Is there such a thing or is it just for women to make a man feel paranoid about everything he's going to say. I recently had one of these without even knowing it and I didn't say much because I felt so nervous. The one that I'm interested mostly kept quiet as well. I'm thinking I need some alone time with her but don't think that I can calm my nerves enough to do it... any ideas??

Try the truth.

"You make me nervous."
"I do?"
" Yes. I am afraid of saying the wrong thing."
"Put your tongue in my mouth. I will keep it safe."

See? Easy..
Otherwise I would try a shot of tequila.
Xanax chaser.

The only reason I can think of to cling to a "group date" is if you are 16 years old or younger. You can't be under 18 since you are on this site -- so why a group date?

Pull up your big boy pants and go on a real, grown up date. Learn to speak your mind or you will be a spineless, "nice guy" doormat.

I wish you the courage to STFU and get it done!

What Melody said. I can't imagine trying to get to know someone with a bunch of other people around....

Well.. I met a lot of my boyfriend's friends this past weekend on a group date and I didn't want to say anything wrong because I want them to like me. It's hard being confident around new people.

lol, that's brutal. But I guess I should grow up a little.

big lulz @ soufiehere, does that ever really work?

Don't mistake my suggestion as brutal; I was honest but kind. There is a big difference.

People tend to get butt-hurt when they hear something truthful that isn't always a glowing review.

In life we have to "get over it" and accept constructive criticism as not being personal.

Life isn’t like kindergarten where we received gold stars for using the potty!! We have to raise the bar and exceed expectations to earn a gold star now -- and even then we don't always get them!

You don't want to be "that guy" who is coddled all of your life.

Best of luck!

No.
You have to start with a truthful man.

This is why when a chick suggest this for a first meeting, or the first date.....you run like hell. Meeting for the first time is gonna be awkward enough. Why make it worse? Be adults, meet in a public place with plenty of people and plenty of escape routes, and then go from their. It aint rocket science.

yes...you need to speak up and tell her how you feel about it. But it could be that she was nervous about the date, as well. Maybe she thought it would be safer for her or less awkward

If I meet someone...I go to a place where everyone knows me, so I guess that could be like a group date

It's time for our outing, boys and girls, hold hands, no pushing, stay in line. Yayyyyy group dating!!!!!

Sounds kinky...........

Make an excuse to get you and her the hell away from the others.

Or hit on the other women in the group, and she will make the suggestion of getting away.

Sometimes Motown....you make perfect sense.

If you wonder off, like the last fieldtrip, Calleigh, you will have to sit on the bus with the other chaperone and the bus driver! Stay with the group!

I'll be a good girl this time, I promise. I'm even wearing my big girl panties today, yayyyyyy!!!!

Probably why I never lasted around any of my ex girlfriends friend's...I didn't care if they liked me or not. I was more concerned with the girlfriend, I could honestly care less about some people I don't particularly want to be around in the first place.

Man up bud, try an honest dose of truth. Doesn't hurt to try, most she will do is breakup with you...and then you will have your answer.

Group dates can be fun and theres a few reasons to do them.

1. You're not really into the person you're going on a date with, or you're scared, so you bring along a friend and his/her date for support

2. You have a friend that belongs to reason #1

3. It would simply be more fun to bring a friend along too, keep the date casual and not serious, and have tons of fun as well as introduce your date to your friend at the same time which gets you "in" right away

4. The best way to get to know someone is to see them around their friends, or other people. See how they react, how they handle and compose themselves. I can listen to someone talk about themselves for only so long before it just starts going in one ear and out the other, but if I were to see for myself what they're really like I could figure all that out in a couple minutes, for good or bad. And thats what dating's all about isnt it? getting to know each other?