Ok in my time here on the forums, I see this come up.

How do you let go of something or someone? what advice would you give someone?

disclaimer: No this isn't something going on with me. Just a general question

Oh, Kim, I'm sorry you are going through this. We are all here for you!

(Don't you hate when people automatically assume the thread is about you and even worse when they don't read your whole post!?!?)

last time I got all sorts of people worried about me...so I put disclaimers in my threads now

But thank you for caring Ruth

yes and why I rarely ever post a thread that is a question...

OH,,,thats an easy one,,,,figure-it out right after a lady here hurt me...


You simply kill them, cut them up into tiny pieces and put them in a pickle jar, and place the jar in your basement.

THEN,,,everytime YOU remember them,you go downstairs and shake the hell out of their jar and curse them to high heavens,,,and then,
put them back down,,and go back up-stairs to get on the computer for awhile....SEE,,,,thats so EASY....
a,,,could you excuse me for a minute,,,I just got reminded of
jar 14,,,,,I'll be back in a few,,,,KEEP SMILING!!!!

Go get a drink call friends,take a long bath and shroom up,listen to your music,dishes all kinda things

someone once told me a while back to make a fist and squeeze tight...then take a deep breath and exhale while letting my hand relax.

I have dug my nails into my palms more times than I can count

I drink, workout, and clean. Those are the best three things I know of

The men in white coats are on their way.Stay there and help will come soon.Its gonna be okay really, it is.

Hear any sirens ?? Well,thats them, theyre right down the street.Be calm, theyre here to help.

I tried explaining halfway through a thread one time that it wasn't about me per se and I got yelled at for posting a "fictional thread"!

Well that's just dumb! I have posted what I thought were good questions and most posting think it's me, so I don't post questions... You get tired of saying "I was just thinking" or "my friend experienced this and here are my thoughts what are yours?"

Exactly! Sometimes you just have a thought or wonder what other people think about something.

tell them the glass is half full,
when a door closes a window opens,
better to have loved and lost,
plenty of fish in the sea,
now open for the "right one"


...or something equally as trite

Well this always works to help me let go...........Mentally picture them falling off a cliff and into a coffin, the lid slamming shut and a ton of cement pouring over the coffin.

Joy and Ruth....let go of your frustration

inhale....
exhale....
inhale....
exhale....

I looked up the proper way to disembowel someone. I felt better just knowing I could do it.

To be real here,,,one can never truly ever get over their hurt by that person.
THEY CAN,,,put their memories of THAT experience back FAR into their cautious thinking process,,,
Thats done as some here have said,,,work,,a hobby, DOING THINGS,,
at first,,,YOU have to stay BUSY,,,the MORE busy you are the less time you have to reflect,,,,but TIME,,,,,is the only sure way to get past a hurt or a love,,,some people through a month of time passing forwards...others,,,years before they can NOT CRY when speaking of that...thats my real best on that...

Ummm, some people cant get out a window Beach....

Heck...I couldn't even get outa bed this morning, but if someone were babbling spent cliches behind the door....I'd find a way to jump outa window