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I think you are doing the right thing, wolfchic. If he won't listen, let him learn the hard way.  Thank you.Hope so.
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Well,I stood my ground.Took my son to my brothers house.They seem to get along prety good.As long as he keeps his cool they will be fine.
There is a calm in my house again. 
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Sounds like good news. Hopefully your brother can help your son get on the right track.
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Sounds like good news. Hopefully your brother can help your son get on the right track. If any body can? It will be him. 
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That's awesome, I'll keep your son and your family in my prayers.
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Thank you!
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Edited by
Kings_Knight
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Thu 03/11/10 09:22 AM
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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few. 
I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time. 
Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long. 
He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks!
Good. I'm happy to hear he's away from you and the rest of your family now. Things may improve with time. |
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After a 7 year prison term wouldn't it be natural for him to have anger issues... maybe he needs to smoke medicinal marijuana. Better pot than a bunch of pills full of garbage that could mess him up worse. You can love him through this, just maybe sounds like it would be done best from a distance.
Good Luck
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Hummmm seems like the easiest thing to do if he is on parole just call his parole officer and tell him he is breaking parole they want tell him who told them and should pick his azz back up and put back in prison.
That way he goes back and out of your house all at once.. Sorry but if I was scared of my son as well as my daughter was I would take the safest route with him. One that has anger built up in them as much as it sounds your son does. I would be careful but get him out as well one way or the other.......
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After a 7 year prison term wouldn't it be natural for him to have anger issues... maybe he needs to smoke medicinal marijuana. Better pot than a bunch of pills full of garbage that could mess him up worse. You can love him through this, just maybe sounds like it would be done best from a distance. Good Luck
My son has had anger issues early on in his life.Prison has nothing to do with it.He has always been angry because his dad was not around. And yes,He is so happy with pot.But also turns in to a big jerk if he don't have any once he gets started.And if he is going to smoke pot,Then he needs to get a job and pay for it!! I also have my daughter to thinjk about.She hates all fourms of drugs.And has every right to come home and feel safe and not to have to deal with her brother doing or being treated bad because he has none.Mind you she is 5'3.And he is 6'4. He runs over the top of her constantly.She can't defend herself without he turning angry.Even though she trys hard.She does stand up for herself,But what good does it do?? None. We let him come home with a Clean slate. He has tryed, but has not change .My only option was to have him leave. I let him know that I was not abandon him,just that he can't live here. 
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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few.
I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time.
Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long.
He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks!
Good. I'm happy to hear he's away from you and the rest of your family now. Things may improve with time. Thank you.Things are going better.He understands.And we talk daily. |
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Hummmm seems like the easiest thing to do if he is on parole just call his parole officer and tell him he is breaking parole they want tell him who told them and should pick his azz back up and put back in prison. That way he goes back and out of your house all at once.. Sorry but if I was scared of my son as well as my daughter was I would take the safest route with him. One that has anger built up in them as much as it sounds your son does. I would be careful but get him out as well one way or the other.......
Thanks.But he is paper free.Has done his time.We are not afraid of him hurting us.Just stealing from us. Things are ok.We talk every day.and love each other.Hopefully he will get his shi## togeather. 
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Hello I'm so sorry to hear all the bad news that Family cannot "get along" As I have always told others "they are there own Person" And he is going to live life the way He wants! There is just no way of changing them when they get to a point and Lock out and Block out the world around them! you have taken him as far as he has wanted you to take Him, it may be tough! The only way to feel whole again is to be tough on him "tough Love" I would think that you would be helping him out by asking him to leave!! The boy Needs desperately to find him self.. And yes digging up old "friends" is not the way to go! You need to feel safe and so does his sister! Take care and hope for the best!
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Hello I'm so sorry to hear all the bad news that Family cannot "get along" As I have always told others "they are there own Person" And he is going to live life the way He wants! There is just no way of changing them when they get to a point and Lock out and Block out the world around them! you have taken him as far as he has wanted you to take Him, it may be tough! The only way to feel whole again is to be tough on him "tough Love" I would think that you would be helping him out by asking him to leave!! The boy Needs desperately to find him self.. And yes digging up old "friends" is not the way to go! You need to feel safe and so does his sister! Take care and hope for the best! Hello,Thank you for your input.I agree.I have raised him.Now it is time for him to get on his own feet.Things or going prety good.
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its nice to hear that things are working out for you now.
too often,people make topics and then never reveal the ending. heres wishing you a Great weekend
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its nice to hear that things are working out for you now. too often,people make topics and then never reveal the ending. heres wishing you a Great weekend
You too sweety!
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get him into Anger Management school PDQ.....regardless of how things are working out. maybe you all should go.
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get him into Anger Management school PDQ.....regardless of how things are working out. maybe you all should go.
He has been through so many anger manegment programs.As for us all going? That will not happen again!!Seems to make things worse.We will be getting along so well,than we get to a meeting.That is when he realy turns on me.Never have understood that. It is so bad that the people think he will hurt me. I tell them that he won't.I don't know what gets into him,But it is not good. Then he is fine once we leave.Go figure.
But thanfs for your input!
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if AM is not working, go again. he is not using what he learned. u go without the family. you as mother are learning to take care of yourself first. then comes family, and children.
this is domestic violence BTW. u have a YMCA in your area? go by yourself. don't tell anyone. confidentiality is important in a case like this. they, the DV people, can arm you with your choices of what to do. if there is violence, you have to have an escape plan. then, there is another way to avoid conflict with him, and that is walk away everytime he starts. tell him you have your boundaries, and this is what you will do from now on. and mean it. 
then, do not allow him to dig up stinky dirt. children do this to their parents anytime there are issues not resolved to their liking. no digging up of stinky dirt. u won't allow it, and mean that 2.
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if AM is not working, go again. he is not using what he learned. u go without the family. you as mother are learning to take care of yourself first. then comes family, and children. this is domestic violence BTW. u have a YMCA in your area? go by yourself. don't tell anyone. confidentiality is important in a case like this. they, the DV people, can arm you with your choices of what to do. if there is violence, you have to have an escape plan. then, there is another way to avoid conflict with him, and that is walk away everytime he starts. tell him you have your boundaries, and this is what you will do from now on. and mean it.
then, do not allow him to dig up stinky dirt. children do this to their parents anytime there are issues not resolved to their liking. no digging up of stinky dirt. u won't allow it, and mean that 2.
I have tryed all I know.Now it's (End Off The Crap....... ) His butt is on it's own. To fix himself!!
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