It has now happened to me 3 times in the past year. I start talking to a new and interesting lady and she ends up being married. That's roughly about 50% of the women I've been interested in on this site in the same time.

Some I guess are out there to cheat, and others could be bored housewives just online screwing around, either way it's pretty disheartening to think that a married person would pick me to mess with.

It's sad that I have to put up all kinds of 'married or no photo, please don't send an email to me' notes on my profile. I mean it should be a given right? I really feel for you women. I am always hearing about married guys contacting you. There must be 3 times as many married losers contacting you than me. At least.

i had a guy on here that email me and said that 90% of the woman on mingle were cheaters but yet he claim every woman loved him

I block married people. Even though I'm only here for friends, I have no desire to talk to a married man. Sorry they misled you, some people just have no integrity.

Well that's the problem, cheaters love everybody

i guess that happens sometimes. or maybe often nowadays? and i thought i should have reasons to be cautious since this place can be thriving of married men too pretending to be single hehe. anyway, lots of luck your way. im sure you'll stumble on a solid, honest rock along the way :)

Cheaters should just go to a website like Ashley Madison...........

Not actually just women dear.
Coz I become a single mom.
I never knew that the man i was with
is married. It ended up sooner.
Can't see myself ruining a family.
and now...
Im happy still bcoz of my kid.

i guess married people have the right to seek other relationships too if they so desire, but i think they should at least be open and upfront about it. i'm sure they'll find someone else who's in some sort of relationship with similar issues.

i always seem to get the ones with the crazy ex bf's or the ones that (not to my knowledge)had just started dating,so their new bf calls or emails me and tries to start crap

It appears to be working both ways. I'm getting tired of the married guys, too.

In my late 20's all i did was attract married men. Unknown to me, until the cat would get out of the bag. I jsut quit dating for a few years then would seriously interview guys

The problem with that is some of these people would rather have an unknowing 'idiot' at home paying their bills. They want the reward without the risk of the unknown, so they stay in relationships and seek out someone, until either 1) they get caught, 2) they find someone else they can get support from, or 3) they end up doing something too stupid to take back... The reality is people are scum when they want to be, be they male or female.

That is another problem, the 'hero type'... I just dealt with my ex doing that to me... I told the guy I give him 6-8 weeks before he figures her out... She knows the negatives of sending him after me, but I guess he is trying to impress her... Hope they figure it out before he goes through a dramatic weight loss program...lol.

I don't think it really matters if they are on dating site or you bump into them at the store, you have no way of knowing if they are married, living with someone or single. It's a chance you have to take that the other person is being up front and honest.

That is sad, but is good that you found out before you actually fell IN love with them. I guess so many people out there find nothing wrong with being in a committed relationship and exploring outside of that relationship. I believe if you are in ONE relationship, end that one before you get into another situation because you are going to cause one h*ll of a mess.
I guess a lot of people on this site believe if you are married and not with that person, its alright to date. I myself would never date someone even if they said they have filed for a divorce...I say show me the papers first and then talk to me! I don't think people ever consider that things could happen and their past situation could get mended! CLEAN UP YOUR PAST THEN START DATING...HOW HARD IS THAT???
Oh there are people out there that you can have a relationship with for many years and you still don't know everything about them. Some people are just not totally honest about everything in their lives.
Good Luck and just realize that not all people are like this!!

Look at the bright side... you have met 3 interesting ladies in the past year.... with odds like that, it will happen for you !!

keep up your standards, they seem to be working for you!...

$.02

i just went thru the exact same thing.
she didnt even reveal she was married,until i asked her who the guy was in pics with kids.

the really weird part.

shes persistent..almost sure of her self...pursues me the minute i sign in.
says the usual--> im not happy but i have kids and cant do anything about it.

i immediately backed up after finding out,yet shes still asking me for my phone number and wants to be more than friends....sigh.

Well that's the problem, cheaters love everybody,and they think everyone loves them. It has nothing to do with love its just all about sex.:

Hmmmmmmm.
A dose of their own medicine?
Like, when you find out they are married, you "confess" also..
"Oh thank goodness you are married too!
I have 8 kids and my other wives hate babysitting. I am really
into you because your persistence shows tenacity. I need someone
who is not scared off by an extensive police record. And I hope
you can help with child support.
I want to meet you NOW!!!"