm not suggesting neither one ever does anything for the other. But, if one person has been hanging her panties on the shower rod to dry, so what? I may not like it, but it really doesn't matter. It's not worth fighting about. I'm ADD. I'm never going to remember a lot of things. It's like asking someone with MS to run a foot race. It's just not going to happen. So, a woman I'm involved with has to decide if she can deal with my forgetfulness or not. Are there enough good things I bring to the table to make up for it? It's up to her. That all makes sense... I don't disgree with those points... |
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. |
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. |
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. That's called caring about the other person.
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BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!
and because it doesn't 'friggen' matter to you, it shouldn't friggen matter to anyone else either? 
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Oh yeah, that's a really "good deal".
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!! 
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine... 
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine...
ah, but you are assuming clean panties matter. he never said anything about washing them...just saying |
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine...
ah, but you are assuming clean panties matter. he never said anything about washing them...just saying Eeeeeewwwww!!!! |
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Edited by
kc0003
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine...
ah, but you are assuming clean panties matter. he never said anything about washing them...just saying Eeeeeewwwww!!!! I know, but from what I'm learning in this thread it may not be worth arguing over. 
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine...
ah, but you are assuming clean panties matter. he never said anything about washing them...just saying Eeeeeewwwww!!!! I know, but from what I'm learning in this thread it may not be worth arguing over.
Good point! You're a quick learner...
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine...
ah, but you are assuming clean panties matter. he never said anything about washing them...just saying Eeeeeewwwww!!!! I know, but from what I'm learning in this thread it may not be worth arguing over.
Good point! You're a quick learner...
you mean, for a dork. |
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But, to never argue about the things that don't really matter, the thinhgs that are easily solved would end 90% of the disagreements in the relationships I've had.
Here's an odd thought. Ever consider that, just because YOU don't think something matters, that doesn't necessarily mean that's the end of it? You don't think picking up your socks matters. She happens to think it does. How hard is it to pick up socks?? I understand that ADD thing. I don't remember much that isn't important to me, either. However, when I can see that something that really doesn't matter to me, actually does matter to the woman I am with, then I always make a decent effort to TRY to remember. That actually DOES matter to her most times. Sense picking up socks is so easy why argue about it? I don't like panties on the shower rod. Why can't she find another place for them? BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!! Socks and panties a stupid things to fight about. If that's the worst things going on in our relationship I'd say we have it pretty damn good. Is one person cheating? Are there any drug or drinking issues? Is someone spending to much money on needless things? Is there abuse? These are things to argue about. Some people just don't know when they have a good deal. Errmmm, panties on the shower rod?! Geez. That's what the fricking laundry basket is for!!
And the washing machine...
ah, but you are assuming clean panties matter. he never said anything about washing them...just saying Eeeeeewwwww!!!! I know, but from what I'm learning in this thread it may not be worth arguing over.
Good point! You're a quick learner...
you mean, for a dork. Yes.... 
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Edited by
MeShell77345
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I'll beat the dead horse here... cuz I'm still a bit confused.
so if it doesn't freaking matter and it's such a minor thing ... why don't you just pick up the socks? then everyone is happy.
(I wouldn't really call this CHANGING for someone) |
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It really is no big thing to me!!! Really
so ya pick up his socks!! So what men are men. They do things like that why complain over somthing so trivial? ESP if ya love him?? 
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BECAUSE IT DOESN'T FRIGGIN MATTER!!
and because it doesn't 'friggen' matter to you, it shouldn't friggen matter to anyone else either?
There are too many things that really do matter. Why argue about the BS that really doesn't matter? When you get involved with someone you have to take the good with the bad. If leaving socks on the floor is as bad as it gets I'd say you found yourself a good man. It seems a good number of women want to throw the baby out with the bath water. As I've said before, if he or she does or doesn't do something that bothers you take a minute and decide if you can live with it or not. If you can never mention it again. If you can't get out of the relationship. Do you really want to spend your energy fighting about socks or some other little thing? It just doesn't make sense to me. |
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