I need some help please....your thoughts on this situation....

I've met a man. An attractive, smart, witty, funny and educated man. I know all of this because we have been talking on the phone for 2 weeks now. He's not that computer literate and couldn't get the "chat" thing down, so phone numbers were exchanged. Here is the probleml...everytime I call him, the phone rings until voice mail, then he will call me back 15 minutes or so later....also, I can't get him during the day, and I can only talk to him in the evening, but never after 10. Now, I know what your'e thinking, he's married, or in a committed relationship, and probably sneaking away to talk to me. Actually, we haven't met in person yet, we have not exchanged addresses. I suggested we try to get together for lunch, he was evasive, he lives 60 miles away from me, and he says "if it's meant to be, we will find a way to overcome the distance"....

Well, I guess I answered my own queries. It does feel good to get it out though. Very disappointing. Who can you trust???

It's funny at times when we talk things out and actually pay attention to what were sayin

Married or girlfriend ,,,and 60 miles is a breeze to do if you really wanted to do that..
Thats my thoughts as to HIM,,,because I have had other women tell ME this,,then tell me what they learned later about him,,wink,

He's an ex-CIA agent, me and him used to work together a few years back in Mexico City...his name is Poncho, we always called him raincoat.

I hope it is all OK with this situation.

My mama, always said: "Where there's smoke, there's fire"!

Just protect yourself, and keep at least one eye open!

You have every right to be cautious and concerned!

JMO-If I Still Have One!

hahaha! well he's irish and has a spanish accent! that should have been my first clue lol!

Put your trust in God....He will NEVER steer you wrong.

Poncho always did try to pull of the Irish gig.

you are very funny lol. I wonder if he ever ate any bugs! lol!

"The fat man walks alone...the Eagle has landed...."

Married, girlfriend, a jerk, all of the above..........

Next question

hrmmm..ok..a few thoughts.
first..you already have a pretty good idea of whats going on.
the no answer-call back,along with the cant drive 60 miles thing is bs.
anyone whos serious would have been there already.

second,the chat thingy..IM computer illiterate,and even i can figure out the chat im.
( altho i was a bit surprised when someone im-ed me the other day..i wasnt aware this site had instant im. )

third,cant call after ten...yep..more bs...again,if he was serious,he would talk till the crack of dawn,if possible.
so i agree that hes hiding a marriage or girlfriend.

this sucks,not only for you,but lets think of the girlfriend/wife whos also being bamboozled.

so that just leaves the question of who you can trust..and thats a tough one to answer..

i cannot begin to count how many women have expressed interest in me,only to bail out as soon as they find out im NOT going to support them,their kids,fix their cars,buy them a new one,save them from their ex,etc etc.

so...i really cant answer the trust issue.

i Wish you the Best of Luck in the future.

ps,i noted that you didnt exchange addresses..Thats a Smart move there

Thank you for your thoughts. In all my life, I have never asked someone to support me, buy me a car, take care of my kids, and I try to do the right thing as much as possible, I don't lie, or cheat, love a good steak & beer, watch football, and I find these guys who tell me that i'm great, yet are cheating on their wives. I'm just pissed that I let myself open up a little to someone like that when I knew all along that he was a jerk. sorry, venting alittle....lol.

Married!!!

Hummmmmmm all I can say is when they tell you to only call between this time and this time and they screen their calls watch out nothing good will come out of it.......

To me it is so refreshing when one tells me call me anytime.......then you know they don't have anything to hide.

And hour away is nothing hell I had one drive that far just for lunch.


Sorry to say but shut the door on that one before you do get to attached to him.

Better to laugh about it than worry about it, glad I could help you laugh.

I'd say married, living in his mom's basement or some such thing.
But if it really bothers you confront him with it and see not just what he says but how he says it.
At least it may put your mind at rest as to whether he's a scammer or not. And good luck to you.

ive had to change my phone number before,so i Know what you mean by being upset at yourself.
been there,done that,didnt get the t-shirt.

But,dont be too hard on yourself.
its perfectly natural..we all Hope for the Best,or,should i say,most of us do.

keep a Positive attitude,Stay Safe and eventually it will happen for you

If you smell something fishy then something fishy is around! I see the red flags of warning on this one. Sounds to me like you are a fish on the line and homie is playing you for all it is worth.

Personally I think you are being dogged on and if you follow through you are going to suffer dearly. I would ditch that one and move on. When you said he was attractive and then said everything else that is the first sure fire warning you are making a huge mistake. It is your attraction he is playing on and not his attraction to you.

Just a friendly warning for you, he is evading a lot of information you need to know and there is a reason why and I am sure it is NOT
because he has a security clearance. He is hiding something from you important like maybe the wedding ring he wears. You can't see that online or over the phone. Also he can't get his "Chat" up? PUHLEEZE! Even a Chimpanzee (I bet you thought I was going to say monkey) could set it up. It is not that hard.

I think you found one of those bad dogs on the internet.

I've said it before and I will say it again. There are some really good people on this site. Thank you for all of your thoughts. It's made me laugh a little, sad a little, and appreciate myself alittle more for the values that I know I have and that I am sure will find in my mate. Sincerely, Mary