What would you think if someone you are interested in was a member of several dating sites? Should you look at the other sites to check out whats going on?

Ms T, if I am just interested in them (not dating),they could be on as many dating sites as they want. If we are dating exclusively I would have a problem with it.

Sure, why not? And then you can hire a P.I. to follow him around for a couple of months too, just to make sure.

no
id just wait and see if they dropped hangin on the sites after gettin involved with me

it could be hard to find out because people might have fake profiles or profiles without pictures anyway.

Trust is important. If you don't trust, why waste your time?

Did he tell u he was on several sites?

I'll drink to that

Personally if you would WANT to go this far so soon,you obviously have issues you should work on before you begin to question others.

Right the trust issue for me would be if they were intentionally trying to hide the fact from me. I wouldnt mind the sites, especially if thats how we met, I would expect it. I wouldnt even mind if they remained on them after we were together.

I would mind if they were in a commitment with me and SEEKING other relationships, but not if they were maintaining past relationships or were members of sites that they were not active on.

where's the trust in that?

When one begins to think another is doing wrong, he/she will rationalize every action to prove their suspicions.

Doesn't sound too trusting in my book.

not right away he waited and checked to see if i was on them

I think the correct answer is the following: there is nothing wrong with that; especially if you are not a couple.

Yet, I get a feeling that men who do those things are players. I could be wrong, and I never said my opinion came from Mt. Sinai, it just gives me a certain impression.

I have also noticed certain women on different dating sites as I browsed through them. It is as if they are on every site out there. They look desperate, and turn me off as a guy.

I think it is best to be on one site. Two at the very most. If you are having no luck, then shut it down and move on.

well, in the course of ,,,a decade or so, I have certainly signed on to my fair share of sites. Most, you have to make a profile to even look.

I have not bothered to ,,unsubscribe, or whatever it is called,, but I am not active on any of them and cant remember most of their names.

I have two that I like to go to now, this one (mostly for the forums, havent had much luck in the potential friend area), the other for the selection of potential friends(or more).

Trust No one

Thats wat i was thinkin!

Seriously, online, its good to be cautious, but not so good to be paranoid.

If YOU were to go out with-me,,and we talked about that.
YOU would see that I am a member of many single sites.
So much so,lol,that my in-box on Yahoo mail, has over 20,000 emails from ladies who said something to me, or a wink, a hi to me?
BUT,,,,I have never killed my profiles on them.
When I came HERE, I also joined about six or seven other sites.
NOW,,,,,I never went BACK into THEM,as I stayed on here,,,ONLY.
my only talking to and meeting anyone has been here...
So YOU might feel and THINK,,I was a hell of a player or dater anyway,,,based on THAT....so then I would say.
One must know ALL the facts before jumping to their conclusions.
As to if I met dated and decided WE were ALL-THAT...
I would delete me in each, and IF,,,,I say IF,she was uncomfortable with me and HER,,,visiting this place,,,I would leave HERE as well...as once we became a WE,,,,,THIS would be my only asking as to what and how she felt if WE STAYED on as a COUPLE here...?
Wow,,,I TYPE WAY to much......

i don't want to feel the need to check on someone

then brush off that feeling - for you don't need to check on anyone, ya just wanna

One never really knows

I love a freak