Are you one of those people who likes to give advice to others whether they ask for it or not? Does it bother you if someone doesn't take it?

For those on the receiving end, how do you deal with advice you didn't ask for?

I tend to give advice if I sense someone is having a problem or hard time with something.
Whether they take it or not doesn't bother me.

That's a good reason to give advice.

It's more a suggestion then anything else. If someone I know that is not on the net and they ask for advice. I will tell them what I have done or have experience. Whether they take action on it or not is up to them. I might feel for them depending on the situation, but there is a fine line in helping somone and steping over the line.



Now the net is a little different. When you post for advice. Your asking for anyone that might have a suggestion what to do. So ill share what I know and move on.


Although, my ex asked for my help a couple times. Long story short. He boyfriend is a woman beater and beats on here. Now for her to keep coming to me and not taking any suggestions or at least try to do anything to help herself. Yes, that makes me angry.

Giving advice willy nilly to all and sundry feeds my sense of self importance, elevates my perspective of self into a position of superiority...and it feels so very controlling.


No one can know more than me....it's simply inconceivable.

emotions are temporary so the advice is more of a distraction from the problem

My advice to you dear Shads....is don't waste your time trying to decipher it....I was being a smart arse.

I try to help people if they seem to want it, and if they appear receptive. Sometimes it bothers me when they go ahead and do the opposite of what I said, but in the end, it's their life and their choices.

Hummm the way I see it is if they did not want my thoughts or advice which ever you want to call it then they would not have told me the situation.

Now if they in fact take heed to it is up to them. If they don't it want hurt my feelings one bit. I speak from what I see and have lived as well. What works for one does not always work for all.

One should take little bits and pieces of what they hear from several and put together from all of them to find what works for them....

I guess I'm like TXgal. I do like to help people if I can, so I do give advice freely. I DON'T push anything on people, but if they complain out loud about something, I assume that they ARE asking for suggestions. Otherwise, I would have to assume they were being rude, selfish jerks, intellectually defecating into my life with their self absorbed fussing. If they then totally ignore EVERYONE'S suggestions and continue fussing, then I know they ARE just prone to defecating publicly, and not worth further effort from me.
As for the ones I try to help, who do listen but choose a different course than I suggest, I feel only respect for them. I'm probably ALMOST as smart as Jess642 and krupa, but OCCASIONALLY I've actually been less than perfect, or the other person has failed to report full facts needed to give the BEST course, or they just want to do things their own way. So I don't have an ego hang up about my advice.

If I know it's one who cares about me I try real hard to be open to it, never been very good at taking advise from others..kinda how I roll....but I'm learning.

Lori, take my advice...you're doing fine,

I think I have given so much on HERE that some folks have me pegged as A think he knows it all>>>>lol
But to be real,,I openly give advice and take it just as plain and easy as ITS given from me..
If its real its always appreciated if its angered then its tossed.
Some people feel their advice MUST BE FOLLOWED,,and that don't FIT ME very good,,lol,,,but in any HELP FASHION,,,COOL and always welcomed....

Thanks Bryan

I really dislike unsolicited advice. IF I ask for advice, I do so with an open mind towards the advice given.

I don't mind giving advice, whether the receiver takes it or not.

I fix things. Its what I do and I'm good at it

and I'm ALWAYS right

so if a person has a problem then I tell em how to fix it. if they didnt want advice then they shouldna brought it up

I don't think that bringing something up necessarily means someone wants advise. Perhaps they just wanted to talk about it. That being said, I'm not going to get mad at someone who offers advice. Of course it will depend on the advice as to if I'll actually take it.

Someone offered me advice based on something I said in my profile other other day. It was a complete stranger. I said thank you. He wrote back asking if I was going to take his advice and I said probably not right now. He didn't seem to take it very well.