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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few.  I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time.  Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long.  He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks!  If he is not doing what he is suppose to be you turn him in to the probation or parole and let them deal with his grown butt. And throwing him out will definitely need to be done along with the reporting to the parole. He is paper free!All rights restored.He has been back a year March 19th.He won't find a job,Won't help around the house unless he needs something.Does get foodstamps,200.00 But he eats more that that.And thinks I owe him the rest.He has no value of money.And wastes like nobody I have ever sean! This is so bad on so many levels.Thank for your input.  
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I feel your pain. I am a single Mom struggling while raising two teenagers, a boy and a girl. Tough love-easier said than done but definitely the best advice.
My heart goes out to you!! 
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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few. I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time. Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long. He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks! If he is not doing what he is suppose to be you turn him in to the probation or parole and let them deal with his grown butt. And throwing him out will definitely need to be done along with the reporting to the parole. He is paper free!All rights restored.He has been back a year March 19th.He won't find a job,Won't help around the house unless he needs something.Does get foodstamps,200.00 But he eats more that that.And thinks I owe him the rest.He has no value of money.And wastes like nobody I have ever sean! This is so bad on so many levels.Thank for your input. Aw too bad on the paperless business. Yup throw him out and get the police involved if you have to. The only way he will swim on his own is if you make him. You cannot protect him from the life he is going to choose. I have a son the same, angry and used to be very violent. He knows he cannot stay with me like that so he stays elsewhere. He is not doing so great but he has slowly learned to be less violent and he has learned the anger doesn't help him. I used to try to let him back in but he was to volatile for me. I would have ended up in jail myself for murder if we would have stayed together. |
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I feel your pain. I am a single Mom struggling while raising two teenagers, a boy and a girl. Tough love-easier said than done but definitely the best advice. My heart goes out to you!! 
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One day at a time, and keep on smiling. You WILL get through.
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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few. I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time. Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long. He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks! If he is not doing what he is suppose to be you turn him in to the probation or parole and let them deal with his grown butt. And throwing him out will definitely need to be done along with the reporting to the parole. He is paper free!All rights restored.He has been back a year March 19th.He won't find a job,Won't help around the house unless he needs something.Does get foodstamps,200.00 But he eats more that that.And thinks I owe him the rest.He has no value of money.And wastes like nobody I have ever sean! This is so bad on so many levels.Thank for your input. Aw too bad on the paperless business. Yup throw him out and get the police involved if you have to. The only way he will swim on his own is if you make him. You cannot protect him from the life he is going to choose. I have a son the same, angry and used to be very violent. He knows he cannot stay with me like that so he stays elsewhere. He is not doing so great but he has slowly learned to be less violent and he has learned the anger doesn't help him. I used to try to let him back in but he was to volatile for me. I would have ended up in jail myself for murder if we would have stayed together. Yeah,I gave him till the 7th of March.We know that day will be tough.He is one to rip me off,destroy things and all that crap. Will not be fun. But he won't be able to move back in at all. He says he is going out of state and won't ever come back.I told him if he left state that don't call me to bail him out if he gets in trouble.I am not disowning him,he just can live in my house any more. |
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One day at a time, and keep on smiling. You WILL get through. Yeah, I am ready for this.Thanks sweety!
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One day at a time, and keep on smiling. You WILL get through. Yeah, I am ready for this.Thanks sweety! Anytime, and it was my pleasure. God knows I am living it right now. Write me anytime. 
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One day at a time, and keep on smiling. You WILL get through. Yeah, I am ready for this.Thanks sweety! Anytime, and it was my pleasure. God knows I am living it right now. Write me anytime. Thanks so much.My best to you also! 
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It's tough, because we want to help our kids, but he is no longer a kid, and by "helping" him, at this point, you are only enabling him.
You have been a good mother, and now no matter what you say or do, he is a "man" and is making his own decisions. He has to take responsibility for himself. If the prison term didn't wake him up, I'm afraid nothing may. Best to let him go and move out of state. He is either going to right the ship on his own or continue down a bad path, but letting him live with you is not going to change that, either way. Good Luck to you and your family |
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It's tough, because we want to help our kids, but he is no longer a kid, and by "helping" him, at this point, you are only enabling him. You have been a good mother, and now no matter what you say or do, he is a "man" and is making his own decisions. He has to take responsibility for himself. If the prison term didn't wake him up, I'm afraid nothing may. Best to let him go and move out of state. He is either going to right the ship on his own or continue down a bad path, but letting him live with you is not going to change that, either way. Good Luck to you and your family Thank you.It's been a year and don't see any change for the better.He knows that he has to go now.The closer to the day will only tell how much trouble I will have inforcing it.But I will call the cops if I have to.
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My girlfriends nephew was exactly the same way. He ended up goin to her house, 1/2 way cross the country then robbed her! She threw him out. 8 years later he reappeared, living with a woman and all grown up and responsible, living in Florida. They all recently got together, it was a real tear jerker. Have faith, kick the bird out of the nest and tell him he's gotta fly or be eaten by the cats. Let your relatives know in case he shows up there. It can work out, have faith. Be strong, for you, your daughter and most of all -him.
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My girlfriends nephew was exactly the same way. He ended up goin to her house, 1/2 way cross the country then robbed her! She threw him out. 8 years later he reappeared, living with a woman and all grown up and responsible, living in Florida. They all recently got together, it was a real tear jerker. Have faith, kick the bird out of the nest and tell him he's gotta fly or be eaten by the cats. Let your relatives know in case he shows up there. It can work out, have faith. Be strong, for you, your daughter and most of all -him.   Thank you.Got to do it!He seems to be doing ok about it right now.But on the 7th it may get prety nasty. I am going to hold my ground! I truely believe this is the right thing to do for us all!
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This is one of those times when you have to let the child bump their head....
Put him out, and he will learn to stand on his own two feet. Tough love is definitely the way to go on this issue! |
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This is one of those times when you have to let the child bump their head.... Put him out, and he will learn to stand on his own two feet. Tough love is definitely the way to go on this issue!
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He is paper free!All rights restored.He has been back a year March 19th.He won't find a job,Won't help around the house unless he needs something.Does get foodstamps,200.00 But he eats more that that.And thinks I owe him the rest.He has no value of money.And wastes like nobody I have ever sean! This is so bad on so many levels.Thank for your input. Key sentence--> And thinks I owe him the rest exactly..and till he learns that life doesnt revolve around him alone,then he wont get any better. Save your Daughter,and let him sink or swim. G/L and Best Wishes. ps..invite a bunch of your friends over on the 7th...for *cough* company.. just in case... |
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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few. I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time. Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long. He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks! You have to protect your daughter and keep your house safe. You and your daughter don't need that. I can't understand how hard it must be to have to kick your own son out of your house, but it sounds like it's for the best. Who knows hopefully he will realize that he needs to make some changes in his life. |
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He is paper free!All rights restored.He has been back a year March 19th.He won't find a job,Won't help around the house unless he needs something.Does get foodstamps,200.00 But he eats more that that.And thinks I owe him the rest.He has no value of money.And wastes like nobody I have ever sean! This is so bad on so many levels.Thank for your input. Key sentence--> And thinks I owe him the rest exactly..and till he learns that life doesnt revolve around him alone,then he wont get any better. Save your Daughter,and let him sink or swim. G/L and Best Wishes. ps..invite a bunch of your friends over on the 7th...for *cough* company.. just in case... Thanks.He is trying to sucker meso bad! But I cansee right through min.He is so transparent!! |
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I will try to keep this simple as I can.For all the typos,give me a break.I will probibly have a few. I have two kids,not realy kids anymore. My son is 26.He has a very big anger problem.And thinks he knows everything.Has had this problem since he was two.Needless to say,he has been a big handfull. My daughter is 17.And picked on most of the time bye him.She loves him but can't stand him at the same time. Well,He just got done with a 7 yr term in prison. Was aloud to come home only if he kept his attude in check.And to stay clean. Well, that didn' last very long. He got hooked up with the same crowd.Witch happens to his dads family.Bad news from the word go. He is one that is always trying to run a scam,Is only nice when he is trying to sucker me into something.And when he doen't get his way,All he## breaks lose.He is so visious and hatefull.You can't talk to him because he know it all.And get rude and maen if you don't agree. Anyway,I have had more than enough of his crap & am throughing him out. He hs no money or anything but food.Our life is messed up when he is around.My daughter doesn't feel safe at home when he is there & i'm at work.He is a big boy,And angry. I think I am doing the rihgt thing.But sure would like some input on this. Thanks! You have to protect your daughter and keep your house safe. You and your daughter don't need that. I can't understand how hard it must be to have to kick your own son out of your house, but it sounds like it's for the best. Who knows hopefully he will realize that he needs to make some changes in his life. Thanks for your input! I think what is the hardest is he is a Scopio. When they are good,there the best.But when there bad,they are the worst.He fits that to a tee. 
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I think you are doing the right thing, wolfchic. If he won't listen, let him learn the hard way.
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